Ukuphikisana kuyisimo esiyingqayizivele sobudlelwane bomuntu, esibonakala umzabalazo wokuthile okubalulekile: amandla, udumo, ukuqashelwa, uthando, ukuchuma kwempahla, njll. Ukuphila komuntu wesimanje ngezici eziningi kwakhelwe emncintiswaneni. Namuhla, imincintiswano ibanjwe kuzo zonke izindawo - ezemidlalo, nasebucikweni, nasemndenini, kanye nabangani. Manje sekukholelwa ukuthi umuzwa wokuphikisana uwusizo ekuthuthukiseni lowo muntu, kodwa lokhu kuyinkinga ephikisana kakhulu.
Izinhlobo zokuncintisana
Kunezinhlobo ezimbili kuphela zokuphikisana, enye yazo isakhiwo, enye ishukumisayo. Umehluko kubo kubalulekile:
- Ukuphikisana kwezakhiwo kusho ukulwa okubaluleke ngempela, ngaphandle kwalokho okungenakwenzeka ukuhlala (isibonelo, ukulwa nokudla endle, njll).
- Ukuphikisana okugqugquzelayo kuphakama lapho udumo lobuqhawe luqala kuqala (isibonelo, njengokuncintisana kwezemidlalo - ukuqhuma phezulu kunokuba wonke umuntu akudingekile empilweni, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqashelwa komphakathi).
Akunzima ukuqagela ukuthi empilweni yomuntu kuningi lamacala sibona uhlobo lwesibili lokuphikisana. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi lowo onqobile, kubalulekile ukuthi abe nguye owodwa kuphela - indawo yokuqala ehlukanisa amaqembu amabili, eshiya abahlanganyeli bomunye wabo benganelisekile.
Umoya wokuncintisana nezinkinga ezihambisana nawo
Muva nje, ukuphikisana kwengqondo kuqale ukubhekwa njengento enhle, kodwa njengento engalungile. Izingqondo zabantu zigxile ekucabangeni ukuthi ukuphikisana kuyakhuthaza impumelelo entsha futhi ngokujwayelekile kuhle ukushiya lo mbono kwabanye kuzoba nzima kakhulu.
Ngenxa yokuthi kukhona ukuxabana empini, ebuhlotsheni nakwezinye izigaba zokuphila, abantu bathambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi bangayithola kanjani ukunqoba. Nokho, ngokuvamile ukulahlekelwa noma ukuphela kwezwe akubhekwa nhlobo, okuyinto inkinga enkulu. Abantu baqala ukuzwa ukuthi kumele babe abawinile, kumele bahlale bekulungile. Ngenxa yokuthi kuleli cala ukucatshangelwa kugcwaliswa ngokuvumelana nehlelo "ukunqoba kwami kusho ukulahlekelwa kwakho", okusho ukuthi abantu baziqhathanisa nabanye ngisho nasezimo lapho kungadingeki khona.
Iqhinga lezokuphikisana lenza kube lula ukubhekana nezithakazelo emzabalazweni wobunikazi bomuntu wokuqala, ngenxa yalokho abantu abangaboni njengendlela yokubambisana nabanye. Lokhu kwenza umphakathi wethu ube nobudlova futhi uqaphele omunye nomunye, okuyinto ngokwayo kuyinkinga.
Ukuphikisana - kuyadingeka?
Ukuphikisana, kanye nokubambisana - kuyingxenye yemvelo yomuntu, kodwa akuyona into engafanele, kodwa enjalo, okumele ifundwe ngenkambo yokuphila. Kukhona umbono wokuthi kwakungumoya wokuphikisana owasiza abantu ukuba basinde, kodwa kulula ukuqagela ukuthi empeleni indawo yokuqala isabambisana: uma abantu bengabambe iqhaza futhi bancintisane nabanye
Ezimweni eziningi, abantu banomlutha kakhulu ekuxabaneni ukuthi bayakhohlwa ngokuphelele ukuthi ezimweni eziningi, imiphumela emihle ingatholakala ngokubambisana nomunye umuntu. Isimo sengqondo sokuncintisana kuwo wonke umuntu siholela ezinkingeni eziningi ezingokwengqondo: umuntu akavumeli muntu ezweni lakhe langaphakathi, esaba ukuthi ubuthakathaka bakhe buzosetshenziswa ngokumelene naye. Lesi simo kufanele sigwenywe, ngoba ukuqapha ngokweqile kukuphoqa ukuba uhlale ungezwani, okungeke kube nomthelela omubi empilweni yesimiso sezinzwa.