Ngezinye izikhathi, umuntu ngamunye ubuyela engqondweni esikhathini esidlule, uyadabukisa futhi ukhumbula izikhathi zakudala. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngokukhethekile kubantu asebekhulile abaqonda ukuthi impilo idlulile, ukuthi sekwephuzile kakhulu ukuqala noma yini, futhi ihlala iwukucubungula ukuthi kwenzekani. Kuyini i-nostalgia - kulesi sihloko.
Nostalgia - kuyini?
Leli gama livela kwisiLatini futhi lihunyushwe ngokuthi "ukuxolisa eMlandland". Labo abanesithakazelo kulokho okushiwo yi-nostalgia, kufanele kuphendulwe ukuthi lo mzwelo ubulokhu ubhekwa njengesifo, ngoba amacala okufa ngokulangazelela ekhaya ajwayelekile. Ngesinye isikhathi wafundiswa udokotela waseSwitzerland I. Hofer. Waqaphela amasosha abagulayo nabafundi bephoqelelwe ukuba bahlale ngaphandle kwezwe, futhi baphawula ukuthi lapho bebuyela ekhaya bavele bafika. Kuze kube manje, leli gama lisetshenziselwa umuzwa ohlangenwe nakho okunye okuhlangenwe nakho ekuphileni.
Ingabe ukuthula kuhle noma kubi?
Leli gama alinakunikelwa umbala omuhle noma omubi. Ukulangazelela kungahlanganiswa nomzwelo wokungathembeki nokubekezela okubabazayo, futhi kungenza okuthakazelisayo nokuthakazelisayo. I-Nostalgia inhle, futhi izazi eziningi zengqondo ezifunda isimo sengqondo ngokuqondene nalesi simo emasikweni nasezinkolweni ezahlukene, ama-philosophical currents avumelana. Ukulangazelela, umuntu uqinisekisa ukuthi "I" wakhe, ukuxhunyaniswa nezinyathelo zokuqala zokuphila kuqinisa, ukuqhubeka kwezizukulwane kanye nemigomo ephakeme yokuziphatha nemagugu kuqala.
I-nostalgia ithinta kanjani impilo?
Ngesikhathi esabhekwa njengesiyaluyalu sengqondo, isici kuphela sabafuduki, isithonya sakhe esimweni somuntu sahlolwa njengento engalungile. Inkinga ye-nostalgia yukuthi ibonakaliswe ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka nokulala. Phakathi kwamasosha e-Napoleonic, lo mzwa wawuhambisana naleso sifo. Ezweni lanamuhla, umthelela walo emqondweni wesintu uhlolwe njengento enhle.
Kukholelwa ukuthi ukuxhaswa kwezikhathi ezedlule kuqinisa impilo, kuphakamisa ukuzethemba. Ukukhumbula ngabantu abaseduze, izenzakalo ezibalulekile noma ukubeka umuntu uzizwa ethanda futhi evikelwe, eqiniseka esikhathini esizayo. Akasengozini futhi unethemba ngekusasa. Ukulangazelela izinto ezedlule kusiza ukusinda isizungu futhi lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu asebekhulile, ekupheleni kokuphila, ngokuvamile ababhekana nokulahlekelwa okuncane , bahlale bodwa.
Nostalgia nokucindezeleka
Kodwa-ke, ukulangazelela izikhathi ezedlule, kulula kakhulu ukuwela ukukhathazeka nokudabuka, ngoba ufuna ukwazi ukuthi yikuphi ukukhumbula, kuyadingeka ukhumbule ukuthi lo mzwa uwubuwula kakhulu. Ukukhumbula, umuntu uvuselela okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwangaphambilini, engazalisi inkambo yezenzakalo ezedlule, kodwa ukuhlola kwakhe okuzithobayo kokwenzekile. Lona ukuphazamiseka okuyinhloko: abantu bayathukuthele futhi badabuke ngisho nasezenzweni ezesabekayo kakhulu ezedlule.
Zizwa ukuthi ukuxoshwa kungaba ukwehlukanisa noma ukuhlukanisa nomuntu othandekayo, izimo zokuphila ezinzima, ukungabi nemali. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuhle kangakanani okwamanje, ukulangazelela kuzobonakala sengathi kungcono kunakuqala, ngeke kube khona futhi kuwela ekucindezelekeni okunjalo, okungekho lula ukuphuma ngaphandle kosizo kwengqondo.
Nostalgia - kwenzekani?
