Usuku lokuzalwa lujabulisa bonke abasha, ngoba, ngokombono wabo, iminyango emisha eya kubantu abadala ivulekile ngaphambi kwabo. Intsha eningi ifuna ukusebenzisa leli holide ngokungenakulibaleka, futhi liqala ukulilungiselela kusengaphambili emavikini ambalwa.
Iyini impumelelo yokukhula kwabantu abadala?
Isimo sengqondo lapho usuku oluyinhloko lomsunguli wesidlo lufika, abazali bakhe nemithetho bahluke ngokuphelele.
Ngentsha le nkathi ejabulisayo ibonakala njengokukhululwa kokunakekelwa kwabazali nokunakekelwa, ukuzimela okukhulu kanye nethuba lokwenza isinqumo. Ngokwenza njalo, emazweni angama-post-Soviet, iminyaka yepasipoti ayihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nokuqala komuntu omdala, kusukela esemusha, ukuthola imfundo, ngokwezezimali nangezinye izikhathi ukuziphatha kuye kuxhomeke kubazali bakhe.
Abazali abakuqondi ukuthi ukutholakala kwabantu abadala kubantwana kanye nentsha, izingane zabo zihlala zingabantwana. Ngeshwa, abazali abaningi banamuhla baqhubeka nokugcina izingane ezikhulile, besebenza kancane kancane ekukhuleni kwabo.
Kusukela ekubukeni komthetho wamazwe amaningi emhlabeni, iningi liyafika eneminyaka engu-18. Ngabantu abaningi sisho ukuvela komthamo ophelele wezomthetho kanye nokukwazi ukubikezela imiphumela yezenzo zabo, kanye nokuthwala imithwalo yemfanelo ephelele kubo. Iningi lomphakathi alihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi neminyaka yobudala, kanye nethuba lokusebenzisa amalungelo abo ngaphakathi kwentando yezepolitiki. Ezinkambisweni zomthetho ezahlukene nakwamanye amazwe, iminyaka yobudala yeningi inezomthetho.
Indlela yokugubha abantu abadala?
Iningi labaningi ngosuku abafika ngalo ubudala, bafuna ukukhumbula isikhathi eside.
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, intsha ekhulile iyakumema abangani abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Kumele kwenziwe kusengaphambili, ukuze wonke umuntu anakekele isipho futhi azinakekele ngokwakhe. Okumnandi kakhulu kuyoba abangane, uma umkhosi womkhosi efika isimemo ngombono, ekuqaliseni izimemo zangempela.
Kudingeka sicabange ngaloluhlelo lokuhlwa futhi sithenge noma silungiselele zonke izidingo ezidingekayo ukuze kube yingxenye yokuzijabulisa. Imenyu kanye nohlu lweziphuzo kufanele futhi zifakwe ngaphakathi. Ekuphuzeni ungafaka utshwala, isibonelo, iwayini.
Njengoba samukele konke ukuhalalisela, ukuba nemincintiswano kanye nokudla isidlo sakusihlwa, kungenzeka ukuhamba nabangani eklabhu.