Kudinga umzamo omkhulu, ukubekezela nokusebenza ukukhulisa ingane ngokwakho. Ngesinye isikhathi, izingane zabomama abangashadile zazinghushiswa yontanga nabadala. Ingane engenapapa ibhekwa njengento ehlazo owesifazane, futhi kwakungekho nkulumo yokusiza izingane zomama abangabodwa. Kodwa, naphezu kokuthi izikhathi nezimo zishintshile, akuwona wonke owesifazane ongakwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimela impilo yakhe yonke. Umbuso ngamunye uhlinzeka usizo kwabantwana bomama abangabodwa, ukukhokhela izinzuzo zabantwana kanye nokunikeza izinzuzo.
Kodwa izinkinga ezibhekene nabantwana bomama abangashadile azihlangani ngaso sonke isikhathi nesimo sezinto ezibonakalayo. Kunzima kakhulu owesifazane oyedwa ukukhulisa umfana ongenabo ubaba, ngokuvamile umama uphazamisa amadodana abo noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, bazame ukucindezela ngokuphelele ubuntu babo. Ekugcineni, ubudlelwane nabanye benziwa ngokusekelwe ekutheni imodeli yokuziphatha ihlelwe kanjani, kudala izinkinga ekukhulumisaneni noontanga. Izinkinga ezifanayo zingavela emantombazaneni akhuliswa ngaphandle komama. Ukulondoloza ingane ezinkingeni ezinjalo kuyadingeka, ngosizo lwesazi sengqondo esihle, ukuthuthukisa imodeli yokuziphatha nengane engakwazi ukukhokhela ukungabi khona komunye wabazali. Izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi izinkinga zezezimali ezingabhekana nomama ongayedwa kanye nezingane zakhe. Yiqiniso, umthetho uhlinzeka usizo nokusekelwa kwengane kubomama abangashadile, kodwa, okokuqala, akuwona wonke umuntu owazi ngamalungelo abo, futhi okwesibili, ukuze uthole imali encane, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uchithe isikhathi esiningi namandla. Noma kunjalo uyazi ukuthi ungaluthola kanjani usizo nokuthi ungalufinyelela kanjani ngeke lube luhle kakhulu.
Ubani obhekwa njengomama ongashadile?
Okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ubani obhekwa njengomama ongashadile. Lesi simo sibalulekile ukuze uthole usizo lombuso kumama ongayedwa.
E-Ukraine, isimo somama ongayedwa sitholwa ngabesifazane abakhulisa ngokuzithandela ingane, uma nje ingane ingazalwanga emshadweni, ubaba wengane ubhalisiwe ngamazwi omama noma ngenxa yokuhlolwa kwe-forensic. Uma umama ongashadile eshadile, kodwa umyeni omusha akaqapheli ubuso, khona-ke isimo sihlala. Abafelokazi nabo bathola lesi simo.
ERussia, isimo somama ongashadile sinikezwa uma ingane ingashadile, noma izinsuku ezingu-300 ngemuva kokuqedwa komshado, noma kungabikho ukuhlonishwa okuzithandela kokuzalwa komuntu. Uma kwenzeka umfowenu efa, isimo asibelwe, futhi ingane yomama ayikhokhwa ingane eyodwa.
Ukusiza omama abangashadile
Ukuthola umama kamama ongashadile kuyadingeka ukuqoqa amadokhumende bese ufaka isicelo neziphathimandla zokuvikela umphakathi endaweni yokuhlala. Kusukela ngenyanga yesicelo kuze kube yilapho ingane ifika eminyakeni engu-16 (uma ingane ingumfundi oneminyaka engu-18 ubudala), umama ongayedwa uyothola ukusekelwa kwengane futhi ajabulele izinzuzo ezinikezwe ngumthetho. Usizo kumama abangabodwa abanezingane eziningi likhokhiswa ngokwezinye, ngokuya ngesimo sezimali kanye nenani labantwana. Izinzuzo umama ongayedwa ongumama onabantwana ababili nazo zihlolwe ngabanye.
Kokubili eRussia nase-Ukraine kunenzuzo yabomama abangashadile enkulisa nasesikolweni. Okuphoqelekile ukunciphisa ukukhokhelwa kwemali esikhwameni sesikhungo semfundo. Ngesinye isikhathi kunikelwa ukudla okukhululekile, ezinkulisa zikhona imigqa yokukhetha.
Ngaphandle kosizo lwezezimali, imithetho inikeza izinzuzo kubomama abangabodwa emkhakheni wezabasebenzi. Okokuqala, umthetho we-Ukraine neRussia ubeka umthwalo wabaqashi ngokuhlinzeka imisebenzi kwabomama abangashadile, ngisho nalapho kwenzeka ukukhishwa kwamabhizinisi. Ngokufanayo, umqashi akanalo ilungelo lokunciphisa umama wendawo eyodwa yokusebenza ngokungenangqondo noma ngenxa yokunciphisa abasebenzi.
Ukucatshangelwa okuhlukile kwekhefu labomama abangashadile. ERussia, ilungelo lomama ongayedwa lihlinzekwa ngezinsuku eziyi-14 ezingekhokhelwa zekhefu elengeziwe ngonyaka, okungahlanganiswa nekhefu elikhokhelwe noma elisetshenziswe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Izinsuku ezingasetshenziswanga zonyaka ongeke zithathwe. E-Ukraine, omama abangabodwa banelungelo lezinsuku ezingu-7 ezengeziwe zekhefu elikhokhelwayo. Uma ikhefu elengeziwe lingasetshenziswanga phakathi nonyaka, lihlehliselwa unyaka olandelayo. Ekuxoseni zonke izinsuku ezingasetshenzisiwe zekhefu elengeziwe zikhokhwa. Ngaphandle kosizo oluchazwe ngumthetho kahulumeni, edolobheni ngalinye kungase kube nezinzuzo ezengeziwe.
Ngokuvamile omama abangashadile abazi ngamalungelo abo. Ukuze bathole usizo lwezwe ngokugcwele, abesifazane kufanele bafunde imithetho ehlinzekela ukukhokha izinzuzo kanye nokuhlinzekwa kwezinzuzo. Kuzoba usizo nasesikhungweni sosizo lwezenhlalakahle endaweni yokubhalisa ukuthola iseluleko ngokuhlinzeka ngosizo ngezimo ngabanye.
Omama abangabodwa bangenye yezingxenye ezingaphephile ezingenakuvikeleka emphakathini, ngakho kufanele bazi kahle futhi bakwazi ukusebenzisa amalungelo anikeziwe. Phela, emahlombe abo besifazane abuthakathaka, yibo kuphela ababhekene nokuphila nezingane.