Ngesinye isikhathi isazi sengqondo safika kowesifazane futhi sabuza umbuzo:
- Ngitshele ukuthi kusuka nini lapho uqala ukukhulisa ingane?
"Uneminyaka emingaki manje?" Wabuzwa umqondo wezokwelapha.
- iminyaka engu-2,5.
- Ngakho-ke, uneminyaka engu-2.5 ubuyele kahle kakhulu.
Le ndaba emfushane, kodwa efundisa kakhulu ihilela cishe wonke umama. Abazali bethu kusukela ekuzalweni kwethu bephupha ngokusenza sigcwele ubuntu. Futhi manje thina, thina, njengabazali, sibonakalisile, kanjani ukukhulisa ingane enhle?
Ayikho imithetho ehlanganisiwe emfundweni. Kuzo zonke izizwe, isiko, umphakathi womndeni kanye nomndeni owodwa, kunezinkolelo zokukhuliswa, ezihlala zikopishwa futhi zithunyelwa ngesizukulwane. Ngamanye amazwi, ukukhuliswa okwakusetshenziswe kithi kanye nemiphumela yendlela abakhulu-ugogo nomkhulu bethu bakhuliswa ngayo. Kodwa-ke, omama banamuhla bayaqhubeka befuna izindlela eziqhubekayo zokuxazulula inkinga yemfundo ezinganeni zobuntu obuqinile nokuzimela. Kulokhu, umbuzo wokukhulisa ingane ngokunembile udinga ukucubungula ngokucophelela.
Yeka ukuthi ungazala kanjani izingane?
Ake siqale ngezibonelo ezimbi. Ngeshwa, zonke izizukulwane zabazali benza amaphutha, bezama ukukhulisa isizukulwane esisha ngesibonelo sabo. Ake sihlaziye la maphutha ukuze bangalokothi bazibophezele.
Ungazala kanjani izingane:
- Khumbula - ingane yakho, lo muntu oyedwa. Ungalindeli ukuthi uzofana nawe, futhi ungawudingi kuye. Izibonelo ezanele zendlela abazali abangazange bazibonele ngayo izinhlelo zabo zokuphila babhubhise izingane zabo.
- Ungathathi ukukhathala, ukufutheka nokucasula kwengane yakho. Ngenxa yalokho, usengozini yokuthola ubuntu obucindezelekile, ukungavikeleki nokungagcwaliseki empilweni.
- Ungase uhleke ukwesaba kwengane yakho futhi ungamesabi ngokwakho. Phakade ukhohlwe imishwana efana nale: "Uma uziphatha kabi, ngizokunika lowo malume." Lokho umuntu omdala abonakala engenangqondo yengane kuyinkinga yangempela. Ukuze ungakhulumi neurasthenic ekhaya lakho, fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ingesabi futhi ikwazi ukulwa nokumesaba.
- Ungavumeli ingane ukuba yenze lokho ayithandayo. Masibe ngumklami, umbuthano womshini omncane, noma into engafaneleki nemibono yakho mayelana nokuthi ingane yakho kufanele ibe njani. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungumuntu ohlukile onentshisekelo yakhe, futhi awunalo ilungelo lokumemezela imigomo yakhe kuye.
- Ungagxeki. Uma esikhundleni sokusekela nokuqinisa inkolelo kuwe, uzobe usendlini yezimbongolo zokuphatha ukugxeka kwengane nokungazithembi, ngenxa yalokho, usengozini yokuthola ubuntu obumpunga ngobukhulu obuncane obuphansi.
Esihlokweni esithi "njengoba kungadingekile" kunezibonelo eziningi. Futhi kungcono uma ungalokothi uhlangabezane nalezi zibonelo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ezingeni lokuqala zokuthuthukiswa kwengane yakho ukuthola impendulo yombuzo wokukhulisa ingane ngaphandle kokujeziswa futhi imenze umuntu wangempela?
