Ukukhulelwa kungenye yezinkathi ezinhle kunazo zonke ekuphileni komfazi. Kodwa okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukukhulelwa kuyinkqubo yemvelo yemvelo, ehambisana nezinguquko ezihlukahlukene emzimbeni wesifazane. Ngokuqondene nalezi zinguquko, owesifazane angase azizwe ngendlela ehlukene ngezigaba ezihlukene zokukhulelwa. Ngokuvamile, bobabili abashadile bathola injabulo yezindaba ezifana nokuzalwa kwengane, kodwa lokhu kwenzeka uma indoda nomfazi bethemba omunye komunye, futhi phakathi kwabo kukhona uthando nokuqonda. Futhi uma owesifazane engaqiniseki kumuntu wakhe, khona-ke kukhona inkinga encane.
Indlela yokwazisa umyeni wami mayelana nokukhulelwa?
Inkinga evame kakhulu phakathi kwabesifazane abaye bafunda ngokukhulelwa kwabo ukuthi bangatshela kanjani abayeni babo ngesimo sabo esithakazelisayo nendlela yokulungisa umyeni ngokukhulelwa. Abesifazane abaningi bakhathazekile ngalolu daba, ngoba indoda ingase ingakulungeli ngokuphelele kulolu daba lwezenzakalo ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Futhi ngowesifazane, ukusekelwa yindoda ethandekayo kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu kulo mzuzu. Ngakho ungaba kanjani? Ungatshela kanjani umuntu ngokukhulelwa? Kunezindlela eziningi zokutshela umyeni wakho ngokukhulelwa, ungabonisa lezi zindaba ngesimanga, ungaqala ingxoxo ebalulekile, njalonjalo. Yenza njengoba inhliziyo ikhuluma.
Ukusabela komuntu ekukhulelweni kungabonakaliswa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ungabambezeli izindaba ukuthi ukhulelwe ngenxa yokwesaba okungenzeka. Khumbula, uma umyeni ezwa ngokukhulelwa kwakho akuveli kuwe (isibonelo, kusuka kwelinye ilunga lomndeni), lokhu kuyoba yisikhathi sengxoxo ebalulekile noma ngisho nokuhlambalaza. Indoda ingase ikhohliswe futhi ibuze ukuthembela emndenini. Udinga ukuveza indlela yokutshela umyeni wakho ngokukhulelwa. Kunconywa ukwenza lokhu endaweni enokuthula, indawo enhle ekhaya, ukuze umyeni ovela emsebenzini angapheli amandla emgodini wendlu yakho elwa nezindaba ezinjalo ezimangalisa.
Ukusabela komuntu ekukhulelweni
Amadoda amaningi ayajabula ngalezi zindaba ezinhle, ngoba yini engaba yindoda enhle kunokuba ubaba! Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abakulungele lokhu. Lokhu kusabisa owesifazane kakhulu. Uma ukukhulelwa kungahlelelwe, khona-ke indoda ingase ingamangaleli ngalomyalezo ojabulisayo, kodwa futhi inganelisekile nayo. Kunezimo lapho ufunda ngokukhulelwa, umyeni uphonsa umkakhe. Futhi kusukela kulokho akekho omzimba.
Abesifazane abaningi besaba ukuthi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa umyeni uzoqala ukushintsha, njengoba ukubukeka kwesisu noma isisindo somzimba kungathinta ngandlela-thile ubuhlobo obuseduze. Lezi yizinto ezingokwemvelo zowesifazane okhulelwe, njengoba abaningi bezwile ngezimo ezingathandeki empilweni yabangane noma abangane ukuthi ukukhulelwa kungabangela ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe ngenxa yokunciphisa ngokocansi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kukhona amacala lapho ukukhulelwa kubangela izinkinga kumyeni ohlotshaniswa nokuntula ukuqonda komunye nomunye, kodwa kuxhomeke ekubambeni ubuhlobo phakathi komyeni nomfazi.
