Indoda nowesifazane ababoshelwe umshado baba munye. Ikakhulukazi kungenzeka ukuthi ukhulume ngobumbano nobudlelwane obungokomoya uma isakramente somshado lenziwa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukubumbana kubaluleke kakhulu embonweni wezocansi.
Ubuhlobo bobulili phakathi kwabashadile buyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu emnyangweni womndeni, oveza ukufudumala, uthando nomthando omunye nomunye. Mayelana nokugcwaliseka kwezibopho zomshado, iSonto Lama-Orthodox linemithetho eminingi ebalulekile, izimfundiso.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ubulili ngesikhathi sokushesha?
Umsebenzi womshado ngumsebenzi womndeni, okuwukubonakaliswa kothando phakathi kwabantu ababili. Ngokuphathelene nalokhu, ungathathi lokhu njengokuziphatha okubi nesono, ngoba ekuthunjweni ukulala ocansini akuvunyelwe.
Enye yezincwadi zakhe, umphostoli uPawulu ukhuthaza abashade ukuba bangadli, ukuze bangalingwa futhi bangangeni esonweni.
Kukholelwa ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuzila nokuthandaza, bona ngokwabo banelungelo lokususa isikhathi sokuzilahla ngokobulili futhi kwenziwa kuphela ngokuvumelana. Uma omunye wabalingani engafuni ukwenqaba ucansi, ke owesibili akanalo ilungelo lokulahla, ngokusekelwe kuphela ekuvinjweni kokwenza uthando ngosuku olusheshayo.
Ubulili ngesikhathi seLent
Ukuphumula yisikhathi sokuhlanzwa. Abantu abafaki ukudla okuvela kwimenyu yabo yezilwane, iziphuzo ezidakayo, kumele basuse imikhuba emibi. Kodwa endabeni yezocansi ngesikhathi seLent konke kunzima kakhulu.
Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, ubuhlobo obuseduze phakathi kwabashadile bomthetho akuyona isono. Kodwa-ke, amakholi amaningi awanalo iphuzu elivamile kulo mbandela.
Abanye bayaqiniseka ukuthi ukuphumula yisikhathi lapho umuntu eqina khona futhi ephikisana nezilingo ezihlukahlukene kusukela ekunciphiseni kwezenzo zakhe nemikhuba yakhe.
Abanye bacabanga ukuthi ukuphila kwama-Christian okuzibophezela kwamaKristu akhululekile, okungekho amasiko angawaphazamisa.
Kodwa namanje kunezinsuku lapho ungakwazi ukulala naye kokuthunyelwe. Lokhu kufaka phakathi uLwesihlanu othandekayo nayo yonke isonto elivusa amadlingozi. ISonto alivumeli ukungena ekuxhumeni obuseduze ngesikhathi kulungiswa isakramente soMkhosi Ongcwele.
Abaningi babona okuthunyelwe njengento enzima futhi benqanda inkululeko yabo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuyibuka kusuka kwenye indawo. Ukuzila ukudla kusiza umuntu ukuba athuthukise, abe namandla futhi angaphansi kwesilingo. Lokhu kusebenza futhi ebuhlotsheni obuseduze.
Yiqiniso, akulula kubabaningi ukugwema ukusondelana ngokobulili, ikakhulukazi imibhangqwana emisha. Kodwa abathandekayo abanganamatheli emaphoyiseni banezinkinga eziningi ezingxenyeni eziseduze kunabanye.
Ngenxa yokwaneliseka ngokweqile nokupholisana komunye nomunye, kunesifiso sokuthi ngandlela-thile ihlukanise impilo yezocansi. Umuntu ohlanjululwa ngaso sonke isikhathi akanayo ubukhali nokuheha ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukuhlanekezela okuhlukahlukene futhi kungafinyelela nokuhlukunyezwa.
Ukuzila ukudla kusiza ukugcina ukufudumala kobudlelwane bomzimba, kodwa futhi kukhuthaza ukuhlangana okungokomoya. Ngesikhathi indoda nomfazi bezilahla ngokocansi, imizwa yabo iqala ukuzibonakalisa ngendlela ehlukile. Kuboniswa ekunakekeleni, ekuqondeni, ekunakekeleni nasekusekeleni.
Yiqiniso, njengoba sekushiwo ngenhla, ukuzila ukudla ngesikhathi sokuzila kufanele kube yintando yabo bobabili abathintekayo. Futhi, uma omunye womlingani engakabi namasiko esonto, khona-ke akufanele ahambe ngokumelene nentando yakhe. Kungenzeka ukuthi, isibonelo, umfazi udla nokuzila, kanti umyeni okwamanje uzokufuna ukushintshwa komunye owesifazane. Ukuqhubeka kulokhu, singakusho lokho ukuze silondoloze uthando nokuthula emndenini kunconywa ukuzithoba ekutheni komunye.