Mhlawumbe, wonke umuntu empilweni wayenenkinga yokuhlukana, emva kwalokho othandekayo akaphumi ekhanda lakhe isikhathi eside. Akagcini nje ngokushiya imicabango yakhe, kodwa futhi ubonakala ngamaphupho. Ezimweni ezinjalo, abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungani umuntu owayengumthanda waphupha futhi kusho ukuthini lokho? Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kuwukubonakaliswa nje kokucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho, futhi ngezinye izikhathi amaphupho anjalo ayingqayizivele ngekusasa.
Kungani bephupha ngabathandekayo bokuqala?
Kukhona ulwazi ukuthi amaphupho angumsebenzi we-subconscious, futhi ngokuhlaziywa okufanele umuntu angaziqonda. Ososayensi emva kokuhlolwa baye baphetha ngokuthi uma amantombazane ehlanganyela namadoda, amaphupho abengabangani abalingani afanelekile. Izazi zemiqondo zithi umbono owejwayelekile ophuphayo ngomuntu owawuthandana naye uyisibonakaliso asicabanga futhi usawuthanda nje uyisizathu esikahle futhi empeleni konke okusesimweni sesimame. Ochwepheshe bathi uma izinzwa zipholile phansi, amaphupho azophela ngokwabo.
Umbono wabalingisi bezinkanyezi, uthando lwangaphambili lwaluphupha ngani?
Kunezincazelo eziningi ezihlukene zamaphupho anjalo, okuzosiza ukufunda ngekusasa. Ngokuvamile ukubukeka kwabalingani bokuqala ephusheni kubonisa ukuthi izenzakalo zangesikhathi esidlule azivumeli impilo entsha iqale futhi iqaphele. Uma emibonweni yasebusuku intombazane yaphinde yahlukana nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili - lokhu kuyisidingo somuntu omusha obaziyo. Iphupho lapho ukuphikisana kwenzeka khona kuyisibonakaliso esihle, esibonisa izinguquko ezinhle ekuphileni kwakho komuntu siqu.
Kuyoba okuthakazelisayo ukwazi ukuthi yikuphi amaphupho wokubanga nomuntu othandekayo. Isakhiwo esinjalo sisho ukuthi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze kuzodingeka kusimangaze kakhulu ngenxa yesimo esiye savela. Yenza uthando ephusheni ngenye yangaphambili