Lungiselela umyeni wakho ngokukhulelwa
Amadoda ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa angaziphatha ngendlela ehlukile. Lungiselela umyeni wakho ngokukhulelwa, udinga ngokucophelela, ukuze ukuhlaselwa ngokweqile akudambisi intshiseko yakhe. Yiqiniso, indoda enothando ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ifuna ukuzondla ukunakekelwa nokuthandana kwakhe okuthandwayo ngesikhatsi esimangalisayo sokuphila kwabo ndawonye. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi amadoda angenangqondo futhi ayathukuthele kangangokuba kubonakala sengathi empeleni bakhulelwe. Indoda ethandekayo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe umfazi ingabhekana nemfanelo ephezulu yempilo yabathandekayo bakhe, ngakho-ke ithatha imisebenti eminingi yasendlini, iqala ukuhola indlu futhi ifundise izihlobo indlela yokuziphatha phakathi nale nkathi ethile yokuphila komndeni. Ukungenelela akudingekile, uma umuntu engeke aguqe induku (isibonelo, ukuphoqelela izihlobo emnyango wendlu ukuthi zigqoke amabhandeki e-gauze ebusweni!). Okubi nakakhulu uma umyeni engakhokhisi okwanele umkakhe, ekholelwa ukuthi ukukhulelwa kuvamile, futhi umfazi uyakwazi ukubhekana nalokhu. Owesifazane kule ndawo "ezithakazelisayo" udinga nje usizo nokusekelwa, hhayi kuphela ngokomzimba, kodwa nangokwengqondo. Noma yimuphi owesifazane okhulelwe ufuna indoda yakhe futhi igcwale uthando ngendodana engakazalwa futhi ingabelana naye, yonke leyo mizwa emisha evela kuye esigabeni sokuphila. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, isimo sengqondo sokukhulelwa phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane sihlukile. Phela, lona wesifazane, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungumgcini wendlu, uyindlovukazi, futhi indoda yindlalifa, kufanele akwazi ukuondla umndeni wakhe. Futhi le ndoda ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa komkakhe, kufanele kuqala ukuthi inakekele ukuchuma komndeni, kunokuba ithathe ingxenye engaphezulu kwengxenye yemisebenzi yasendlini futhi ibe ngumama wendlu. Bobabili amaqembu kufanele athole ukuqonda okufanayo futhi achaze imithwalo yabo yemfanelo. Phela, owesifazane okhulelwe angacabanga ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyamkhokhela isikhathi esincane, futhi umyeni wakhe usebenza ngokugqoka nokusilela ukusekelwa komndeni nakho konke okudingekayo.
Ukukhulelwa - kungani indoda ingafuni ucansi?
Kodwa kuthiwani uma indoda iziphatha ngendlela ehlukile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa komfazi? Ingabe uzenza sengathi akukho lutho olwenzekile, noma uziphatha ngendlela ekhululekile? Ukuziphatha komyeni ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kungase kube okuhlukile kokujwayelekile. Kulokhu akukho okungaqondakali, ngoba umuntu uyoba nemicabango ngaphambi kokuba angene. Isibonelo, indoda ivele icabange ukuthi impilo yokulala ngokocansi idlulile, ubulili buzokhawulelwa, futhi buze buyeke, ngoba umfazi manje uzocabangela kuphela ingane yengomuso, uzoyeka ukuzibuka yena nokunye okuningi. Manje kufanele asebenze kanzima ukuze akwazi ukusekela ngokwezimali umndeni wakhe mayelana nokubuyiswa kabusha. Mhlawumbe uzodinga nje isikhathi sokuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani. Umfazi naye uzocabanga ukuthi manje uzothola isisindo, umama wakhe uzokukhula, futhi ngeke abe mnandi kumyeni wakhe. Umqondo wokuthi umyeni ngeke athole ubulili okwanele, uthuthuke ube ngukungathembeki kokungathembeki komyeni wakhe, ngenxa yalokho, ukuqonda okufanayo kuyoba ukungaqondi kahle okuphelele. Uma ugcina umthandi wakho ngaphansi kwengcindezi eqhubekayo, khona-ke ukukhishwa komyeni ngesikhathi ukhulelwe kungabonakala, hhayi nje ukusola.
Ukukhulelwa nobuhlobo nomyeni wakhe
Izindaba ukuthi intombi yakho ishiye umyeni wayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma indoda ishiya omunye owesifazane, yenza ucabange ukuthi ukukhulelwa kungabangela izinkinga nomyeni wakhe, okungukuthi, izinkinga emndenini. Yebo, kwenzeka. Kodwa ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka futhi uyisiphukuphuku emndenini wakho. Kungani kusengaphambili
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