Ukulalela iziyalezo zabanye abantu kudingekile ngezikhathi ezithile kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa ukuphathwa okuhlala njalo kungakwazi ukushayela abantu ukuphosa. Ikakhulukazi lokhu akujabulisi ebuhlotsheni, ngakho-ke izibonakaliso zomlindi wesilisa, ongase abe ngumashiqela, kuyisifiso sokuthola kusengaphambili. Njengoba ekukhulumisaneni kwesikhathi eside kwakha ubuhlobo obungavumeli nje ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane obuhlungu.
Izimpawu zomshayeli womyeni
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuxhaphazwa kuyisimo sengqondo esifihliwe, ngakho-ke isisulu sibonakala sisola konke okwenzekayo. Okuyinhloko yezibonakaliso zendoda yomshoshaphansi kanye nomuntu oyisimangaliso kuyisifiso sakhe okokuqala ukuthola ukuthi kwenzeke kangakanani ngezikhathi zonke ezingakhululekile. Lokhu akukwenziwe ngenxa yesifiso sokwazi okuthandekayo kangcono, kodwa ukuthola ibalazwe lobubuthakathaka balo, okuyinto engase ithonywe. Isibonelo, izihlobo zinezinkinga ngotshwala, okokuqala amadoda azoba nesihawu kuphela. Khona-ke kuyoba nezixwayiso mayelana nengilazi ye-champagne ephuzwa intombazane ngo-Eva Wonyaka Omusha, bese kuba nabangane lapho kungenzeka kube nesitatimende mayelana nobuthakathaka eziphuzweni eziphuza utshwala, nakuba empeleni yena uqala ukweqa ishalofu ngotshwala ngenxa yokwesaba ukuphindaphinda isiphetho sezihlobo. Lokhu kwesaba futhi kuzosekelwa yi-manipulator kuzo zonke izindlela ezikhona, kuzophela ngokuthi uzobiza umyeni wakhe umsindisi, futhi bakholelwa ngempela ukuthi ngaphandle kwakhe kungaba yisidakwa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi konke okusemandleni akhe kugcwaliseke, ukuze kufezeke lokhu, izindlela ezingabonakali zingasetshenziswa. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi owesifazane emva kokuzalwa kwengane ahlale ekhaya ngaphezu kwekhefu elidingekile, ngoba umyeni umtshela ngesidingo sokunakekela ingane, futhi kudingeka aphumule. Le nkosikazi iyabona lokhu njengokwengamela othandekayo. Kodwa-ke ukhathele ukuchitha isikhathi sonke ekhaya, uzama ukuthola umsebenzi, umshayeli wesibhamu akawuthandi, futhi uzama ukungamvumeli ukuba aphume ekulawuleni. Ngenxa yalokhu, izindaba zingasetshenziswa ngobuthakathaka bomntwana, impilo embi yowesifazane ngokwayo noma izimpikiswano mayelana nokungabikho kwakhe emsebenzini. Konke kwenziwa ukuze kunciphise ukuzihlonipha komlingani futhi kugcizelele ukungabaluleki kwakhe. Ngakho-ke kulandela esinye sezibonakaliso ezibalulekile zomlingisi womyeni: isifiso sokuthobela intando yomuntu, ukwenza incike (ngokwezezimali noma ngokomzwelo).
Kunombono wokuthi umphathi we-manipulator uyindoda engathandekayo, ebalalayo. Eqinisweni, ubuthakathaka futhi akanamthetho, ufuna into eyodwa kuphela - amandla. Futhi ukuthola iresidi, kokubili ukusebenza nomndeni kusetshenziswa. Lezi zinsuku zivame kakhulu, ngoba kukhona lapho abantu abasengozini kakhulu. Ukuze ungangeni ngaphansi kwethonya lomuntu onjalo, qaphela ngokucophelela, bheka ukuthi uveza kanjani ulwazi: ufuna ukwabelana noma uzama ukuzuza emlandweni wezinyembezi. Qaphela imibuzo yakhe: uzwelana noma ubeka imishwana yemisebenzi, uzama ukunikeza imininingwane eminingi. Hlola ubuhlobo bakhe nabangane nabantu ababajwayele, umqaphi wabo bonke uzama ukugoba ngaphansi kwakhe, kepha uma kukhona abancintisana nabo, kufanele athathe isikhundla senceku ngoba akakwazi ukuxhumana ngokulingana okulinganayo. Uma uhlangana nabazali bomuntu okhethiwe, hlolisisa ukuxhumana kwabo, njengoba izingane zivame ukukopisha isitayela sokuziphatha kwabadala.