Abanye abazali ababoni ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi bahilele izingane ezincane emsebenzini wasekhaya - bathi, kungani bephuca umntwana wengane engakhathazekile, makenze ukudlala amathoyizi futhi akwanele kuye. Futhi azikho ngokuphelele. Izazi zengqondo zezingane nabomndeni ziyavuma ukuthi izingane eziqala ukusiza abazali bazo esikoleni esincane sezingane zasenkulisa zizokwazi ukujwayela kangcono isimo se-enkulisa / isikole, zithole izinkinga ezincane nokuzihlonipha, zizethemba ngokwengeziwe kunabo "abangenandaba nazo" ontanga.
Emasimini amaningi, ungathola uhlu oluthile lwemisebenzi yasendlini yezingane zasenkulisa. Uma ufuna, ungawafunda, kodwa akudingekile. Ngempela, wena, ngokuqinisekile, uyavuma ukuthi ingane yakho ihlukile futhi inobuntu obuhlukile. Ngakho-ke, indlela yomuntu ngamunye iyadingeka lapha. Ingane eyodwa futhi eminyakeni eyisithupha izocabanga ukuthi i-mop iklanyelwe ukwenza ihhashi phakathi nemidlalo. Futhi omunye osevele eneminyaka engamashumi amane angakwazi ukukhipha kahle futhi ngenjabulo ukuhlanza okumanzi ekamelweni lakhe.
Ngakho ngeke nginike izinhlu ezinzima lapha. Le ngqikithi isekelwe kakhulu ekuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu nangokwengqondo, kunokuba kusetshenziswe izindinganiso kanye nezincazelo ezivela ezincwadini zokufunda.
Nini ukuqala ukufundisa ingane emisebenzini yasekhaya?
Eqinisweni, ingane ingaba umsizi wakho esemncane kakhulu. Izingane zifunda konke ngokulingisa abantu abadala, futhi umsebenzi wethu lapha ukuvumela umntwana ukuba asibone, ukubamba isikhathi sokuthakazelisa ukukopisha isinyathelo futhi nje ukusiza ukuxhumanisa nokuhlehlisa lesi senzo.
Ake ngikunike isibonelo kusuka ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Ingane yami eneminyaka engangonyaka ayithandi ukudlala eyedwa kumathoyizi, kodwa yayifuna ukuxhumana njalo nami. Ngenxa yalokho, unyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwakhe, ngenza yonke imisebenzi yasendlini, ngibambe ingane emlenzeni wami noma esitelekeni. Ngingakaze ngiqale ukuhamba, indodana yaqala ukungilandela ngezithende futhi ngokucophelela ukubuka konke, engikwenzayo. Futhi ngonyaka kanye nezinyanga ezimbili wayefuna yena, njengenina, ukuba alayishe izingubo zokugeza emshinini wokugeza. Ngokushesha lesi senzo sokuzijabulisa saba usizo lwangempela: indodana yashiya izingubo zakhe ezihlanziwe emotweni yanginika yona, futhi ngiphakamisa ukuba yome. Ngakho konke engangikulethile, ngambonga ngokudumisa nokubonga kwakhe. Inqubo yonke yabangela umntwana ukuba ajabule okungavamile. Futhi manje, ngemva kokuzwa ukuthi umshini wokuwasha usuqedile umjikelezo wokugeza, u-sonul ungibizela endlini yokugezela futhi ngisiza ngokuthokoza ngokukhulula nokulenga izingubo.
Uma unakekela ingane yakho futhi umvumele ukuthi athathe isinyathelo, uzobona kalula ukuthi imisebenzi yakho evamile iyamthakazelisa yini ukuba iphinde iphinde. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho izofuna ukubeka imilenze endaweni lapho udiliza noma uqoqa umbhede. Noma faka ipuleti elingenalutho ebhodini ngemva kokudla. Myeke akwenze. Yiqiniso, ekuqaleni lezi zinyathelo ezincane zengane yakho ukuzimela ngeke zisindise isikhathi, kodwa esikhathini esizayo zizokwenza isisekelo sokuthi "ukubambisana" kwakho kweqiniso ezindabeni zasekhaya. Ngakho imithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni yengane yakho iyokwakhiwa ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngaphandle kwezinkulumo ezikhethekile zemfundo neziphakamiso.
Indlela yokusabalalisa imithwalo yemfanelo yabantwana nabazali?
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ingane yakho ifinyelele eminyakeni yobudala, ukwazi ukuhlanganyela ezindabeni zelungu lomndeni, futhi akukho usizo noma akwanele kuye - ungesabi ukuthi uzomangalelwa ngokuthi "ukuxhashaza ingane", kodwa khuluma nomndeni wakho mayelana nemithwalo yemfanelo yomntanakho emndenini. Mhlawumbe uzokuhlangabezana nokuphikiswa kukagogo, abajabule ngobuntwana obungenandaba nomzukulu wabo futhi abalungele ukwenza konke ngaye. Ungaphumeleli. Chaza ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi umntwana wekhaya kufanele abe nemithwalo yemfanelo, ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuphila kwakhe esikhathini esizayo. Futhi ulungele ukubamba "umhlangano wokuhlela" kakade ngokuhlanganyela kwengane.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, okokuqala, yenza uhlu lwamacala amancane alula ongathanda ukuwadlulisela kumuntu osendlini (ekuqaleni, amaphuzu angu-2-4 kumuntu ngamunye). Kungcono ukwazi ukuthi kuzoba njani: isibonelo, ukufaka itiye nsuku zonke, ukuchelela izitshalo zasendlini, ukuhlunga izingubo, ukugubha itafula emva kokudla kwasekuseni, kwasemini, isidlo sakusihlwa, njll. Qoqa imindeni yengxoxo (kuyoba ngcono uma uthola ukwesekwa komyeni wakho, nabanye abadala ohlala nabo kusengaphambili). Batshele ukuthi zingaki izinto ezincane, ezibonakala zingenakuqhathaniswa okufanele uyenze ukuze ugcine indlu ihlanzekile futhi ikhululekile; mayelana nesikhathi esithatha ngaso isikhathi - isikhathi esingasetshenziselwa umdlalo noma ukuhamba. Bonisa futhi ufunde uhlu. Mema ingane kanye nabantu abadala ukuba bakhethe ibhizinisi labo ukuthi balungele ukuphendula.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo yisimiso. Ingabe amacala akhethwe yingane okokuqala ngqa naye, ukuze kamuva akudingeki wenze imibono mayelana nokuthi wena ungakuchazanga.
Ingabe le kid ifunde konke? Manje qaphela ukugcwaliseka kwansuku zonke kwezibophezelo. Yenza ingane ibe ngumthwalo wemfanelo. Ukuzama kukagogo abanomusa ukumkhulula emacaleni ("okungenani namhlanje, ukhathele kakhulu") - ayeke. Kuzwakala kunzima, kodwa yileyo ndlela uthuthukisa ngayo umthwalo wemfanelo kumsizi wakho omncane, kanye namakhono ayisisekelo, futhi umfundise ukujabulela imiphumela yomsebenzi wakhe.
Esimweni esinjalo, njengokusatshalaliswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo yabazali nabazali, yiba ngumholi oqinile kodwa onobulungisa - uzobona, lokhu akukuvimbeli ukuba ube ngumama onothando, onomusa, onomusa.