Wonke umntwana kufanele akhule ngokuvumelana okuphelele nangothando, ngoba ekukhuliseni kwakhe, bobabili umama nobaba kufanele bahlanganyele ngokulinganayo. Umama, umntwana osondelene naye isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba azalwe, kufanele amfundise othandekayo futhi abe nesisa, futhi ubaba unesibindi kanye nobulungisa. Kodwa-ke, emindenini eminingi kwenzeka ukuthi ingane iqala ukwesaba uyise. Okwenza lokhu kwenzeke nokuthi ungalungisa kanjani lesi simo - ake sikhulume kulesi sihloko.
Kungani ingane isaba ubaba futhi ingaholela kuphi?
Ekuqaleni, ingane ibona uyise njengomsizi womama nomsizi, ngakho-ke ubaba ukuze asondelane ne-crumb, kuzodingeka enze umzamo omkhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi, obaba abasha nabangenalwazi bayesaba ukuthatha umntwana ezandleni zabo, besaba ukulimaza ingane. Yiqiniso, lokhu kwesaba akusilo okungenasisekelo, futhi upapa ngezenzo zakhe ezingalondekile angamnika ingane imizwa engathandeki. Kodwa kuyoba kubi nakakhulu uma ingane ingazi iphunga likababa, ukuthinta kwezandla zakhe ezinamandla, ukuphefumula nokushaya kwenhliziyo. Umntwana nje ngeke akwazi ukubona uyise womngane nomuntu osondelene naye.
Futhi izinyane likwazi ukwesaba ubaba ngenxa yezwi elizwakalayo, intshebe emhlophe noma amadevu, uma ubaba ezonuka kakhulu njenge-cologne, utshwala, ugwayi. Lapho ebonile uyise ebudeni bokudakwa, ingane ingaphenduka kuze kube phakade kumzali, ikakhulu uma iphindaphinda kaningi.
Ngokuvamile kukhona imindeni lapho izingane zisongelwa khona nguyise. Isibonelo, umama uvame ukusebenzisa imishwana enjalo: "Nangu ubaba uzofika, futhi ngizomtshela konke!" Noma "Manje ngizobiza uBaba, futhi uzobhekana nawe masinyane!", Njll. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunezimo lapho ubaba eziphatha ngokuqondene nengane enesihluku ngisho nangokwethenjelwa.
Ngokombono wezengqondo eziningi, ukuqina ngokweqile komzali kuzoholela ekungeneni. Ingane ingesabi ukwesaba uyise, njengesilwane esibi nesesabekayo, kodwa sobulungiswa maqondana nezenzo zakhe. Ukugqugquzelwa nokuphathwa kanzima kwengane kungabangela ukuthuthukiswa kwenani elikhulu lezinkathazo, ukwesaba, ukubukeka kokuzihlukanisa, kanye nokunciphisa amandla okuthanda kanye nokukwazi ukuvikela umbono wakho.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukwakha ubudlelwane bokuthembela kudinga isikhathi esengeziwe nokubekezela. Bonke abantu, ngaphandle komama, ekuqaleni babonwa ngumntwana njengento engajwayelekile futhi engase ibe yingozi. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ungesabi ingane ngisho nangaphezulu, hlala njalo ezinyenzweni zakho.
Uma ufuna umntwana ukuba ayeke ukwesaba uyise, khumbula ukuthi isimo sakho sengqondo nokuhlola kwakho kwangaphakathi akuqondanga kahle ingane. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqale ubonise ukuziphatha okufisayo, ukuze ingane iqaphele ukuthi lo muntu osondelene naye onokwethenjelwa, ongathembeka kanye nonina.
Fundisa ubaba wakho ukuba abe mnene nomntwana, ukuze uthinte ngakwesokudla
Yiqiniso, ubaba nguye owondla futhi usekela umndeni, futhi ezweni lanamuhla, ukuhlinzekela izihlobo zakhe ngokugcwele, amapapa kufanele asebenze kanzima futhi ahlale ekhaya kancane. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuxhumana nomntanakho, futhi okungcono kunazo zonke, ngokuhlukile komama wakho, kuphela. Qiniseka ukuthi ukukhulumisana okunjalo kuzoletha imizwelo emihle kubo bobabili ubaba nomntwana.