Amaphupho we-overtones asondelene asekubhekwa njengengenalo uthando nothando, isifiso sokuqaphela izifiso zabo eziyimfihlo kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, amaphupho ahlukumezayo avela emadodeni nakwabesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi baneminyaka yobudala nobwaneliseka ngokocansi. Izinyathelo ezimbalwa ezinengqondo zizosiza ukuqonda ukubonakala nokubaluleka kwaloluhlobo lwama-night dream.
Kuyini iphupho eliyingozi?
Izinto ezinjalo ziyingxenye engalawuliwe yokuphila komuntu, nakuba kubhekwa njengeqiniso. Uhlaka lwezokuziphatha alukho ezimweni ezinjalo, ngakho-ke lungaba yiqiniso, lugxeke, lugxeke futhi luyesabe. Into yokucabanga ingaba ngabantu bangempela noma abalingiswa abaqanjiwe (amaqhawe amafilimu nezincwadi). Kunoma yikuphi, amaphupho ahlukumezayo awaphambani nokujwayelekile. Ziningi kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kodwa uvakashele umuntu kulo lonke ukuphila ngokujwayelekile, kungakhathaliseki isimo somshado, ukuntuleka nokukhona komlingani wezocansi.
Kungani uphupha amaphupho angenangqondo?
Ngokuvamile, kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi, amaphupho ahlukumezayo ahlelwa umcimbi onobungozi bobulili. Ngemva kokujwayele ukushayela ucingo, ifilimu, umsebenzi wokubhala kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuthandwayo, imizwelo eqoqiwe ingaholela ekubonweni "okuthakazelisayo" ebusuku. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngale ndlela, ingqondo enganakwa yomuntu ishintsha isikhathi eside sokungathintana naye ngokocansi, futhi uma kwenzeka amaphupho angenangqondo ehambisana nomongo owodwa ephupha njalo, umuntu angakhuluma ngezifiso ezifihlekile. Uma impilo ejwayelekile noma yisiphi isifiso singavunyelwe, kunethuba eliphakeme lokuthi lizothatha ngendlela yokulala.
Amaphupho e-Erotic of Freud
Ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, ekuphupheni kwemicabango, njengokunye kunoma yikuphi, izidingo ezifihlekile zivezwe ngokucacile. Zingazifihla njengezithombe, ziguqulwe noma zibukeke njengezifiso zomuntu ezicacile. USigmund Freud wayekholelwa ukuthi uma iphupho elinomqondo wobulili liphupha, lokhu akuyona ingozi evamile, futhi lokho okungahle kwenzeke empeleni kuyaphuma ngokungaqondakali kaningi kunalokho. Lokhu akusebenzi nje kuphela ekuphileni okusondelene. Ukuzama ukuthola ukuthi kusho ukuthini iphupho eliyingozi, kufanele liphathwe njengephupho elivamile.
Ungabangela kanjani iphupho elidangayo?
Umbono webusuku kungenzeka ukuthi awutholi lutho ngeqiniso, kodwa ngomzamo wokuzama izinto ezintsha futhi ujule ngokwengeziwe ekucabangeni kwakho, abantu baqala ukuzibuza ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani iphupho lokuziphendulela. Kulesi simo, izimo ezimbili zibalulekile: ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokuba ulale, kudingeka ubale itiye, ikhofi nophuzo oludakayo, ukwaneliswe ukudla okudliwayo, ugweme ukuguqulwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, futhi ulale futhi - uhambe ngendlela efanele futhi uzibandakanye emibonweni yokucabanga . Kubalulekile ukuveza ngokucacile lesi simo nomlingani ozohlala naye.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma nginamaphupho angenangqondo?
Abantu abavame ukuphupha ngamaphupho ahlukumezayo, bajwayele lesi simo. Ungesabi ukubonakaliswa kwayo kokuqala, kodwa uma lowo ophupha ekhathazeka ngokuziphatha kwakhe siqu kumaphupho anjalo, futhi okwenzekayo kuqala ukucindezeleka, inkinga ingasombululwa ngokuyibuka ngaphandle. Konke okwenzekayo kubhaliwe encwadini, bese kuhlaziywa, kungafaki imizwelo kanye nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili. Phezulu kuvela zonke izinkathazo kanye nezinselele ezivezwe emifanekisweni ejabulisayo. Mhlawumbe, amaphupho ahlukumezayo abonisa ukungabi nothando, ukunganeliseki nomlingani - khona-ke isisombululo senkinga sibonakala.
Ungabhubhisa kanjani amaphupho ahlukumezayo?
Uma isizathu sitholakala, futhi inkinga ayinqanyuliwe, ungasesha isisombululo sayo kuwe. Amaphupho aPiquant (ikakhulukazi amaphupho angamaqhawe wesifazane) avame ukusizwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo nokucabanga. Umuntu ngokwakhe uhlakulela ukubukeka kwawo ngezocansi, isibonelo, ukubukela amabhayisikobho othando ebusuku noma ukufunda amanoveli angenangqondo. Ikhwalithi yokuphumula ebusuku kuzosiza ekuthuthukiseni uhambo jikelele kusuka ezweni langaphandle. Okungenani ihoreni udinga ukususa wonke amagajethi, beka eceleni incwadi bese ulahla ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupho okuhlukumeza
Uma amaphupho aseduze akuwona uphawu lokukhathala, ukunganeliseki, isifiso, ungazama ukubanika incazelo, njengoba ejwayelekile kakhulu. Ubusuku nobudlova bungaba yisibonakaliso sokuthi umuntu uzama ukukhululeka ekucindezelweni empilweni yangempela futhi usekulungele ukusebenzisa amandla ukuqeda inkinga. Ukuphuka kobulili emphakathini kubonisa ukungaboni kahle, futhi izigcawu zokwaneliseka zibonisa ukuzethemba okuphansi. Ukuzama ukuqonda amaphupho amaphupho angenangqondo mayelana nothando lwama-lesbian, ungacabangi ukuthi lokho kubonakaliswa ukuthambekela kobungqingili, empilweni nje akukho ukwethembeka okwanele.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuvela kanjani amafihlakalo emfihlakalo ezweni likaMorpheus, akudingeki asatshwe. Izibalo ezilula: amaphupho anezinhloso zobulili zingama-10%. Abantu abadala bababona okungenani kanye ngenyanga futhi lokhu akubonisi ukukhathazeka noma "ukungavamile". Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuqaphela lokho abakubona empilweni yangempela nomlingani futhi ngaleyo ndlela bahlukanise futhi bahlobise impilo yabo ebuseduze. Kusukela konke kungenzeka ukuzuza, uma uqonda izindlela kanye nezimbangela.