Kunezigaba ezintathu eziyinhloko zokwaziswa kolwazi, futhi ngokusekelwe yiziphi izimfanelo ezikhona, bonke abantu bahlukana babe yizibukeli, izilaleli kanye nezidakamizwa. Ake sicabangele ngayinye yalezi zigaba. Kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuthi kukhona cishe akukho izinhlobo ezihlanzekile. Ngokuvamile abantu bahlanganisa ezimbili zazo: isibonelo, ezenzakalelayo-ezibukwayo, noma ze-kinestetik-audial.
Abalaleli
Abalaleli bangabantu abangajwayelekile kakhulu. Ngokuvame kakhulu kunikezwa ukuzwa okuzwakalayo, okubukhali kanye nenkumbulo enhle. Bakhuluma kalula phezu kwefoni - kubo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzwa i-interlocutor.
Laba bantu bathanda ukukhuluma, benze kahle futhi bajabule. Ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo babheka ukuziqhenya, kodwa empeleni kubathandekayo babo bangabantu abalalele kakhulu kanye nomeluleki. Kuvela kubantu abanjalo ukuthi izikhulumi ezinhle, abafundisi, izazi ze-psychologists nabaculi bathola. Abalaleli bahlale bekhetha umculo futhi bangenzi umsindo. Uma ukhona umuntu onomsindo omnandi, oyingane, ohle futhi okhomayo, kungenzeka ukuthi uyasizwa.
Ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa olalelwayo emgqeni ophakathi we-shazi nomkhuba wokuwela izingalo zakho phezu kwesifuba sakho.
Imishwana ejwayelekile yokulalela izokuxhumana nokulalela nokukhuluma:
- Ngiyajabula ukuzwa;
- ulalele;
- kubonakala sengathi kuyalimaza;
- kungani ukhuluma ngezwi elinjalo?
Ekukhulumisaneni nokulalela into esemqoka yizingxoxo. Laba yibo kanye abantu abathanda izindlebe.
Kubukeka
Abantu abanjalo babona umhlaba ngosizo lwamehlo. Babhala kalula indaba esithombeni noma bachaze lokho abakubonayo. Ngokuvame ukuthi bayakwazi ngokuphelele ukuhlela noma yini. Ukuze basebenze, badinga ukuhlela izikimu nama-algorithms - ngaphandle kwalokhu balahlekile.
Kubo, okubaluleke kakhulu ukubonakala. Indaba ngaphandle kwezithombe noma ihluzo ngeke nje ihlehliswe ekhanda labo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi uma bengaboni, abonakala bengakuzwa.
Kuphakathi kweziboniso zenani elikhulu kunazo zonke labesifazane abakhetha izingubo nezicathulo ngokuyisisekelo "esingakhululekile, kodwa esihle." Bahlale bebukeka behlelekile futhi bekhangayo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi laba bantu babone i-interlocutor, ukubuka amehlo akhe. Uma ungaboni okubukwayo, lapho ethi okuthile kuwe, anganquma ukuthi awulaleli.
Ngokuvamile laba bantu abathandi ukuthinta futhi ngezinye izikhathi baphendule kubo ngokungakufaneleki. Ngokuvamekile kunalokho, ayencane, ayenayo futhi abe nezwi eliphakeme.
Izinkulumo zabo ezijwayelekile ziyi:
- bukani nje;
- kubonakala sengathi ...
- ubona;
- Ngibona lokho ...
Enkulumweni yabantu abanjalo ubukhulu bezithombe ezibukwayo yizincazelo zombala, ifomu kanye nayo yonke imingcele yangaphandle. Baye bahlakulela ukucabanga okucabangelayo.
Ama-Kinesthetics
Laba bantu bavame ukwazi umhlaba ngokuthinteka, bajwayelene nokuzwa nokuthinta okuthinta. Ngokuvamile imizwa yabo ibhaliwe emehlweni abo, ngakho-ke bajwayele ukuhoxisa noma ukuwayeka.
Laba bantu bakhetha izingubo nezicathulo esimisweni esithi "vumela kube kubi, kodwa kube lula". Kubaluleke kakhulu kubo ukuthi isikhumba sabo sithinteke kuphela ngamathiski amancane kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile bayakwazisa ukuthinta nokubamba ngobungane.
Laba bantu bazwela kakhulu, futhi akuwona wonke umuntu ozothola izwe labo elingaphakathi. Bangakwazi ukubona konke kuphela ukunambitha, ukuthinta nokuphunga. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi into ethile isebenza kanjani, bayozama ukuyizama ngomkhuba.
Izinkulumo zabo ezijwayelekile ziyi:
- Nginomuzwa wokuthi ...
- Ngiyabamba
- ziphathe ngokwakho
- uzohlala ezolile
- siseduze nesixazululo.
Okukhulu kakhulu enkulumweni yabantu abanjalo lezo zichasiselo ezichaza izindawo zomzimba kusuka endaweni yokubuka kwemizwelo - ezithambile, ezifudumele, ezifudumele, ezimnandi, njll.
Azikho ubunzima bokuthi unqume kanjani: okubonwayo, okuzwakalayo noma okwenziwe ngokomzimba noma omunye umuntu. Vele uqhathanise ukuziphatha kwayo namanothi ahlongoziwe.