Ngokwemvelo yayo, ayikho imindeni ehlale inakho konke ephelele. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, abashadile babhekene nobunzima ebuhlotsheni, okuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuvela kobudlelwane obuseduze. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ngokusho kwezibalo, inani elikhulu lohlukaniso lwenzeka.
Njengoba wazi, ubudlelwane obuseduze emshadweni bunomthelela omkhulu emkhathini jikelele wobudlelwane phakathi kwabashade. Phakathi neminyaka, ukufisa komunye nomunye ukupholisa phansi, ukukhathazeka okwakungokwemvelo eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila eshadile kuhamba. Ake sizame ukuhlaziya ukuthi kungani kungenakwenzeka ukugcina umlilo wothando, ukuhlala iminyaka eminingana emshadweni. Cabanga nge-psychology yobuhlobo obuseduze kanye nomthelela wabo ebuhlotsheni bombhangqwana oshadile.
I-Psychology yobuhlobo obuseduze
Ukusondelana nomngane wakho womshado kunomzwelo wokuzithokozisa, okusho ukuthi ukhathazekile ngokwakho kanye nenjabulo yomthandi wakho, ufisa ukwanelisa kokubili izidingo zakhe nezidingo zakho.
Ubuhlobo obuseduze beqiniso buba negalelo elihle ezweni lomuntu lomuntu, kumsize angazizwa enesizungu, ehlukanisiwe.
I-psychology yobuhlobo obunjalo bufaka ukuvuleka ngokomzwelo kubalingani babo. Okusho ukuthi, umtshele imizwa yakho nemizwa yakho, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukulahlwa ngenxa yalo. Lapho ukuvuleka ngokomzwelo kuhlangene, ukuthembela kwabantu abathandana ngokuphathelene komunye nomunye kuqiniswa. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, njengokungathi omunye wabalingani abengafuni, kunzima ukuba avule, ukubika ukuthi akathandi lokho angathanda ukukushintsha. Isizathu salokhu yizithiyo ezasuka ebuntwaneni.
Uma omunye wabalingani esaba ukusondelana ngokomzwelo, ngakho-ke akusizi ukuziphoqa. Kubalulekile ukulwa nokukhathazeka kwezingane, ukuhlaziya imicabango yabo, ukwesaba.
Ubuhlobo obuseduze bendoda nowesifazane buyisisekelo esiqinile somshado uqobo, kodwa uma omunye womshado engathokozi ngesondo futhi ngesizathu esithile asifihla kumlingani, khona-ke isisekelo sizoqedwa. Ama-sexologist aseMelika athi amaphesenti angama-90 emishado yonke ahlukana ngokuqondile ngenxa yokungabi nokuhlangana kobulili. Akunakutsho ukuthi ubulili buyinto esemqoka emshadweni, kodwa ngaphandle kwalolu hlobo lobuhlobo bomshado, njengokungathi ngeketanga, ngeke kube nokuvumelana nezinye izinhlobo zobuhlobo phakathi komyeni nomfazi.
Amadoda nabesifazane, njengokungathi kusuka kumaplanethi ahlukene, banemibono yokubuka umhlaba wonke, ukuqonda izinto ezifanayo, kodwa abakwazi ngaphandle komunye nomunye. Mayelana nendlela yokuqonda kwengqondo yomlingani wakho futhi uqonde ubuhlobo bakhe ebuhlotsheni obuseduze, uchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uJohn Gray kwenye yezincwadi zakhe.
Uthi ubuhlobo obuseduze buyakwazi ukuvula inhliziyo yakho ngokuphelele kumfazi, kukusize ukuba uqaphele imizwa yakho yangempela bese uwabelana nomkakho, futhi ubulili bakhe obuhle bukuvumela ukuba uphumule futhi uzizwe ukusekelwa yindoda yakho ethandekayo ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene zokuphila ndawonye.
Kusukela eminyakeni edlule, ubudlelwane obuseduze bungaba yinto efana nokufeza umthwalo we-conjugal, kodwa hhayi ukuthokoza nokujabulela omunye nomunye, khona-ke sizocubungula izindlela zokuhlukanisa ubulili.
- Qaphela imibala evelele ekamelweni lokulala. Ubomvu buvuselela umuntu. Thenga, isibonelo, ukukhanya okubomvu ebusuku, emisebeni yakhe umzimba ubheka okungcono kakhulu futhi okungaqondakali.
- I-lingerie yama-Erotic iyasiza ukudala ukunyakaza. Uma ungavezwanga ngokuphelele, lokhu kuyimpumelelo evumayo kumuntu.
- Ungakhohlwa ukuthi i-foreplay ingenye yezinhloko
ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Mnike isikhathi esengeziwe. - Izimfihlo zobudlelwane obuseduze zifihliwe, njengoba izimfundiso zaseMpumalanga zikhomba, ngokulungiselela ngokucophelela inqubo ngokwayo. Ukwandisa injabulo, ungasebenzisa ukugcoba amanye amafutha enhlamba esikhumbeni.
- Funda ukuzwela kwakho. Ukuphakamisa, kungathatha ukubuka okusha kwezithombe ezindala ezikhohliwe.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano obuseduze emshadweni kuxhomeke kulowo nalowo mlingani. Ukuvumelana kobudlelwane babo kuyohlale kukhula, uma ukuvuleka nokwethembelana komunye nomunye kubusa.