Namuhla umqondo wokuthi "ukubeletha komlingani" usezwile isikhathi eside. Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile isivele iqhaza ekuzalweni kwezingane zabo. Kodwa lo mlingani ekubelethweni angeke abe ngumlingani kuphela, kodwa futhi noma ubani osondelene naye. Ukubeletha kozakwethu kungenzeka nomama wakho noma nentombi yakho. Into esemqoka ukuthi umuntu angasiza owesifazane ekubelethweni ngokusebenzisa yonke inqubo yokuzalwa - kusukela ekulwa kuze kube sekuzalweni kwengane. Umsizi akuyona nje umuntu ongaphandle, uyingxenye ekhuthele ekubelethweni, okufaka isandla ekwakheni isimo esingokomqondo sengqondo sowesifazane osemsebenzini, kumsiza ukuba anciphise ubuhlungu futhi asekele kokubili ngokokuziphatha nangokomzimba.
Ukuzalwa kozakwethu: "for" futhi "ngokumelene"
Ukuba khona komyeni wakhe
Ukubeletha komlingani nomyeni wakhe kuhle ngoba esimweni esinzima kangaka, njengengane, indoda ingenza "njengamahlombe aqinile" nangokwengqondo (indoda ingasungula uxhumano phakathi kowesifazane nowodokotela) futhi ngokomzimba (emuva nangesifuba singasetshenziswa njengesekelo isikhathi sokuphambana).
Kule "minuses" yokubeletha nomyeni wakhe kungathiwa ukuvimbela owesifazane, owesilisa osengozini (psychiatry), amadoda amaningi aphelelwe amandla ekamelweni lokulethwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kwamadoda athile, ukubeletha kwabalingani kubathinta ubuhlobo obuseduze bomshado.
Ukuba khona kukaMama
Ungathatha umama wakho ekuzalweni kuphela lapho indodakazi yakho nomama besondelene kakhulu futhi bethemba ubudlelwane. Inzuzo yokubeletha okunjalo yukuthi owesifazane obelethayo, eqonda kangcono okwenzekayo, phambi kwakhe ungakhohlwa ukuhlazeka.
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ukuba khona komama kungaba nomthelela ohlukile. Umama okhulelwe, onomuzwa wokuthi unakekelwa ngumama wakhe, ukhululekile kangangokuthi uyeka ukubamba iqhaza ekubelethweni. Futhi, kunezimo lapho umama ekhathazeka kakhulu ngendodakazi yakhe, ama-panic futhi evimba odokotela kuphela.
Ukuba khona komngani
Intombi ekhona esigodini sokubeletha inezinzuzo zikamama, kodwa ayikho inzuzo. Uyakwazi ukuqonda intombazane futhi uzwele naye, kuyilapho egcina ukuqonda, futhi ahlele ukuxhumana nodokotela.
Okuwukuphela kokungalungi kokubeletha nomngane ukuthi, uma kungazelelwe ubuhlobo phakathi kwamantombazane buye buthaka, khona-ke ukusondelana kakhulu kungaziwa abaningi.
Ukuzalwa komlingani kungakanani?
Kukhona izinhlobo eziningana zokubeletha komlingani.
- Uma lo mlingani ekhona kulo lonke uhlelo lokudiliva. Lolu khetho lungcono kakhulu kulabo abashadile abaqiniseka ngokugcwele kwisinqumo sokubeletha ndawonye.
- Uma lo mlingani ekhona empini, kodwa ngesikhathi sokuzama nokuzalwa kwengane, ucelwa ukuba ashiye. Uyamenywa uma i-crumb ifakwa esifubeni. Lokhu kuyindlela ehlukile kakhulu eyamukelekayo yokulethwa okuhlanganyelwe ukusuka endaweni yokubuka yabesifazane.
- Uma ubaba emenywa kuphela lapho ebeka ingane esifubeni. Lolu khetho luyamukeleka nakakhulu "emoyeni" wesilisa "obuthakathaka".
Ukubambisana nababelethi esikhungweni se- cearean ezikhungweni ezahlukene zezokwelapha baphathwa ngokuhlukile. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi lo mlingani uzovunyelwa ukuba abe khona ekamelweni lokusebenza. Mhlawumbe angaba khona kuphela ekuqaleni kwenqubo. Kwezinye izindlu zokubeletha, amadoda abeka umntwana esifubeni futhi avunyelwe ukumnakekela emahoreni wokuqala okuphila.
Ukulungiselela ukuzalwa kwabalingani
Ukulungiselela ukubeletha okuhlangene, kubalulekile ukuhlanganyela ndawonye izifundo zabafazi abakhulelwe, umlingani kufanele abonise ngokunembile ukuthi ukubeletha kwenzekani nokuthi yimuphi umsebenzi wayo kule nqubo.
Yini oyidingayo ekuzalweni komlingani?
Ukuze ube umlingani ekubelethweni komlingani, umyeni kumele adlulise ezinye izivivinyo.
Ukuhlaziywa okuphoqelekile kokubeletha kwabalingani kubandakanya:
- ukuhlolwa kwegazi ngokuphendula kukaWasserman;
- nge-HIV;
- kwi-hepatitis;
- I-Fluorography;
- smear on staphylococcus kusuka ekhaleni.