Ukubona ubuntu bomuntu kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo kuyisimo esikhethekile se-psychophysical, enkambweni futhi ngenxa yalokho isihloko sithinteka noma siphikisana nabanye. Izenzo ezinjalo zingashukunyiswa yisidingo sokuvikelwa kwengqondo .
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Okokuqala, ukuhlolwa okungazi lutho kufakwe ngumuntu ngomzamo wokulinganisa nokufaniswa, lokhu kuyindlela ebalulekile yokusebenza kwengqondo yentuthuko evamile kusukela ebuntwaneni. Okusho ukuthi ukuziqhenya komunye nomunye (noma abanye) kugcizelela ukufaniswa nokugcwaliswa kwezimfanelo zento yokulingisa.
Lokhu kwenzeka kanjani?
Ukubonakaliswa kobuntu kwenzeka ngokulingisa okungazi lutho.
Ukubona kuyindlela elula yokuthuthukiswa, ethatha umthwalo wemfanelo kuphela (umqondo uwukuthi: "Ngenza ngale ndlela, futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso ngoba iziphathimandla zibalulekile kimi"). Ngokushesha lapho ithuba langempela lokuzikhethela okuzimele (ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka nokuqondisa) kwendlela yentuthuko kubonakala, ukuhlonza umuntu (ngokuqondile, ukuzikhethela) kuqala ukuphazamisa ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu.
Abaningi bazama ukungena ekuzimele ngenxa yokuphila kwabo bonke - bayakhululekile, akudingeki bacabange futhi banqume. Isimo lapho ukuzisiza okuphambene nentuthuko kuthiwa ukuhlukaniswa komuntu, ngamanye amazwi, ingxabano ejulile, yangaphakathi . Isimo esinjalo singabangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Ubuntu, njengoba buhlukaniswa phakathi kokubili, okuphikisana nomunye nomunye.
Izikhathi ezihlelekile
Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu ubonakala engekho nabanye abantu, kodwa nganoma yikuphi ukunyakaza noma amabhizinisi ahlelwe ngokuvumelana nemigomo yokuziphatha, engokomoya noma yokukhiqiza (izinkolo ezahlukene, amaqembu, ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini yamabhizinisi ebhizinisi). Ezimweni ezinjalo, ubuntu bubhekana nokukhubazeka okhethekile, kodwa umuntu wangempela uphoqeleka ukuba angazi lutho. Ngakho-ke, kungase kube khona ushintsho ekukhoneni kobuntu bomuntu (isibonelo, abazali bayinjiniyela, futhi indodana noma indodakazi ingudokotela noma izazi-mlando zobuciko). Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyindlela evamile yomuntu ngamunye. Ukuzibonakalisa kuyisibonakaliso sabantu abathuthukile, into eyinhloko yukuthi umuntu ngamunye akatholi umlingiswa omncane owodwa.