- Izifo. Uma ufa ngenxa yobuhlungu, khona-ke lo mzwa uyisigaba sezifo ezibulalayo. Ngezikhathi ezithile amasosha aseSwitzerland emikhankasweni yangaphandle ayenqatshelwe ukudlala izingoma zawo zangempela, ukuze angabangeli ukuhlaselwa kokudabuka.
- Ukuzizwa ngombono njengokulangazelela okungagcwaliseki. Lolu hlobo luvame kakhulu kumadoda angathanda ukulungisa amaphutha ezedlule, kuyilapho abesifazane bekhumbula kuphela izikhathi lapho bejabula khona.
- Isimo sobumbano. Isazi sezengqondo saseMelika u-E. Erikson ukholelwa ukuthi umuntu ngamunye udlula impilo yakhe izigaba eziyisishiyagalolunye futhi u-nostalgia uyokugcina. Kulesi sigaba, isikhathi sokuzindla nokucabangela okudlule kuqala.
I-Nostalgia yesikhathi esedlule
Uma kukhona ukulangazelela izindawo zomdabu, khona-ke endlini entsha kubalulekile ukubeka isithombe sezihlobo zakho nabangane, othandekayo enhliziyweni yomhlaba. Ungahlala uxhumana nabo futhi ushayele, ubhale izincwadi, ukhulume nge-skype. Ukucela ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nobusuku besikhathi esidlule, ungeluleka ukuthi ungaqhubeki, ungaziniki isikhathi sokulangazelela, futhi ngekhanda lakho ukuya emsebenzini. Ngesikhathi sami sokuphumula, ujabule, uhlangane nabangani, ujabule. Phela, yikuphi ukukhumbula okusho ukudumazeka nokudabuka, ngakho-ke kudingeka ukwenze konke okubachitha.
I-nostalgia yobuntwana
Lo mzwa ujwayele wonke umuntu futhi uxhumeke endlini ebiza kakhulu, ukufudumala kwezandla zikamama, iziyalezo zikababa kanye namafutha ociko. Kuyacaca ukuthi uma ubudala behamba ngokungenakuqhathaniswa, abazali baguga, kanti lowo osanda kuba umntwana, uphoqeleka ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi axazulule ngokuzixazulula izinkinga zabo. Ukungena enkathini akuyona into embi. Kuyingozi kakhulu ukuthumelela konke okushiwo abazali abazali babo emntwaneni wabo, ngalokho abahlala khona, ngoba umuntu uphila, ngenkathi bemkhumbula. Izihlahla zozalo zithandwa kakhulu futhi kuhle.
Kuyini intukuthelo yomuntu?
Kwenzeka ukuthi unamathele kakhulu kumuntu odlala indima ebalulekile empilweni. Indoda noma umfazi oyintandokazi, umama noma umeluleki usekela futhi usize, unikeza iseluleko, kodwa ngesizathu esithile lokhu kuxhumene kuphukile. Kusobala ukuthi ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngaphandle kokusekelwa okunjalo kunzima kakhulu futhi kukhona ubuhlobo bobuhlobo. Umuntu ngamunye uhlangabezana nale nkathi ngendlela yakhe, kodwa kukhona othile noma into evuselela, inikeza amandla nesifiso sokuqhubekela phambili, ngisho negama lenkumbulo yalowo owayeseduze.
Indlela yokubhekana nostalgia?
Uma lo mzwelo ovulekile futhi ofudumele, ke ungamelani nalezi zinkumbulo. Kubalulekile ukutshela isiphetho sokubonga ngalolu phiko futhi uqhubeke. Uma umuzwa onamandla wokuzondla uletha ubuhlungu obukhulu, ubuhlungu nokudabuka, khona-ke udinga ukuthola isisusa - into okufanele uqhubeke uhlala kuyo. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukusiza labo ababi kakhulu, abasesimweni esinzima. Ungaphendukela kuNkulunkulu ukuze uthole usizo futhi uthole iseluleko sompristi. Noma yikuphi inceku yesonto iyosho ukuthi ukudelelwa yisono futhi uvumelane kuyo kusho ukujabulisa uDeveli.
Ukuphila kunikezwa kanye kuphela futhi uma uhlala njalo esikhathini esidlule, awukwazi ngisho ukubona okwamanje. Ngenxa yokuthi ukukhathazeka kuyadabukisa ngezikhathi ezedlule, kodwa esikhathini esithile umzuzu wamanje uzoba owedlule futhi umuntu uzoqala ukuzisola futhi. Futhi-ke, siphile nini? Futhi umuntu kufanele aphile lapha futhi manje, ajabule ngosuku lonke olusha futhi sibonge isiphetho futhi uNkulunkulu ngalokho akunikezayo.