Ukuphila kwabantu banamuhla kugcwele ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Ngokuvamile, abantu bakhathazekile futhi bakhungathekile ngezinkinga zomkhaya nasemsebenzini, imibimbi kanye namakhilogremu engeziwe. Uma ukucindezeleka okuncane nezinkulu kuthinta kakhulu impilo yakho engokwengqondo nangokwengqondo, lalela iseluleko sabanokusebenza kwengqondo, ukuthi ungaphi nokuthi ungaphila kanjani.
Yini okufanele ungakhathazeki ngayo?
Abanye abantu abaneminyaka yobudala bathola ukuhlakanipha, babasize baphile impilo yabo, okudingeka ukuthi bayeke ukukhathazeka ngezinto ezithile. Akufanelekile ukuphila, ukucasuka ngalokho abanye abakucabangayo. Lolu uhlobo oluvamile lokukhathazeka, ukulinda umuntu cishe noma yisiphi isimo, abantu abaningi kangaka bahlala njalo ngaphansi kwejoka lombono womunye umuntu. Khohlwa ngakho! Abanye abantu bakhathazeke ngalokho okucabangayo, noma abakhathaleli ngawe.
Akufanelekile ukuzama ukuphila ngendlela abanye abahlala ngayo. Ingabe kufanelekile ukuba uhlale nendoda engathandwa ngoba izintombi zakho zishadile, futhi unamahloni ngesimo somuntu ohlukanisile? Ezinye izimpilo zabantu zingase zibe "hhayi ushukela," awukwazi nje ngakho.
Ungaphili futhi uziqhathanise nabanye abantu - le ndlela iholela ekudumeni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphumelele kangakanani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhle kangakanani, kuyohlale kukhona umuntu ocebile futhi okhangayo. Futhi leli qiniso lizolimaza ubukhona bakho uma ungacabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngakho. Khumbula ukuthi ukuphelela akufinyeleleki futhi lowo omona naye angase ahlupheke nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene.
Yeka ukucabanga nokukhathazeka ngezinto ongakwazi ukuzilawula. Ungasebenzisi amandla kubantu nezimo ongeke uzithinte. Kufanele uphile impilo yakho futhi kukhona okubaluleke kakhulu kuyo ukuthi ungashintsha. Gxila kulokhu.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukuba siphile ngaphandle kothando?
Abaningi bomshado emhlabeni wonke bahlala ndawonye ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene ngaphandle kokuthandana. Phakathi kwalezi zizathu kungaba yisikweletu nokuhlonipha, isifiso sokusindisa umndeni ngenxa yabantwana, futhi - nokuhlelwa kwe-codependence . Futhi uma mayelana nezizathu zokuqala kunezimvo eziningi ezahlukahlukene eziphakama kuye ngokuthi isimo, khona-ke i-codependence yinkinga yomuntu oyedwa, kuyinkinga yomndeni wonke.
Ukuvame ukukhohlisa kuhlotshaniswa nemindeni yezidakamizwa nezidakamizwa. Indoda enempilo, kodwa oxhasane naye uhlala iminyaka ebuhlotsheni engamfanelekile futhi imphule njengomuntu, kodwa ayikwazi ukushintsha noma yini. Imindeni encike emzimbeni ingahle ibe ne-pathology, kodwa njalo ibuhlobo obungenampilo. Isibonakaliso esiyinhloko somuntu oncike ekuhlanganyeleni yisifiso sokuzidela, ukujabulisa oshade naye, okubalulekile futhi nokulawula konke.
Njengoba ukuxhomeka kokubambisana kungadlulela ezinganeni futhi kube isibonelo sabo sokuziphatha, umbuzo wokuthi uhlala nomuntu ongathandeki, ophuza utshwala noma odla izidakamizwa kufanele uqaphele.
Indlela yokuphila kahle?
Zilalele futhi uqale ukwenza okuthandayo ngempela. Uyojabula kakhulu uma uvame ukuzivumela ubuthakathaka obuthakathaka nezinjabulo ezinkulu.
Nika lokho okubhubhisa impilo yakho nobuhle bakho. Amanzi ahlanzekile nokudla kwemvelo kunomphumela omuhle emzimbeni wakho, ukukhulisa izinga lakho lokuphila. Ukunciphisa utshwala, ushukela, imikhiqizo yefulawa, ikhofi, kodwa ume ngokuphelele emigqumeni nokudla okusheshayo.
Nweba ama-horizons akho, ufunde izilimi zakwamanye amazwe - lokhu kuyadingeka ekukhuleni komsebenzi, ukuhamba phesheya. Faka umthetho wokufunda incwadi engu-1 ngesonto. Uma kungekho nhlobo isikhathi - funda ezokuthutha noma ulalele ama-audiobooks.
Funda ukucabanga, ukuhlaziya nokucabanga. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kuyasiza kakhulu ukugcina ibhulogi yakho noma idayari. Futhi ukuze ugcwalise, phatha impilo ekhuthele futhi wandise oxhumana nabo nezwe.
Hlela imigomo - ngaphandle kwalokhu, awukwazi ukufeza izindawo eziphakeme kakhulu. Izinhloso kufanele zibe nomkhawulo ocacile wokusebenza, ube wangempela futhi uqobo.
Shintsha, funda, uthuthuke. Ngaleso sikhathi kuphela ukuphila kuzophelela. Ungesabi, ayikho ubunzima obungenakunqotshwa, zonke izithiyo zikhona kuphela ekhanda lakho.