Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi, zonke izici "ezingakhululekile" zomntwana zibonisa ukubeletha. Sivame ukudala inhlabathi enhle kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ubugovu kumntwana. Ngamathuba onke, sigcizelela okuhlukile, ubuphiko noma ithalenta yengane yethu, futhi ngaleyo ndlela sifaka kuye ukuthi isiqiniseko sokuthi ungumntwana okhethekile kakhulu emhlabeni. Ngesikhathi se-crumb iqala ukuziphatha kahle kanje: idinga ubuhlobo obukhethekile futhi kaningi ayiboni abanye abazungezile.
I-Egoism ivuthwe ngokuphelele futhi ngenxa yokuzithokozisa njalo nokushaywa umoya. Abazali bafuna ukunikeza ingane yonke into ayengayena ebuntwaneni. Bacela amathoyizi abizayo futhi ngamunye "bafuna" bayashesha esitolo, lapho bebs lokuqala baphonsa zonke izindaba zabo futhi banikeze konke ingane ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungokwemvelo ukuthi ajwayele lesi simo sengqondo ngokushesha futhi esikhathini esizayo asikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani isimo sengqondo sesishintshile.
Ngokuvamile kunezimo lapho abazali befuna ngempela ukuthi izingane zabo zifunde, ukudlala ezemidlalo nokuthuthukisa. Kodwa inkinga ukuthi bayayifuna izingane zabo. Ngenxa yalokho, abazali baxazulula izinkinga kubo esikoleni, bahlanza ekamelweni noma bafumbathise ingane nganoma iziphi izibusiso, ukuze azenze yena ngokwakhe. Zombili izindlela ziholele ekutheni isimo siqhubekile kuphela.
Okunye okuhlukile kokuthuthukiswa kwezehlakalo yilokuhlakulela ngokucophelela ingane encane. Izingane ezinjalo zizinakekela kalula futhi azize zenzeke kubo ukuthi kufanele zibonise izimfanelo ezifanayo maqondana nezihlobo zabo. Ezinganeni ezinjalo, ngisho nezimo lapho kudingeka khona ukuxazulula into ethile, ayivuki. Umphumela uba yingozi kakhulu: ingane ingasetshenziselwa ukunakekelwa njalo kumuntu wayo, kodwa futhi ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwalokhu.
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Ngakho-ke, izimo zingahluka kakhulu, kodwa zonke zibuyela emuva ebuntwaneni. Ngakho-ke ama-crumbs for whims noma izidingo ezidlulele azifanele. Udinga ukugxeka abazali, kodwa ngezingane ngisho nangaphezulu ukuze izingane ezindala zidinga ukusebenza. Kulokho, njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi esingaphezulu kwesigamu, kunokuba wasetshenziselwa ukwakheka kwe-egoism.
- Kancane kancane, kodwa ngokuzithemba ususe zonke lezo zinto nemithwalo yemfanelo ingane yakho engayenza yedwa. Isibonelo, izingane ezineminyaka engama-4 ziyakwazi ukuhlanza ekamelweni labo futhi zibeke izingubo eziningi. Ngakho-ke, uzosusa kancane kancane konke okuvimbela izingane ukuba zikhule.
- Kancane kancane ukwethula imisebenzi emisha ekhaya . Uma uqala ukugcizelela ukuzimela kwengane yakho futhi uyiphathe ngendlela efanele, uzoqala kancane ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Thembela amacala ambalwa alula futhi ubacele ukuba abalethe ekugcineni. Njengomvuzo, dumisa ingane futhi uma kungenzeka, yenzeni nendlu.
- Nika ingane yakho ukuba iqhubekele ngaphesheya kobugovu kanyekanye. Omama abaningi bakhononda ukuthi ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwengane, akakwazi neze ukuya esikoleni. Empeleni, uyaqonda kahle ukuthi awukwazi ukulala, ungaqoqi izincwadi. Kodwa emva kwakho konke kungenza futhi kumam. Zama ukuthatha okungenani kanye, futhi ungenzelanga ingane yakho yonke imisebenzi yakhe. Mvumela ukuba abhekane nobunzima nezinkinga.
- Ngemuva kwezinsuku zesikole noma inkulisa, qiniseka ukuthi unesithakazelo hhayi kuphela ukuthi ingane yakho isichitha kanjani usuku. Mbuze mayelana nezindaba zabangane. Uma ejabule ngempela noma ezikhathazayo kubo, khona-ke ngeke kube khona izinkinga futhi ingane ivele ikhule ngokuzikhukhumeza.