Ukuqala komunye usuku owedlule ngesikhathi somuntu ngamunye "kungamnika" umuntu ohlala naye ongajabuli kakhulu, futhi ubiza inkinga yobudala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyo yonke inkambo yokuphila kwayo kungaba neziningana.
Inkinga yobudala yobuntu
Isici esiyinhloko sanoma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa kwaloluhlobo luyishintsho sengqondo. Izizathu eziyinhloko ozithola kuzo yizinguquko ezimweni zomphakathi ozijwayele ukuhlangana nsuku zonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuvela uma wena, ngaphandle kokungazi, ubuyekeze izindima zomphakathi ezikhona (ukuvela kwemithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe, isimo somshado wesimo, isimo esisha somphakathi, njll)
Ngokuvamile, imbangela eyisizathu sokuvela kwezinkinga ezihlobene nobudala empilweni yomuntu kungukuthi i-dissonance engqondweni (lokho okufisayo akunakutholakala ngenxa yokungabi namathuba adingekayo kulokhu).
Okumangalisa kakhulu ukuthi uma owesifazane ehlanganyela kulokho okujwayelekile ngamadoda (ibhizinisi, izindaba zezombangazwe), inkinga yezimpikiswano zeminyaka izoba nokufana kakhulu namadoda. Ngendlela, ngoba lezi zinsuku ziyisici:
- ukubuyekezwa kwamanani abalulekile;
- izinguquko ezivamile emsebenzini nokuphila.
Inkinga yobudala besifazane
- Ngeminyaka engu-20, noma mhlawumbe eminyakeni embalwa ngaphambili, ubhekene nenkinga ehlobene nokushintshwa komuntu ekukhuleni. Ngenxa yalokhu, ngomzuzwana ubunzima obuningi abubeka kuye: ukucinga umsebenzi ohlukile kwabazali bendlu akukhipha kanye nokufuna umyeni ongase abe khona. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi okuhle kule nkathi yokuphila ukuthi inkinga ibekezelela kahle, ngoba umphefumulo omncane ugcwele amaphupho, izinkolelo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ubukhulu besimanje.
- Inkinga yeminyaka engama-30 kubesifazane ibonakala ukuthi imiphumela yokuqala ifingqiwe. Njengeminyaka eyi-10 eyedlule, akubonakali njalo kuwe ukuthi uzophumelela, impilo yonke ihamba phambili, njll. Kodwa kungalindelekile, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala impilo yakho yephupho noma cha, ngeke ujabule ngemiphumela.
- Iminyaka engama-40 yinkinga yobudala obuphakathi, ngezinye izikhathi iletha izimo ezicindezelayo ezivamile. Ngokungafani namadoda, ubulili obuhle bubuhlungu kakhulu kuye, ngenxa yalokho ubuhlobo nabantu abaseduze buhlupheka. Inkinga enkulu yabesifazane ibonakala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ngaphambi kwale minyaka owesifazane wanikeza wonke amandla akhe ekwakheni umsebenzi, oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, bambalwa abantu abakwazi ukuziqhenya ngomkhaya ojabulayo, ogcwele.
- Lapho beneminyaka engama-50, abaningi baphumelela ekuzinzekeni ngokomzwelo, kodwa bahlushwa imicabango yokusinda. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka kuleli cala ukuba zithathele izimo eziningi ezahlukene ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ngalesi sikhathi ungenanhlanhla empilweni yakho, akufanele ubeke isiphambano kuso.
Izinkinga zeminyaka emadodeni
- Inkinga yeminyaka engama-21-23 ihlobene nemigomo yokuphila, engeke ihlale ifana namathuba atholakalayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, le nsizwa ifuna ukuzibonakalisa yona kanye nabanye ukuthi uyumuntu owanelisayo.
- Iminyaka engu-28-30 - isikhathi sokushintshela esigabeni esivuthiwe sokuphila. Le ndoda iyaqaphela ukuthi yonke into ayiphupha eminyakeni engaba ngu-10 eyedlule ayikwazi ukuphumelela. Akukwenzeki ukuthi ufuna ukuzithokozisa ngokobulili ohlangothini ukuze alethe ukuhlukahluka empilweni yansuku zonke.
- Iminyaka engu-38-40 ingenisa ulwazi lomuntu umcabango omubi mayelana nokuguga okusondelayo. Indoda ifuna ukuba njalo imatasa ngezinto ezithandayo. Futhi kukhona ukuhluleka kwe-hormonal okuhlobene ne-testosterone. Lokhu kungabangela izinkinga ebusweni obuseduze bomndeni wakhe. Kulesi sikhathi, amadoda, kunanini ngaphambili, adinga iseluleko salabo abathanda omkawo.