Uze kube nini uye endaweni yokudlala? Uma manje ubheka e-sandbox, kuyoba nzima ukunquma ukuthi ubani ohamba nomntwana: unina, udadewabo noma ugogo wakhe. Yebo, lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu futhi akusikho ihlaya. Uma eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-12 eyedlule, abesifazane babeletha cishe eminyakeni yobudala, manje baneminyaka engu-14 ubudala, abaneminyaka engu-34 ubudala, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nangemva kwalokho. Lokhu kuhlotshaniswa nokulungiswa okunye kokuqaphela abesifazane besimanje, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile isimo ezweni sichaza ukuthi kungakanani iminyaka yokubeletha owesifazane, ngoba akuzona njalo izinzuzo zomphakathi ezanele ngisho nangokwengeziwe okudingekayo.
Ubudala bokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala
Ngokulingana ngokunembile, kungashiwo ukuthi isikhathi semvelo nesokwengqondo sokuzalwa kwezibulo sihluke kakhulu. Kunezici eziningi ozidingayo ukucabangela ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sokukhulelwa ingane. Uma owesifazane ekulungele ukubeletha ingane enempilo eminyakeni engama-20-25, khona-ke ukuqonda "ukuvuthwa" isikhathi eside kakhulu nokulungela kwengqondo kuza kaningi eminyakeni engama-30. Ngakho-ke, isilinganiso seminyaka yokuzalwa kwengane siseduze neminyaka engama-28-30. Kungani abaningi behlehlisa ukukhulelwa kamuva?
- Ukukhula komsebenzi . Ngemuva kwesikole, ukukhula kokukhula komsebenzi kuwela iminyaka engama-25-30, ngalesi sikhathi owesifazane uyaqonda ukuthi "iwashi liyabheka", kodwa abantu abaningi abaqapheli ukushiya umsebenzi ngalesi sigaba.
- Ukukhishwa kwezindlu . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka yobudala unquma ukuzala, ingane ayidinga ukukhuthazela kuphela, kodwa futhi iqinisekise ukuthi kuzo izimo ezivamile zokuphila. Ngakho-ke, kubaningi, kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ungazalanga izingane eminyakeni, kepha indlela yokuzihlinzeka yona kanye nengane enezindlu.
- Ukungazilungiseleli kwengqondo. Amantombazane yanamuhla abheka impilo yabo ayazi ukuthi kungakanani iminyaka eyadingeka ukuba abelethe owesifazane, kodwa bambalwa abasheshayo ukuwenza ngesikhathi. Iqiniso liwukuthi ukulungela kwengqondo kungafika kokubili eminyakeni engama-20 nangama-30, futhi ezweni elinamathuba amakhulu, lapho ungakwazi ukufunda nokuhamba, ukuxhumana nabantu abaningi emazweni ahlukene futhi ufunde okuningi, kukhona amantombazane ambalwa avuma ku-25 iminyaka yokuzikhiphela ezizindongeni ezine futhi zizungezwe yintaba yama-diapers namabhodlela.
- Ukungenzi lutho. Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane ulungele ukuzalwa kwengane eneminyaka engu-20, kodwa inkinga ixazululwa iminyaka engu-30 ngokumelene nentando yakhe.
Zingaki iminyaka ezidingekayo zokubeletha?
Uma unquma ukuthi isikhathi sokuzalwa kwezibulo akufanele senzeke ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-30, udinga ukukhumbula uhlu lwezingozi ezingase zilindele kuwe:
- Ukungafuni ukukhulelwa . Iqiniso liwukuthi akugcini nje ukuthi uguga, kodwa amaqanda akho - eziningi zazo emva kweminyaka engama-30 zibonakala ngomzimba njengomshado, ukuze umzimba uzame ukuwuqeda. Isongo sokukhulelwa kwesisu senyukela ku-30%.
- Ukuzalwa kwamawele. Uma ucabanga ukuthi akunandaba ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki obelethayo, uma impilo yakho ingadabuki nje, lungele ukubonakala kwezinsana ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Umzimba ubonakala sengathi uzama ukubamba futhi uneminyaka engama-30-35 ukuphakama kwamathuba okukhulelwa amawele. Nakuba kuyinto ejabulisayo kabili, kodwa futhi nomthwalo omkhulu womzimba.
- Izinkinga nge-placenta. Ingozi yokuntuleka kwe-placental (i-placenta ikhula ngaphambi kokuba ingane ikwazi ukuthuthukisa) iphezulu kakhulu noma i-placenta ayimelwe kahle (kubonakala ivimba umlomo wesibeletho futhi ivimbele ukuthuthukiswa kwemvelo kokuzalwa).
- Ukuhluleka kwamahomoni emzimbeni.
- "Bouquet" yezifo. Lapho esekhulile, owesifazane usuvele esondela ekukhulelwe ngezifo ezihlukahlukene zezinhliziyo, izinkinga zezinso, ngokuvamile ushukela ophezulu wegazi, konke lokhu kunomphumela omubi ekuthwaleni.
- Uma unquma ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani yokubeletha, cabanga nje ngokukhulelwa, kodwa futhi mayelana nokubeletha uqobo. Izitho zakho zobulili zigcina zilahlekelwa ukuqina kwazo futhi ikhono lesibeletho sokuthela izithelo linciphisa, kodwa amathuba okuba buthakathaka kanye nezikhala ezihlukahlukene, ngokuphambene, ziyanda.