Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ekubikezelweni kwezincwadi zephupho, ngoba umhlaba oyimfihlakalo wamaphupho ngezinye izikhathi ungasho ukuthi yini ongayilindela esikhathini esizayo. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungalindela yini inkathazo, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, konke kuzosebenza ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ngokucophelela zonke izici zombono bese uzihlaziya. Lena yindlela kuphela yokusho ngokuqiniseka okukhulu ukuthi umlilo womuzi womunye umuntu uphupha ngani, nokuthi ungakuqonda kanjani.
Umlilo nomusi babengakaze babhekwe njengezimpawu zento enhle, ngokuphambene nalokho, kuyisimo sezinkinga nezinkinga ezizayo.
Yini ongayilindela uma umlilo endlini engajwayelekile iphupho?
Okokuqala, zama ukukhumbula uma wazi empeleni abantu abahluphekile embonweni ovela emlilweni. Ngokuvamile iphupho elinjalo lithi umuntu kufanele axwayise abangane bakhe ngezinkinga ezizayo, ezixhunyaniswe nezinkinga zempahla, kanye nokubhujiswa okunokwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, uma izisulu zomlilo zijwayele kuwe, zixwayise mayelana nezinkinga ezingase ziqale konke ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Uma umuntu ebone iphupho ngomlilo endlini engajwayelekile nabantu abangakajwayele, lokhu kungase kube yisixwayiso kuye mayelana nokuqashwa kwabasebenzi okuzayo okungeke kube nakho okuhle. Kulesi simo, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi yini eyashiswa ngempela, nokuthi umlilo usakazeka kanjani. Ilangabi, uphahla kanye nokufakwa kwesakhiwo esamemezelwe, kusho ukuthi izishintshi emsebenzini zizophazamisa wonke umuntu, ngoba zizophuma "phezulu", okusho ukuthi zivela ku-CEO noma umnikazi wenkampani. Uma umlilo ungabonakali, kodwa umlilo utholakala kalula ngotshani obuningi, khona-ke inkulumo ingase ihambisane nezinguquko ezingathandeki kodwa ezincane.
Kungani uphupha ukukhipha umlilo endlini yomunye umuntu?
Kodwa leli phupho, nakuba lingeke lithathwe ngokuthi yizimpawu ezinhle, sekuyizibikezelo ezinhle kakhulu. Isakhiwo esinjalo sibonisa ukuthi inkathazo, yebo, izokwenzeka, kodwa iyoba yesikhashana. Lapho uhumusha ubuthongo, zama ukukhumbula ukuthi umlilo ususwe ngokuphelele yini, ngoba uma kwenzeka lokhu, zonke izinkinga zizoxazululwa ngesikhathi esifushane, futhi ngeke zibe nemiphumela.
Uma umuntu ngesikhathi ephusheni ngomlilo eqonda ukuthi ukushisa akukwazi ukutholakala endaweni, kungakhathaliseki yonke imizamo, kungacatshangwa ukuthi empilweni yakhe i- black streak izoqala futhi yonke imizamo yokushintsha isimo sibe ngcono. Lephupho yisixwayiso esithunyelwe kumuntu ukuze abe nesikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo futhi uthole isibindi ngaphambi kokuqala kwezinkinga. Uma uyibona, kufanele uthathe isinyathelo ukusiza
Ukuphupha umlilo endlini yomunye umuntu futhi ungazami ukwenza noma yini, kuyisibonakaliso esibi. Ngokuvamile umbono onjalo ubonisa ukuthi kuningi okufanele kubhekelwe kubantu, futhi banikeze isikhathi sokusiza izihlobo nabangane babo. Umlilo wendlu eyodwa ungaholela ekusakazeni komlilo, ngakho-ke uma ephusheni umuntu akazami ukwenza noma yini ukuze asize, futhi kusho isixwayiso ekukhulekeleni nasebugovu. Lezi zimfanelo zingalimaza, ngoba isimiso se-boomerang asikaxoshwa okwamanje.
Kodwa ukubona ukuthi impahla yomncintiswano noma umqhudelwano ishisa ephusheni, ngokuphambene, kuyosho ukunqoba okuphelele komuntu. Le ndaba ivame ukubonwa ngabamabhizinisi noma abathandi abaziyo ukuthi banomphikisi. Lo mbono uthembisa isixazululo esiyimpumelelo esimweni sokulwa. Ukumbona ungathembela ukuthi maduzane umphikisi uzolahlekelwa, kodwa uzowina.