Namuhla umshado ojabulisayo awunamaphupho. Lokhu kungagwetshwa ngesisekelo sezibalo kuphela zesehlukaniso, okusho ukuthi kusuka kumaphesenti angu-60 ukuya ku-80% wemishado yonke ekugcineni ihlukaniswa. Yingakho kufanelekile ukucabanga ngendlela yokwenza umshado ujabule, kusukela ekuqaleni, ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle.
Ingabe kukhona imishado ejabulisayo?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo ayiyinto engavamile - yebo, futhi izisekelo zomshado ojabulisayo zilula futhi ziyaqondakala kuwo wonke umuntu, ngesikhathi nje abantu beyeka ukucabanga ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuba babambelele kubo.
Empeleni, i-psychology yomshado ojabulisayo kufana ne-psychology yobudlelwane obujabulisayo: inhlonipho, ukuqonda okuhlangene, ukusekela kanye nokuhlukahluka kuyadingeka, ngoba kungukuthi konke kuyisimungulu, futhi ukuhlanganyela "ukumbala ekutheni" kuqala, ndawonye, ukuze , ukukhalela ukufaneleka.
Izimfihlo Zomshado Ojabulisayo
Indlela eya emshadweni ojabulisayo ikhona ngokuqaphela amaphutha omuntu siqu. Ngempela, uma ekuqaleni konke "kwakungalungile," ngeke umshade lo muntu. Ngakho-ke, uma sibuyela emvelaphi, singabuyela ebuhlotsheni okuningi kwalokho okukhohliwe kakade, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kuhlale kukujabulisayo.
- Umthetho wokuqala womshado ojabulisayo ukuhloniphana! Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngalokho okubalulekile kumlingani wakho. Ungafungi emphakathini. Ungazivumeli amagama okuhlambalaza nezwi lokudabuka. HLELA umlingani wakho kuwo wonke umqondo wegama.
- Izibalo zemishado ejabulisayo ibonisa ukuthi abantu abanesithakazelo esifanayo noma umsebenzi ovamile baneliseke ngokwengeziwe ngomshado wabo kunabo bonke. Umsebenzi wakho ukuwuthola. Izifundo zokudansa? Ukwenza imidlalo? Isistimu yamandla? Ukuhamba kusihlwa? Ukuzihlanganisa okuhlangene? Kufanele ube nesizathu esivamile, okukunikeza injabulo enkulu.
- Ukuhleka kubonakala kuphela emindenini ejabulisayo. Sichitha isikhathi ngokuthokoza: ubukela ama-comedies, engxoxweni nikhumbule amahlaya namacala ahlekisayo, ukuxhumana njengabangane. Uma zonke izingxoxo zakho zihlobene kuphela nokuphila kwansuku zonke - zilahle, qalisa izingxoxo mayelana namagugu nezintshisekelo.
- Othintana naye. Zama ukuthintana njalo. Kiss ngaphambi kokushiya futhi ekubuyeni kwakho, khumba ngenkathi ubukela i-TV. Lezi yizinto ezincane ezihlanganisa ngempela.
- Gwema ukuxabana okwesikhashana. Lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukufaka konke okuyingxenye. Vele uthole indlela eyakhayo yokuphuma kweso simo - ungadli ngesonto, futhi uhlale phansi futhi uxoxe ngokuthula ukuthi ungaphuma kanjani kuleso simo, thola ukulinganisa.
Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi umshado wesibili ojabulisayo ukwedlula ukuthokozisa kuqala, kodwa lokhu kusebenza kuphela kulawo manyano owaqedwa ubusha, ubuwula noma ukukhulelwa - okungukuthi, ngaphandle kokuhlolwa kokuqala kokuhambisana nezinye izimfanelo ezibalulekile.
Indlela yokujabula emshadweni?
Uma ubona ukuthi lowo mshado awuhambisani nawe, kungenzeka ukuthi kungokwakho isimo sengqondo sakho, hhayi ezinye izinkinga. Qala ngokuhlaziywa, ukuthatha iphepha nepeni:
- Yikuphi okungahambisani nawe emshadweni?
- Ungayishintsha kanjani lokhu?
- Kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ngalesi sikhathi?
Isibonelo, awuthandi ukuthi umyeni uhlezi phambi kwe-TV noma ikhompuyutha usuku lonke. Ukuze ushintshe lokhu bese umheha ekungcebelekeni okuhlangene, kuzomele unikeze okunye okuthakazelisayo: ukubukela i-movie, ukuhamba, ukuya emidlalo yaseshashalazini noma i-movie, ukuya emcimbini, njll. Isikhathi salokhu asidingeki, futhi singasetshenziswa cishe nganoma yisiphi kusihlwa, uma kunesifiso esinjalo. Inkinga ixazululwa. Ngokufanayo, ungakwazi ukuxazulula iningi lezinkinga emshadweni, okuvame ukukwazi ukubhekana nesisombululo.