Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuhlakanipha nomqondo yizimpawu ezimbili zomuntu oyedwa, kodwa empeleni lokhu kuyizinto ezihluke ngokuphelele. Kulesi simo, kuyoba kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuthi ungubani owesifazane ohlakaniphile, nokuthi yiziphi izimfanelo anazo. Ukuhlakanipha kubhekwa njengamandla amakhulu owesifazane okwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezahlukene futhi abhekane nezinkinga ezikhona.
Usho ukuthini owesifazane ohlakaniphile?
Ukuhlakanipha akusilo ithalenta elingenasisekelo, futhi wonke owesifazane ozocanshangelwa kahle angakufunda. Kunemithetho embalwa elula mayelana nokuthi owesifazane ohlakaniphile uziphatha kanjani:
- Kubalulekile ukwazi ukukhombisa ukuguquguquka kwezimo ezihlukene, okusho ukuthi, lapho udinga ukuqina khona, nalapho kudingeka khona - okulula.
- Kudingeka ukwazi ukulalela abanye futhi, okokuqala, indoda yakho. Lesi yisibonakaliso senhlonipho, okubaluleke kakhulu.
- Abaningi banesithakazelo saluhlobo luni lobuhlobo obesifazana ohlakaniphile, ngakho abamele abakwabulili abalungile abasoze babonisana nomlingani wabo ukuthi bahlakaniphile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi amadoda abe yinhloko yomndeni futhi athole ukuhlonishwa kwemfanelo yabo.
- Ikhwalithi ebalulekile yowesifazane ohlakaniphile ukukwazi ukuthethelela okhethiwe. Yiqiniso, lokhu akukhathaleli amacala amabi kakhulu, kepha ngenxa yezifo ezinjalo laba besifazane abacasuli. Ukuze ugweme izingxabano, uzoveza zonke izimangalo ngethoni ezolile, futhi angalungiseleli ukudambisa.
- Akalokothi enze iziphetho eziphuthumayo futhi akenzi izinqumo aze aqonde ngokuphelele isimo futhi athathe zonke izingozi.
- Uhlonipha okhethiweyo wakhe futhi uyamsekela kuzo zonke izimo, ngisho nalapho engalungile. Uyindoda engemuva lapho umuntu eyohlala ethola khona iseluleko. Ngokulandela owesifazane ohlakaniphile, indoda izobonisa izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle kakhulu.
- Awukwazi ukuzinikela ngokuphelele emndenini, ngoba owesifazane kufanele abe phezulu futhi abe yisibonelo kubantwana bakhe futhi abe ngumhle kumuntu. Kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa njalo nokuqapha ukubukeka kwakho.