I-sexologist - ungubani nokuthi ungasusa kanjani ubulili?

Umqondo wokuthi indoda yocansi ingaba indoda kuphela isahlulelo esivamile kodwa esingalungile. Indoda yanoma yisiphi isondo ingathatha ukuthunjwa kwezingqondo zakhe futhi icabange ukuthi okwenzekayo kumenza ajabule, akulungile. Ngeshwa, akubona bonke abantu abakwazi ukuvuma ukutholakala kwesifo futhi bathole amandla okulwa nalo.

Isisebenzi socansi - ngubani lo?

Odokotela banesimo sengqondo esiphathelene nalolu hlobo lokuthembela. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi kungalungile ukucabangela ukuxilongwa ngokugcwele kwezokwelapha, njengoba kuletha ukwaneliseka okugcwele ngemuva kokuxhumana nomlingani - i-orgasm. Abanye bakulinganisa kakhulu nesifo ngokufaniswa nokulutha izidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala. Umuntu wesilisa ocansini (owesifazane noma indoda) ngumuntu obani ongachazwa ngayo enye yezincazelo:

1. Isifiso esicasulayo sokuxhumana nocansi nommeleli wobulili obuhlukile, ngokuya ngokuqondisa.
2. Umkhuba wokuphatha ukukhulumisana kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo nabantu abathandana nabo ngokobulili ngokusebenzisa i-prism of sensualality. Umuntu ohlukumeza ngokobulili akakwazi ukuhlukanisa ukukhathazeka ebusweni, ukubonga noma ubudlelwane bokusebenza.
3. Ukuphulwa komkhakha wezenhlalo wokuphila obangelwa ukuhlukumeza komuntu othembekile. Noma yikuphi ukucabangela ngokweqile kungaze kube yilapho kuqala ukuphazamiseka futhi kugxile emphakathini oseduze nalowo ongakwazi ukubhekana nesigaba socansi.

Izimbangela zobulili

Izimbangela ze-sexology ziye zacutshungulwa ososayensi kanye nezikhanyisi zezokwelapha, kodwa akekho oye wakwazi ukuthola ngokuqinisekile indlela yokubonakala kwesifo kubantu. Ukungaqondi komuntu othembekile kungakhetha uhlobo olunjalo lobuhlobo obuseduze uma okungenani okunye okudingekayo:

1. Ukuntuleka kokukhiqizwa kobuchopho kwiprotheni . Izinkomba zamazinga amaprotheni aphuma ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa ngokocansi, ngakho-ke kulula ukuqagela ukuthi i-psyche isheshe isetshenziselwe ukushada.
2. Ukwesaba ukusondelana . Lapha, ubulili besifazane ngeke kube nomphumela ongaphezu kwesilisa. Ukungathembeki komunye owesifazane kumuntu wesifazane womuntu kuyisijeziso esibi kunazo zonke, ngoba ubeka imithwalo yemfanelo kuye futhi uyamncisha ukuzwa okusha.
3. Umsebenzi wokudala noma ukuziphatha kwamahhala . Umlingisi we-sex-agent, umlobi noma umculi uvame ukuhamba futhi abuyele emaphakathini phakathi kokusebenza nabalingani bobusuku obunye.

Izimpawu zesisebenzi socansi

Izimpawu ezenza kube lula ukuhlukanisa abantu abanokulinganisela abangakwazi ukubonakala ngokushesha. Enkulumweni yokuxhumana, isiguli siveza ngokucacile izimpawu zokuziphatha ngokobulili:

• ukungcola nokunciphisa izindinganiso zokuziphatha;
• ukukhetha ngokucophelela isembatho esicacile nesigqoke iso;
• kuthiwa "okungajwayelekile" ukuveza izingubo zangaphansi;
• isifiso sokuchitha yonke imali mahhala yezinsizakalo zokuhambisa ucansi noma intima efonini;
• oxhumana nabo njalo nabalingani abangajwayelekile.

Izinyathelo zobulili

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uPatrick Carnes ngo-1980 saveza izinyathelo zokuthuthukiswa kokucindezeleka kwengqondo ngothando ekucindezelayo futhi wazibeka ezincwadini zemithi. Ngokombono wakhe, i-sexogolism iqala ngendlela elandelayo yokuhlaselwa kwezimpawu:

• ukuphoqeleka ngokobulili, okudinga ukukhishwa njalo;
• ukwakheka kwemikhuba ethile eyenziwa ngaphambi kocansi ukukhulisa isifiso - isibonelo, ukudlala ngothando noma ukukhuluma ngokuphambene;
• ukuxhomeka kwengqondo emasosheni nokulahleka kokulawula izifiso;
• ukucindezeleka nokuphelelwa ithemba.

