Ukuzithoba kuyethula nsuku zonke empilweni yethu. Abantu abaningi abaqapheli ukuthi wonke umuntu usebenza kuso njalo. Lokhu kwenzeka uma ukhetha isitayela sokugqoka, kuye ngokuthi icala noma ukuziphatha - kusuka esimweni. Leli qhinga lalibizwa ngokuthi "ukuzimela ngokwemvelo."
Kuyini ukuzimela?
Ukuzithobayo kuyinkqubo lapho umuntu eveza khona isithombe sakhe emphakathini wezenhlalakahle futhi uhlose ukwakha umbono othile womuntu wakhe ngabantu abakuzungezile. Ukuzondla yingxenye ebalulekile yamakhono okuxhumana asetshenziswa isintu ukudala isithombe engqondweni yabantu. Umgomo oyinhloko wokuzikhulumela ukuzuza izinzuzo zomphakathi nezokubonakalayo. Ingasetshenziswa ezimweni ezihlukahlukene, ekukhulumisaneni nabantu abangabazi emgwaqeni nasekupheleni kwamazakhamuzi aphakeme kakhulu emahhovisi nasezinhlanganweni zikahulumeni.
Isithombe nokuzethula
Ukufuna umphakathi kungatholakala ngokudala i-halo yokuheha. Ukwandisa ukuzethemba kungenxa yokungajwayelekile komuntu ngamunye kanye nokuheha, okusekelwe amandla okusekela ingxoxo kunoma yisiphi isihloko, ukuba ngumkhulumeli othakazelisayo. Ikhono lokudala nokukhetha isithombe esifanele lisiza ukuheha umuntu wakho futhi uqale ubuhlobo.
Ukuzithoba komuntu kuyadingeka kuwo wonke umuntu. Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu, okuyinhloko yilokhu:
- Ukuthola ezinye izinsiza kwabanye . Zingaba izinto ezibonakalayo, ezifundisayo, ezingokomzwelo. Ikhono lokuzithoba lisiza ngokushesha futhi kulula ukuthatha indawo engavumelekile emsebenzini, ukuheha abesilisa obuhlukile, ukuthola ulimi oluvamile kunoma imuphi umphakathi.
- Ukuklama "I" yakho . Ngokuya ngokuthi bangabonisa kanjani, sizobonwa ngabanye. Ukuhleka okuhle nokumomotheka ekuphenduleni amahlaya akho ukubeka umuntu onobuqili futhi ojabule, futhi uma utshele ukuthi unamandla futhi unolwazi, uzozizwa usheshe kakhulu.
- Ukuhamba okukhulu kokuxhumana nabantu . Amazwi acacile ngamaphutha abanye abantu azonciphisa inani lamazwana ekhelini lakho. Lokhu kuziphatha kuzokwehlisa kakhulu izinga lokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa nokugxeka ngokushelelayo ekukhulumisaneni.
Izinhlobo zokuziveza
Ukuzwakalisa ukukhuluma nokukhuluma okungezona ngamazwi yizinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko zokuzondla. Bakhombisa ngokucacile ubuntu emhlabeni jikelele nasezindaweni eziphathekayo (abanye osebenza nabo emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe noma abadluli abadabulayo-ngokuhambahamba epaki noma emigwaqweni yedolobha, ikhono lakho lokuxhumana nomndeni noma abangane).
Ukuzwakalisa ukuzwakalisa izenzo kuvumela ukusetshenziswa kwezici ezihlukumezayo namathuluzi olimi ukwakha isithombe esithile somuntu othize. Ukwengeza, leli fomu lokuziphendulela lulimi olulotshiwe. Izindlela zokuxhumana ezingekho emlomo zihlanganisa ukushintshaniswa kolwazi nokuxhumana ngaphandle kokusetshenziswa kwamagama. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukubonakala kwesibonakaliso, ukuzithokozisa, izinkomba zamasignali nezisignali. Izindlela zokuxhumana ezinjalo zazibizwa ngokuthi izilimi eziyinhloko neziyisisekelo noma zemvelo nezifakelwayo.
Indlela yokwenza isethulo?
