O, bangaki amadoda azibuza ngalokho abesifazane abakucabangayo? Abaningi babo ngisho nakusihlwa nabangane babezozidela ukuze bathole ukuthi kwenzekani enhloko yabathandekayo.
Abesifazane bacabanga kanjani?
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo ngalokho abesifazane abakucabangayo, kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuthi yini ehlukanisa uhlobo lwesifazane lokucabanga kusuka kwendoda. Esikhathini esifanayo, imicabango yabesifazane izohluka emicabangweni yabantu. Futhi akusiyo ukuthi umuntu uhlakaniphile, kodwa othile uyisicoco, amadoda nabesifazane nje banendlela ehlukene yokucabanga.
Amadoda aqondakalayo abandakanyeka kakhulu ekuhlaleni kwesokunxele kwengqondo, okubasiza ekwakheni uchungechunge olucacile lwezenzo endleleni eya emgomweni. Uma umuntu ebhekene nomgomo, cishe yonke imicabango yakhe izogxila ezindleleni zokufeza lo mgomo. Futhi, amadoda afisa ukucabanga ngenxa yenqubo uqobo, ezihlokweni ezingabonakali ngokoqobo, ngakho-ke kukhona abameleli abaningi besigamu esiphezulu sabantu phakathi kwamafilosofi.
Futhi yiziphi izithandani ezithinta abesifazane? Kulungile, kucabangela. Ngakho-ke, imicabango yowesifazane ngeke iphendule umbuzo owodwa - uzoba nesikhathi sokucabanga ngombiko wonyaka, nokuthi yiziphi izicathulo ezithenga ngo-Mashi 8, nokuthi yini indoda yakhe ezokondliwa ngayo namuhla. Amantombazane angathandi ukuthuthukisa imiyalelo yesinyathelo ngezinyathelo ukuze afinyelele umgomo, abona isithombe esiphezulu futhi azi ukuthi angenelela nini. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile izenzo zebesifazane zibonakala zingavumelani, zingathandani ngokuphelele. Kukhona ngisho nesisho esithi "abesifazane abacabangi, bahlela." Ngoba ukuzindla ngendaba yokuthula komhlaba noma mayelana nefilosofi yakudala ye-Kant iningi lamantombazane awunesithakazelo - lokhu ngeke kubasize nganoma iyiphi indlela emhlabeni jikelele. Kodwa ukuze uhlele inhlanganisela enkulu ukuze uthole inzuzo ebonakalayo kuwe, kufana nesifazane.
Ingabe kuyamangaza ukuthi ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokucabanga, amadoda nabesifazane abakwazi ukuqonda? Ukusiza labesifazane ngale ndlela, uSteve Harvey (owaziwa kumethuli we-US TV ohlelweni ngesimo sengqondo sobulili) wabhala incwadi ethi "Yenzani njengowesifazane, cabanga njengomuntu". Kulo mlobi ufundisa abesifazane ukuba baqonde abameleli besigamu esiphezulu sabantu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo banxusa ukuba bangatholi indlela yokuziphatha yabesilisa. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane uzohlale ehlala owesifazane, kodwa uzosindiswa kusukela ochungechungeni lokudumazeka okuhambisana nemibono eyiphutha ngomuntu wesilisa.
Abesifazane bacabanga ngani ngocansi?
Ngaphambi kwalokho, sikhulume ngokuxhumana kwabesifazane ngokujwayelekile, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke sinesithakazelo ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Futhi-ke, sinesithakazelo sokwazi ukuthi abesifazane bacabangani ngocansi.
- Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuxosha inkolelo yokuthi abesifazane abacabangi ngobulili kaningi, futhi ukuzindla okunjalo kuyingqayizivele kuphela kwabesilisa abanobudlova. Ngokusho kwemiphumela yombono, abesifazane bacabanga ngocansi cishe izikhathi ezingu-34 phakathi nosuku lokusebenza, cishe cishe yonke imizuzu engu-15. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abangama-70% abaxoxwa nabo bathi bachitha imali yokucabanga ngocansi cishe ihora nsuku zonke.
- Uma abantu bethola lokho abesifazane abakucabangayo, ngesikhathi sezocansi, bazozibopha. Uma umuntu ecabanga ngesikhathi socansi mayelana nenqubo, khona-ke lona wesifazane okwamanje angamnaka umthandi futhi acabange ngezinto ezingenakulinganiswa - mayelana nalokho okudingeka kwenziwe namuhla, ukuthi umbhede udala kanjani futhi lokho omakhelwane abakucabangayo ngakho. Ingxenye yesithathu yabesifazane iveza ngezikhathi ezithile isayithi lomlingani wayo enye indoda, abanye baze bakhohlwe futhi babize igama lomngane wabo.
- Abesifazane abahlale bebona umshado njengento eqhubekayo yobulili, izingane kanye nabazukulu.
Amantombazane ayazi futhi ukuthi anga ocansini ngenxa yenkambiso, futhi esikhathini sethu, amantombazane eneminyaka engu-16 kuphela ahlambalaza ngendaba yothando ka Edward noBella ayathinteka kakhulu ngokweqile kokuthandana. Cishe abangu-33% wabaphenduli bathi banomthelela we "911", ngokusho ukuthi bangaba nobani, uma "umzimba udinga". - Cishe ingxenye yesithathu yabesifazane ayinelisekile ngokuphila kwabo obuseduze, futhi ukuguqula kugwema umkhuba, umqondo wemfanelo kanye nezinye zamorochki ezingenangqondo.
Futhi ekugcineni: imicabango yowesifazane omuhle ayikwazi ukuqondwa yinoma yimuphi umuntu, futhi uma kungenzeka, wayezoqothuka - izimbangi azidingi ukuncintisana.