Ukuhlonipha kanye nokubekezela kusiza ukugcina ukuthula kwengqondo kwalabo bonke ababambe iqhaza empikiswaneni futhi ngokushesha bathole indlela yokuphuma kweso simo. Kodwa-ke, ukukhathala komuntu, isimo esibuhlungu noma umkhuba nje wezinto ezingcolile kungaholela ekuxabaneni . Futhi noma ngabe iqembu lesibili lingasisekeli impikiswano, i-sludge noma i-heartache engavamile ingahlala emphefumulweni wakhe.
Kanjani kahle ukuphendula ngokuthukwa?
Iningi labantu linecala lokuhlambalaza: isimo sengqondo siwohloka, ukuhlukumezeka nokukhubeka. Umuntu, njengokungathi, uhlasela bonke abantu abazungezile ngenhliziyo yakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungathatha amahora ambalwa noma ngisho nezinsuku, futhi igama noma inkulumo ehlambalayo iyohlala ememori yakho futhi iphazamise impilo egcwele. Ngokuvamile umuntu usalokhu ekhumbula futhi isimo esakhuthele ngaso, uyipheqa ekhanda lakhe, ahlaziye futhi acabange ukuthi kwakudingeka akwenze kanjani ukuhlambalaza okunjalo nokuthi yini engashiwo ngalolo mzuzu ukuvimbezela lowo owenze iphutha.
Kodwa-ke, labo abafuna ukuqonda i-psychology yezingxabano nendlela yokuphendula ngokuthukwa, iphuzu elilodwa elibalulekile kudingeka ligcwaliseke. Kuqukethe ukuthi umuntu onobudlova noma omubi, umonile, emazwini akhe uqala ukubusa phezu kwengqondo yabantu abazungezile. Ukuze ungangeni ngaphansi kwethonya layo kuyadingeka ukuthi ungasabeleli lapho uhlambalaza, ukuziphatha njengokungathi akukona ngawe.
Ungafunda kanjani ukungaphenduli ekuthukeni?
Eqinisweni, ukuziphatha okuphikisanayo kuyinkinga yomenzi wobubi ngokwakhe. Kubalulekile ukuzisola emphefumulweni womuntu onjalo ongenakwazi noma engafundile ukwenza okuthile. Ngezinga elithile, ungabiza umuntu onjalo ogula ngengqondo. Mhlawumbe umuntu onjalo wathola ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ebuntwaneni, mhlawumbe wakhuliswa kanjalo, kodwa mhlawumbe othile wamthuka ngaphambi kokuxabana, futhi uphatha emuva.
Ukuze ungaphenduki ngokuhlambalaza, ungenza lokhu:
- umelela umuntu omemeza njengengane engenangqondo engazi ukuthi yini ayifunayo;
- ukumela umhlukumezi ngenhlanzi ye-aquarium, evulela umlomo wakhe, kodwa engakhulumi izwi;
- unomsebenzi womsebenzi kule akhawunti, njengokuthi "Ukukhwabanisa okumangalisayo! Isikhathi sami! ยป.
Akunakwenzeka ukuthola indlela yonke indlela yokusabela ngayo ukuhlukunyezwa nokuhlambalaza, ngoba zonke izimo zihlukile. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukunganiki amandla omonile phezu kwengqondo yakho futhi ungazivumeli uhlazeke. Ukwaneliseka nokukhuthazela komuntu okhwaza noma othukwayo, kumenza abe mkhulu kakhulu kunomonile, ophelelwa yimiqondo ngokwengqondo futhi ahlale engenelisekile ngokuphendula okunjalo.