Ngenkathi abanye beya ekuqeqeshweni futhi befunda izihloko zokuphathwa kabi, abanye bazibuza ukuthi kusho ukuthini "ukuphatha umuntu." Ukuze siqonde kangcono lesi sihloko, sizocubungula izibonelo eziningana zokuhlukumeza, futhi sizohlaziya ukuthi umuntu angasebenzisa kanjani lezo zinqubo ngokucophelela.
Incazelo yegama elithi "sebenzisa"
Okokuqala, ake sibheke umbuzo walokho kusho ukuthi "ukuphatha". Esimweni sengqondo yokucabanga ngale mqondo, ukuxhaphaza ukulawula okufihlekile komunye umuntu. Ngosizo lwamasu okuxhaphaza, ungenza umuntu akhombise iphuzu lakho lokubuka noma enze okuthile okuzuzisa kuwe. Kodwa-ke, akudingekile ukuba yingcweti kwengqondo ehlakaniphile ukuphatha abanye - akuyona imfihlo ukuthi abantu abaningi benza lokhu ezingeni lomkhaya, ngokuphelele ngaphandle kokucabanga, intuitively.
Izibonelo zokuxhaphaza ebuhlotsheni
Ngokuvamile ukutholakala kwemikhaya kutholakala, futhi abahlanganyeli babo abaqapheli njalo. Isibonelo:
- Ngokuvamile umlindi womama utholakala. Njengomthetho, lokhu kuyedwa, owesifazane ozikhukhumezayo ongafuni ukuyeka indodana yakhe / indodakazi yakhe, ngisho noma sekuyisikhathi sokuba izingane zakhe zakhe umndeni wazo. Abomama abanjalo badinga kakhulu usizo nokusekelwa, bahlale befuna ukunakekelwa , beka izikhala zabo ebuhlotsheni bobubele bezingane zabo, begxeka ukukhetha kwabo, banqabe ubuhlobo babo (nomuntu othize noma ngisho nangaphambi kokubhala umuntu oyedwa, isibonelo).
- Umshayeli wamadoda. Umuntu onjalo uyakwazi ukwenza noma isiphi isabelo ngemikhono yakhe, aphule okuthile noma amphangi ngesikhathi somsebenzi wakhe ekhaya, ukuze akwazi ukubika ngokuthula ukuthi ukhululekile futhi uya eholidini. Emndenini onjalo, zonke izinkinga zifakwa emahlombe owesifazane.
Ungacabangela izibonelo eziningi, kubandakanya ukuhlukunyezwa kwabesifazane, kodwa isisekelo sabo sicacile: umuntu angakwazi intuitively, futhi angenqabela ngokuzithandela intando yomunye ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Indlela yokuphatha umyeni wakhe?
Indlela eyisisekelo kakhulu futhi ephumelelayo kunazo zonke yokusebenzisa indoda "ubuthakathaka besifazane." Futhi udinga ukuwusebenzisa ngengqondo - unakekele lo msebenzi, kodwa ngokubonakala kwakho konke kubonisa ukuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nalokhu. Uma umuntu enquma ukukusiza, qiniseka ukuthi uyomdumisa, mtshele ukuthi ngaphandle kwakhe awungeke ukwenze. Kuzoba kuhle futhi emva kwesikhashana ukukhumbula ngezinsizakalo zakhe futhi uphinde umdumise. Lokhu mhlawumbe kuyindlela enhle kunazo zonke kokubili ukuphatha okuhle, ukuze kuzuze ubudlelwane.