Ungaba kanjani umculi wezocansi?

Akunakwenzeka ukuthola umuntu onempilo enempilo engqondweni yakhe esifanele angathanda ukuthola ukuthi unesifo esinjalo. I-Psychology yaziwa amacala lapho abesilisa abesilisa ocansini beqhayisa ngokuziqhenya futhi bakuthola ngenxa yezenzo zabo:

• ukubuka njalo kwe-porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu ;
• ukwenqaba ukuxhumana nabesifazane bangempela kanye nenkolelo yokuthi bonke bayazikhonzile futhi bayisiphukuphuku;
• ukuziphatha okuphambene - ubulili nsuku zonke ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuqinile
• intshisekelo yemidlalo ukuthi masinyane umuntu omaziyo omusha uzovuma kanjani ukusondelana.

Ingabe i-sexulism iphathwa?

Ukwelashwa kusiza uma umuntu othembekile evuma ukuthi inkinga ikhona. Ukufaniswa nokulutha izidakamizwa kuyadingeka: ukugula ngokocansi kuyisifo lapho kutholakala khona ukuqwashisa kokuzibandakanya nesimo sobulili obungalawuleki. Ukuphumelela kubonakala kakhulu uma ukwelashwa kuqala ngezibonakaliso zokuqala zezimpawu ezinzima. Ngaphandle kwalokho, isisebenzi socansi sizolahlekelwa umndeni, ubudlelwane obusondelene nokukwazi ukuxhumana nomphakathi.

Indlela yokuphatha ubulili?

Ukwelashwa kuqala ngokuvakashela kokuqala ehhovisi le-psychotherapist noma kwengqondo. Isifo sengqondo kuphela esingakwazi ukubhekana nezigaba ezithuthukile, kodwa kuzo zonke ezinye izimo izibhedlela azidingeki. Isiphakamiso, esizoqoka udokotela oqeqeshiwe owazi ukukhipha ubulili, unamaphuzu amaningana:

• ukuthatha imithi yokudambisa imithi enomphumela wokudambisa;
• ukuthuthukiswa kwesimo sokuzilibazisa kanye nekhwalithi yezobuchwepheshe njengengxenye yothando;
• umsebenzi omzimba ojulile;
• ukusetshenziswa kwama-teas okudambisa ngokusekelwe kulamula ye-lemon, i-mint, i-motherwort ne-valerian.

Izisebenzi zobulili ezidumile

Lesi sifo asikhethi isisulu, ngokusekelwe ekuthandeni kwayo noma isimo senhlalo. Ezweni lanamuhla, abezindaba abadumileyo abanobuchwepheshe bezinkinga zokuhlukumeza ngokocansi kunzima kanzima: kumaphephandaba, amahlazo ahlukahlukene, lapho ukuhlukunyezwa kwezinkanyezi ukusiza abasebenzi, abajwayele ukujwayele kanye nabasebenza nabo, bavele. Emakhulwini eminyaka adlule, kwakudingeka bafihle izithakazelo zabo eziphambili noma babe ngaphansi kwezingqinamba nezinsongo. Phakathi kwalabo abadume ngokuziphatha okubi, impilo edumile kakhulu yilezi:

1. Catherine II. "I-nymphomaniac esemqoka yomlando" ibizwa ngokuthi uMmpress waseRussia, mayelana nemikhuba yokulala lapho bonke abadayisi bebazi khona. UCatherine the Great wayengumsebenzi wezocansi futhi washintsha izintandokazi ezincane, njengeiglavu, ezinikezela izikhala ezinzima enkantolo.
2. UDavid Duchovny . Umlingisi, owadingeka adlale ubulili e-"California's Sexual", isikhathi eside wenqaba ukwamukela iqiniso. Ngo-2008, umkakhe, uLea Leoni, akazange amphoqe ukuba axolise esidlangalaleni ngesikhathi exoxwa ngazo zonke izinkohlakalo eziningi.
3. URussell Brand . Umculi waseMelika wayephathwa ngokuphindaphindiwe emitholampilo yokuvuselela ukuze akwazi ukudala umndeni futhi ahlale ethembekile.
4. Mata Hari . Abasebenzi bezinsikazi eziziwayo besifazane babehlale benesithakazelo ezinsizakalweni ezikhethekile: basebenzisa amantombazane ukuba baqashe ama-agents futhi bakhiphe ulwazi oludingekile. Ngokwesibonelo, u-Mata uHarry wakhonza izinkonzo ezimbili ezihlakaniphile futhi wangena emzimbeni kuphela amadoda anzima ngamandla amakhulu.