Emphakathini wokuqala ohlangothini lwezocansi kukhona amahemuhemu amaningi nokungaqondi kahle, abaningi balindele ukuthi abe nolunye uhlobo lwezinzwa ezingavamile, kodwa abantu abambalwa besaba ukuthi phakathi kobulili bokuqala konke kuzohamba kahle. Ukwesaba kulungile - ukubhekana nesipiliyoni sokuqala ngokobulili kumfana noma intombazane kungaphumeleli ekuhlulekeni okulandelayo embusweni obuseduze. Ake sibone indlela yokugwema inkinga enjalo.
Ukutholwa kokuqala ngokocansi kwentombazane
Ngokuvamile, amantombazane alahlekelwa ubuntombi bawo hhayi ngenxa yesifiso sangempela, kodwa ngokumane ashukunyiswe ezinye izinkolelo noma ngaphansi kwengcindezi yomlingani wabo. Ungenzi lokhu ngoba intombazane kufanele ilungele lesi sinyathelo, kokubili ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama. Ngokuqondene nephuzu lokugcina, iminyaka ekahle yezocansi zokuqala iyineminyaka engu-17-18. Futhi akusikho ngobuzenzisi noma izindinganiso ezingasebenzi, lesi sizukulwane sabizwa ngokuthi yingabe isidumbu sowesifazane siphelile. Ukuxhumana kwangaphambili kugcwele ukutheleleka kanye nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene.
Ukulungela ngokomzwelo kuyadingeka ekwakheni isimo sengqondo esihle ngokuqondene nobulili ngokujwayelekile, ngoba ngempumelelo yokuqala engaphumeleli, imiphumela emibi ehlukahlukene ingenziwa - ukwesaba impilo ebuseduze , ubulili, ubuncwane. Futhi isimo sokunethezeka sensizwa sizosiza ukugwema ubuhlungu (noma ukunciphisa) ngesikhathi sokuphuka kwe-hymen. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi lo mlingani uqaphele futhi enze ngokungahambisani nokuziqhenya, futhi isimo sasivamile. Abanye basebenzisa "izinsizakalo" zotshwala ukuze baphumule, kungenzeka ukwenza kanjalo, kodwa kuphela uma kuncane, ingilazi yewayini, kungenjalo umphumela uzohluka ngokuphelele kulokho okudingekayo. Futhi, ukunciphisa ubuhlungu kuyokwenziwa lula ngokukhetha ukulungiswa okulungile, ngoba ukuxhumana kocansi okokuqala, isikhundla ngemuva, ngomcamelo noma ngengubo eboshwe ngaphansi kwe-sacrum, kulungile.
Enye iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu yinkinga yokukhulelwa okungadingeki. Ngesizathu esithile, phakathi kwamantombazane amancane kukhona inkolelo yokuthi "okokuqala kungenzeki lutho," okungenasisekelo ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukukhohlwa mayelana nokukhulelwa ngokweqile, ngaphandle kokuthi kuzovikela futhi ngokumelene nezifo ze-venereal.
Isimo sokuqala socansi lomfana
Kuyavunywa ukuthi ukulala kobulili bokuqala kuyisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yentombazana, kodwa ukuthi lo mcimbi ujabulisa kakhulu umfana, wonke umuntu uyakhohlwa. Cishe wonke umuntu onengqondo engenakuqondisisa ugcina umqondo wokuthi akufanele abe "phezulu", ngakho-ke kungcono nakakhulu kunamanye amadoda intombazane. Ngokukhathazeka ngokweqile ngale nkinga, abanye abafana banesisasa futhi abakwazi ukufeza umgomo wabo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uma lokhu kuphindwe, isifo sokulindela ukuhluleka ngokocansi singase sithuthuke, okuyinto kuphela psychotherapist ezokwazi ukubhekana nayo. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukugxila kancane ekuboneni ukwehluleka, futhi intombazane kumele ibonise ukuhlakanipha, ngoba ukubuka okunganaki kungakhuthaza kakhulu
Ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuphuza ngokweqile, ukujula kwe-ejaculation kwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba umfana abe nesikhathi sokufaka ipeni. Kulokhu, futhi, akukho okungajwayelekile, ukuthintana kwangempela kungenzeka kude nesikhathi sokuqala. Uma kungekho lutho olusebenzayo, kufanele ube nokuzola, ushintshele kwenye into, bese kungukuthi intombazane iyasiza ekusizeni.
Ukuthi umfana oyintombazane akudingeki aqiniseke ukuthi okokuqala ngokuqinisekile uyoba injabulo yangempela, abaningi baqala ukujabulela ukukopisha okwesibili noma kwesithathu. Akukho lutho olungavamile kulokhu, nje ubuchopho bungazi ukuthi bangasabela kanjani kulokho okwenzekayo.