Mhlawumbe, wonke ummeleli wezocansi omuhle okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wabona iphupho lapho umfana wangaphambili ecabanga khona. Amaphupho anjalo emva kokuhlukanisa ajwayelekile, ngoba abonisa ukuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi. Kodwa kuthiwani uma leli phupho livela emva kwesikhathi eside, lapho sekukhona ezinye ubuhlobo. Kulesi simo, sizozama ukuqonda.
Kungani umfana wangaphambili ephupha?
Amantombazane amaningi ayaqiniseka ukuthi isizathu sokuthi umfana uthanda futhi ahlale ecabanga. Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyisizathu esihle, esiyi-amneses, kodwa lokhu kungenzeka kanjani? Okuwukuphela kokhetho ukutholakala kwamakhono akhe omlingo, okungeke kwenzeke. Ngokuvamile, amaphupho abonakalisa ukwesaba kwakho nokuzizwa kwakho, ngakho-ke isizathu sokuthi umuntu owake waba yindoda ngokuvamile ephupha ukubuka wena.
Izizathu ezingenzeka:
- Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka uma uhlukana, awukwazanga ukubeka wonke amaphuzu angaphezulu kwe "futhi". Ukuba khona empilweni yangempela yemicabango mhlawumbe wenze iphutha noma uhlale ufuna umenzi wobubi ngalokho okwenzekile. Kulesi simo, kunconywa ngokushesha emva kokuvusa ukurekhoda imizwelo oyizwayo ngesikhathi ubuthongo. Isibonelo, uma uphupha ngomshado womfana wangaphambili futhi ujabule ngaye, lokhu kuyimpawu yalokho ebuhlotsheni obudlule ubujabule futhi endaweni ethile ezingeni elingenakuqaphela lingathanda ukubuyisela konke emuva. Uma uzizwa uhlambalaza, ngakho-ke, cishe empilweni yangempela uhlukumeze kakhulu kumlingani wakho wangaphambili. Uma uhlaziya ngokucophelela leli phupho, thola imbangela bese uyilungisa, khona-ke amaphupho azoshabalala ngokwabo.
- Esinye isizathu esenza umuntu owayeyindoda ejwayele ukuphupha ukuthi uyaphila
ukubonakala komunye umuntu kusuka empilweni yakho yangempela. Lokhu kuzovezwa yiqiniso lokuthi amaphupho omuntu owayengumthandi angakuzwisi umzwelo . Kulesi simo, kunconywa ukuba uhlaziye ngokucophelela leli phupho futhi unqume ukuthi ubonakala nobani, mhlawumbe lokhu kungumngani ofana naye okuningi. Ngokuvamile lawo maphupho ebusuku ubonakalisa izinkinga ezikhona futhi, ngokuxazulula, uzosusa imihlangano yobusuku nomlingani wangaphambili. - Uma unomhlangano nesoka langaphambili, mhlawumbe isignali ukuthi awukhululekile nomlingani wamanje. Wena ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa liqhathanisa nabafana, futhi kwento ethile isifiso samanje silahlekelwa. Kulesi simo, isixazululo esisodwa ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nomthandekayo wakho, mbonise ukunganaki kwakho futhi uxazulule izinkinga ezikhona.