Lapho wenza isethulo, ungasebenzisa enye yezindlela ezimbili: ukulungiswa ebangeni elithile labantu noma ube umholi wabo. Ngenguqulo yokuqala udinga ukubekezela futhi ubukele leli qembu ngokucophelela okwesikhashana. Udinga ukunaka indlela yabo yokuxhumana, izihloko ezixoxe ngazo, ukuziphatha kanye nemikhuba. Lokhu kuzothola ngokushesha ulimi oluvamile nabantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo futhi bangazizwa behlukile. Noma kunjalo, ukuzondla okunjalo akufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Indlela yesibili ihlanganisa amaphuzu ambalwa abalulekile:
- Udinga ukuba nombukiso omuhle;
- Lungiselela inkulumo ecacile neqondakalayo;
- Gcizelela amandla akho;
- Gcizelela izimfanelo zakho.
Ukuzithoba-ukuthi uzoqala kuphi?
I-self-presentation ye-interview ihlanganisa izigaba eziyisihlanu eziyinhloko, okunye okumele kwenziwe ngokucophelela. Iqukethe:
- ukuzimela;
- uhlangana;
- ukushintshela engxoxweni;
- ingxoxo ngokwayo;
- indlela yokuphuma kwengxoxo.
Esikhathini sesigaba sokuqala, ozobhalwa esihlalweni esingenasici kumele azethule yena, emva kokunikeza igama lakhe eligcwele nezwi ngenhloso yokuvakashelwa. Ngalesi sigaba, abaxhumanisi kufanele bahlolisise futhi bajwayele ukujwayela, ngoba ngamunye wabo unezwi elihlukile lezwi, ukubukeka nesimo sokukhuluma. Ukuzithoba ngokwakho kufanele kwenziwe ngomoya ozolile, ngisho nezwi, hhayi ukuthuthumela ngenjabulo. Uma ukwazi ukuthola ulwazi mayelana nenkampani, kufanelekile ukuchaza, kodwa kudingeka uqiniseke ukuthi unokwethenjelwa.
Indlela yokuqhuba isethulo?
Ukuzibandakanya kokubamba ngokuvama kuvame ukuqhutshwa ngomuntu oyedwa, kodwa kubanye iqembu labantu. Ukuzondla kuyophumelela uma ungakwazi ukuthakazelisa izethameli ngenkulumo yentuthuko. Ochwepheshe abanokuhlangenwe nakho bakholelwa ukuthi ngemva kokuziveza ngokwakho kuwusizo ukucela imfumbe yezobucayi bese uxhuma abalaleli ku-interactive. Le ndlela izosusa ingxabano engenzeka futhi ibangele ukuqiniseka. Ngemuva kwalokho - hlela amaphuzu abalulekile enkulumo bese wenza isakhiwo sayo. Bambelela ngokuqinile kuhlelo, ukuze ungaphuthelwa umzuzu obalulekile.
Indlela yokuqedela ukuzethula?
Ubuciko bokuzimela buhlanganisa ukuhanjiswa ngokufanele kwesigaba ngasinye. Ukuphela kokusebenza akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu kunokuqala nokunikezwa kwesisekelo esiyinhloko senkulumo. Ukuze uthole ukuzithokozisa okuphumelelayo, udinga ukuqedela ngendlela yokuqala. Ukwenza lokhu:
- fingqa inkulumo yakho;
- faka isiphetho esinengqondo, ubeke ugcizelele kumzuzwana obalulekile;
- khuthaza abalaleli ukuba benze isenzo.
Ukuzidela-izincwadi
Umuntu ngamunye uzama ukuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yokuphila, futhi lokhu kuyadingeka ukuthuthukisa ezinkombini eziningana futhi ube nokusekela okuqinile kwezezimali. Ngokusho kososayensi, "kungabuthwa" hhayi nje ngenxa yokungabi nolwazi olukhethekile, kodwa nokuziphakamisa. Ebhizinisini elinjalo elingahlelekile lizosiza ukuzimela kwangempela. Kungenzeka ukujwayela ngezibonelo ezihlukahlukene zokwenza nokugqugquzela izenzo ezincwadini ezinjalo:
- "Ukuqeqesha ukuzimela" E. Mikhailova. Igama likhuluma ngokwalo. Umlobi uchaza amaphuzu amakhulu okusebenzisana kwebhizinisi nokuziphatha.
- "Ukufaka uphawu lomuntu siqu" F. Kotler, I. Rein, M. Stoller. Le ncwadi isisiza ukuba ufunde indlela yokuthola ukuthandwa. Ababhali bacaphuna izindaba eziphumelelayo zababantu abanjengoDavid Beckham, uDonald Trump, uKhristina Aguilera.
- "Amantombazane amahle angenzi umsebenzi" uL. Frankel. Le ncwadi ifundisa indlela yokugwema ukwenza amaphutha uma uzama ukuphakamisa izinga lezemisebenzi.