Ake sibeke umbuzo ongalindelekile kubaningi: ukunikezela izinga elihle. Futhi yini, ngokujwayelekile, ichaza lo mqondo.
Ekuboneni kokuqala, ukuzinikezela kungcono kakhulu ukuthi ukubonakaliswa okuphezulu kakhulu kwezimfanelo zabantu, ukuzimisela ukudela izithakazelo zakho ukuze kuzuze abanye. Izingqinamba zegama elithi "ukungabi nalutho" zingaba "umhlatshelo" futhi "ukuzidela."
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, incazelo yegama lokuzidela "ukuziphika." Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukuphila kuyisipho esikhulu kunazo zonke, ingabe kuhle ukuwuphonsa eceleni? Uma ungazitholi ngokwakho, kungenzeka yini ukunikeza uthando oluqotho kwabanye abantu? Futhi ukuzidela akuyona uhlobo lokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukuzama ukuphakama ngaphezu kwabanye. Sizokukhuluma ngalokhu namuhla.
Izibonelo zokuzinikezela
Ukubonakaliswa okuphakeme kakhulu kokuzidela kuyithando lomama wengane yakhe. Cishe noma yimuphi umama, ngaphandle kokungabaza, uzozidela impilo yakhe, futhi, mhlawumbe, impilo yakhe uma kudingeka. Akunjalo ngoba akayithokozi impilo yakhe. Kodwa ngoba uthando lwakhe lunamandla kangangokuthi injabulo yothandekayo igcwalisa owesifazane onamandla akhethekile. Akacabangi ukuthi ungaphezu kwento ethile, ngoba ukuzithoba kwakhe kungokwemvelo. Ngokwezinga elithile, kuletha injabulo.
Omunye ulungele ukunikela impilo yakhe ngomuntu othandekayo, futhi lokhu kuveza kuphela ukubonakaliswa kwamandla othando.
Abacimi bomlilo bafaka ukuphila kwabo engozini ngokulondoloza abanye abantu, kodwa kubo umqondo wokuzidela awuhambiswanga phambili - umsebenzi wansuku zonke lapho umuntu enza khona, uma kungenzeka, ngokukhubaza imizwelo. Ngemizwelo enqanyuliwe, udokotela ohlinzayo uchitha amahora amaningi ekudambiseni ukusebenza kwakhe, futhi, mhlawumbe, ngezinye izikhathi ekugxileni kwakhe ukugxilisa injabulo.
Kodwa-ke, naphezu kokuzinikezela, njengokwesibonelo, ukwethembeka kanye nokuziphatha okuphakeme, sikhuphukele esikhundleni sobukhosi, le mfanelo inemininingwane ecacile yezinto eziphilayo. Ngokwemvelo, singakwazi ukubuka i-analogue yokuziphatha ezinyosi, ezibhubhayo, ezishaya isitha esingaba khona. Kodwa-ke, incazelo yalesi sifo iwukukhula kumuntu ohlukumezekile ngenxa yokwesaba abanye abantu bezinhlobo zazo bese ulondoloza inyosi yonke. Ngokufanayo, lapho owesifazane osemusha efa, insikazi isindisa izakhi zayo. Ngokuthuthukiswa kokuphila, amandla othando aguqukile. Uma izinyane lamangwenya lingabi ngothando lomama onamazinyo, olulondoloza kahle inzalo (omama abaningi abanakekela izilwane eziningi eziphilayo eziphefumulayo ziphela ngokushesha ngemuva kokuba insikazi ibeke amaqanda), ingane yomuntu iyayithanda futhi iyamamukela unina. Ososayensi bafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi izimpande zokuzidela nokuzidela zizokwenzela ukunakekela inzalo kanye nezakhi zofuzo zazo. Lezi zinhlanzi njengokuthi, ukuzimisela kwenja yokunikela impilo yakhe ibe yinkosi, kubhekwa njengento ethi "umphumela wecala".
Ukuzitshela wena?
Kodwa ake sibuyele kwenye uhlobo lokuzidela. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu ngokuzithandela uzibeka e-altare lezifiso zabanye abantu, noma ngabe akekho ocela umhlatshelo onjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuzidela okunjalo kungaba umthwalo, kepha oye wanquma "ukuphilela abanye" ngokuqhubekayo uyaqhubeka nokunciphisa
Kulokhu, ukungabi nandaba kupheka ukuthi okungenani kulungile, kokubili ngokombono wezinto eziphilayo kanye nombono wezimfanelo zokuziphatha eziphakeme. Kunalokho, kuyisimo sokuzibhubhisa, ukugqugquzelwa okungabangela ukungaqondi ngisho nezifo ezingokwengqondo. Uthando nenhlonipho kuphela (kuqala kokubili-kithi) kungenza izwe lethu libe ngcono.