"Intombazane enesifiso sokuzikhandla," "Yeka ukuthi isifiso esikhulu kangakanani ezenzweni zakhe," "Futhi isiphi isifiso esikhulu kangaka?" - lezi zinkulumo zingase zizwakale ekukhulumisaneni phakathi kwabasebenza nabo emsebenzini, obajwayele kanye nabo abangabazi nhlobo. Kodwa yikuphi ukufisa? Futhi kanjani ukuqonda lesi sici?
Kwakukhona leli gama egameni lobuNkulunkulu baseRoma, ohloniphekile. Kodwa-ke, ngesiRashiya kwavela ngesiPolish, lapho kakade kwakusho ukuziqhenya ngokweqile - ukuqhosha. Emibhalweni yaseRashiya yekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye, ukuzimisela okwakusalokhu kwakusho isithunzi nesithunzi, kodwa ngezinga elithile lokuveza. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, i-gonor yaqala ukukhomba ngokuqondile incazelo ehlukile, ikhwalithi engalungile yomuntu, ekhonjiswe ngokuziqhenya, ukungabi nalutho, ukuzihlonipha nokuzihlonipha. Singasho ukuthi ukulangazelela namuhla kuyisiqhenya, ukuzidla, ukuziqhenya, ukuzethemba ngokweqile. Kodwa-ke, le ncazelo ayichazi ngokugcwele lokho okushiwo isifiso sokuzifisa, ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukucabangela izici eziqondene nomuntu onqamekile kumaphuzu.
Izimpawu zokufisa
Namuhla ungabona ukuziqhenya ngokweqile kumuntu ngezibonakaliso ezilandelayo:
- indoda ibeka phezu kwayo yonke into, ikhukhume, ikhukhumeza, ibugovu, ubugovu;
- akahloniphi abantu, ubahlekisa;
- ubonisa ukunganakwa kombono wabanye;
- ukuxhumana nabantu "abangenakufanele" kubona njengento ehlambalaza isithunzi sakhe;
- unayo yonke imibono yakhe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uyayichaza ngaphandle kokulalela imizwa yabantu abazungezile;
- Ngisho noma kungalungile - kungavamile ukuphela noma kungenjalo, ukholelwa ukuthi kungaphansi kwesithunzi sakhe;
- inkulumo ebusweni bayo ibonisa ukunganaki, ukudelela, ukunganaki.
Ukuphakama kuvela kuphi?
Ngokwesibonelo, eGrisi lasendulo lalikholelwa ukuthi abantu abazidlayo bawela ngengozi, kusukela ekuzalweni. Isizathu sokuzikhukhumeza nokunganakwa yiziphophu (isibonelo, ububha). Kuvela ukuthi uzama ukufihla ubuso bakhe, agqoke isisindo sokudelela. Futhi abantu abaningi bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi kubalulekile kubantu abanesizotha (ubuhle, ingcebo, amandla, ukuhlakanipha, njll) kunokuba nephutha.
Kodwa-ke, isifiso singabonakaliswa lapho abantu bethola ulwazi futhi bazibheka njengabahlakaniphile kakhulu. Lokhu kuziphatha ngokuvamile kuyimbangela yethalenta, ikhono. isifo sezinkanyezi, esivame ukuba yisibonelo, ngokuvamile abadlali abanolwazi abanolwazi nabadlali abavelele, abadlali abavelele noma abaculi abanokugula kwesifo se-stellar. Bakholelwa ukuthi amakhono avelele abanikezwa wona ngokwemvelo abakhethwa njengezintandokazi futhi abanike ilungelo lokuphatha abantu abavamile ngentukuthelo.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele kucatshangelwe ukuthi ngokuvamile abantu abazungezile ngokwabo bahlakulela ukuziqhenya kulabo abazobekwa umphumela. Bafisa, bahlambalaza, bazise abantu abanjalo, bese beqala ukucabanga ukuthi bangcono kakhulu kunabanye ngandlela-thile. Futhi, ukunganakekelwa kuvame ukuzalwa ngemfundo engalungile. Abazali bafundisa izibonelo zabo, ukuziphatha, ukukhulumisana nabantu, kanye nezingane, abazali njalo izibonelo zokulingisa. Ngakho-ke, kulawo maqiniso lapho umama nobaba beziphatha ngokuzidla kwabanye, khona-ke cishe ingane yabo iyoba njalo.
Kuyini ukulimaza kanye nengozi yokuziphatha okuzidlayo?
Umuntu onesifiso asijabulisi kubantu abakuzungezile, unomngcele olinganiselwe wabangane noma abakho, nhlobo osebenza nabo emsebenzini abamgwema, impilo yomuntu siqu ayihlali kahle ... Futhi lokhu kuyaqondakala kahle, nabantu abanjalo abazikhukhumezayo abagcini nje kuphela - abavumelani nazo!
Ukuzimisela ngokweqile kudala izithiyo ekukhulumisaneni okunobungane, kaningi kuphuma ngokuphelele izimfanelo ezinhle. Yingakho ungazikhukhumezi futhi ungabizi abantu abakuzungezile njengesipho.