Indlela yokusinda ukukhipha isisu ngumbuzo onzima kakhulu. Ngenxa yokuthi emphakathini wethu wonke umthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulelwa ngokweqile ushintshwe owesifazane osevele enzima kakhudlwana. Ukuzizwa unecala nokuzisola, ungakhulumi ngemiphumela engenzeka, kude nokuba yindlela engcono kakhulu ethinta isimo sengqondo nempilo ngokujwayelekile. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane emva kokukhipha isisu kudinga usizo lokusengqondweni, akusho neze.
Kodwa izingxoxo zokukhipha isisu azipheli, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo azikho konke okungaqondile, ngoba, ngaphezu kwezinkinga zokuziphatha nezokuziphatha, kunezimo ezihlukahlukene ezingacatshangwa ngaso sonke isikhathi "ngabeluleki." Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, ake sibuyele esihlokweni sendlela yokusinda ukukhipha isisu ngemuva kwesigameko.
I-Psychology yokukhipha isisu
Ngisho noma owesifazane enqume ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa ngokucophelela, akusho ukuthi ngeke abhekane nezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo esikhathini esizayo. Izimo ezimbili zokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi zihluke kakhulu. Esimweni sokuqala, ukwephulwa kwesikhathi sokukhipha isisu kubonakala ngokushesha efomu:
- imizwa yecala nokuzisola;
- ukwanda okukhulu;
- ukuthutha okuqhubekayo;
- imicabango yokuzibulala;
- imizwa yokulahlekelwa okungenakuqhathaniswa;
- ukugcoba okungakazelelwe, njll.
Njengomthetho, abesifazane abanjalo bathatha umthwalo ogcwele ngalokho abakwenzile, futhi lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuthethelela nokubuyiswa kokududuzeka okungokomoya.
Kwenye inguqulo, owesifazane angashiya inkinga isikhathi eside, evala yena ngokwakhe. Ukubonakaliswa okulindelekile kwesikhathi sokukhipha isisu kuvame ukubonakala:
- kunciphise i-libido ( isifiso sobulili );
- ukuhlukunyezwa;
- ukuphazamiseka kokulala;
- ikhanda;
- ukunxanela kokuphuza utshwala, njll.
Kunoma yikuphi, izimpawu ezifanayo zivela ezigabeni ezihlukahlukene cishe cishe zonke iziguli ngemva kokukhipha isisu futhi zidinga usizo olusesikhathini esingokwengqondo.
Izinkinga zokuziphatha nokuziphatha ngokuziphatha
Isimo sowesifazane emva kokukhipha isisu sithinteka yizici eziningi. Lombono womphakathi, isimo sengqondo somlingani, izinkolelo zenkolo, izinguquko zomzimba nezama-hormonal. Kodwa okokuqala, lokhu kuyisimo sengqondo somuntu siqu kulokho okwenzekayo, lapho isikhathi sokuphumula sithinte ngqo.
Amathiphu ambalwa okusheshayo futhi angenabuhlungu ukusinda isisu:
- Okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ngokugcwele okwenzekile.
- Khona-ke ukwamukelwa kweqiniso lokuthi ayikho indlela yokubuyela emuva: akukho ukuzisola noma ukuzisola kwengane izobuyiselwa.
- Futhi isigaba esinzima kunazo zonke ukuzithethelela wena. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungaqala ngokuthethelelwa kwabanye, okungathi ngezinga elithile wabamba iqhaza kulokho okwenzekayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuthethelela kuyindlela kuphela yokuphuma kwimeko yamanje engabuyisa ukuthula kwengqondo.