Indlela yokufundisa umuntu enganeni?
Ukwakhiwa komuntu komuntu kuyinkqubo ende, ingathonywa kuze kube yilapho umuntu ephenduka iminyaka engu-23 ubudala. Noma kunjalo, isisekelo sayo yonke imfundo senziwa iminyaka emine. Njengomthetho, konke owakwazi ukukutshala emntwaneni wakho ngaphambi kweminyaka engamashumi amane, ngenxa yalokho, ungene ekugugeni kwakhe.
Ukuhlinzeka izingane zakho ngengqondo yengqondo, udinga ukuhlangabezana ngokugcwele nesidingo sezingane sokudlala nabantu abadala:
- Ngabantwana kusukela ngonyaka kuya ku-1.5, yenza imidlalo engaphansi (ukuxubha, amathoyizi athambile, matryoshkas, imidlalo nefosholo kwi-sandbox).
- Esikhathini esivela eminyakeni eyi-1.5 ukuya kweyesi-3, imidlalo yokudlala izoba efaneleka kakhulu (ukubeka idoli ukulala, ukondla unina, njll).
- Izingane ezineminyaka engu-3 ubudala noma ngaphezulu zizokwamukela ngenjabulo imidlalo yendima (ukudlala esibhedlela, ukuyothenga, ukuvakashela amathoyizi, njll).
Indima enkulu ekukhuliseni izingane ngendlela efanele idlalwa ngesiyalo. Lapha uzosizwa ngolwazi lokukhulisa ingane ngaphandle kokukhamuluka:
- izingane ezineminyaka emibili ubudala aziqondi kahle ukuthi zenzani izenzo zabo. Ngokungalaleli, bayokwazi umhlaba. Ngakho-ke, noma yikuphi ukujeziswa, okufaka ukuklabalaza, noma ukushaya, akugcini nje kuphela ukuthela izithelo, kodwa kuyophinde kuqhubekisele phambili ukuthuthukiswa kobudlova nokukhwabanisa emntwaneni;
- kwenzeka ukuthi abazali baphambene nezenzo zabo. Ngolunye usuku banenkinga embi futhi ingane iwela iphutha elincanyana kunazo zonke, futhi ngosuku olulandelayo, ngesimo sengqondo esihle, abantu abaningi abaqapheli isenzo esifanayo. Ngakho-ke, ingane ayikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ezenzweni zakhe kuhle futhi kubi;
- ungalokothi uzibeke ngaphezu kwengane yakho. Usenalo okwanele koothisha abesabekayo ukuhlangana ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakhe. Umsebenzi wakho ukukhombisa ukuthi ungumngani wakhe nomlingani wakhe. Uma ingane yakho ithembele ngokugcwele, khona-ke ufanelwe inhlonipho yakhe, yilapho abaningi bezama ukuveza ukukhala nokujeziswa;
- ukuze ufunde ukungamemeza ingane, kubalulekile ukuba isitoreji sibe nesilinganiso esikhulu sokubekezela. Khumbula - uma ingane isenzile icala, ungamemeza futhi ungajezisi. Kungcono ukukhuluma naye, ukuthola izizathu zesenzo, futhi uchaze ukuthi kungani kungadingeki. Ezimweni eziningi, izingane zenza amaphutha ahlukahlukene ukuze zihanjiswe abazali bazo.
Futhi ekugcineni, imfihlo ebaluleke kunazo zonke, indlela yokukhulisa ingane kahle - zonke izinsuku zikhuthaza ukholo lwakho lwezingane ngokwabo. Udinga ukwesekwa kwakho njalo ngomzuzu wendlela yokuphila kwakhe. Khumbula imisho: "Ngiyakholwa kuwe", "Ngiyaziqhenya ngawe", "Ungakwazi", futhi, uma uzwa kulabo abathandekayo nabathandekayo, ingane yakho izokhula, ikwazi ukuzethemba futhi igqugquzelwe umuntu.