Inkinga yeminyaka emithathu enganeni

Sonke thina, abantu abadala, siwunqobile. Kwakungenye yezingqinamba ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuguqula impilo yethu, ngisho noma othile engakhulumi ngokucacile. Inkinga yeminyaka emithathu yisiteji sentuthuko izingane zethu kuzodingeka zifinyelele kuzo. Futhi kangcono ukuthi siqaphele izici zalezi zenzakalo, kuzoba lula ngathi ukuba sisize izingane zethu ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ngokulahlekelwa okungenani "kokunyuka" kwayo.

Inkinga yeminyaka engama-3 emntwaneni munye ingaqala ngisho neminyaka eyi-2.5, kuyilapho abanye bebhekene nenkinga, kuphela sebefinyelele eminyakeni engama-4. Kuzo zonke izimo, izimbangela zesimo saso ziyafana: ingane ikhula kahle ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Uyaqaphela ukuthi angathonya izwe elizungezile, futhi uyayithanda. Uyadonsela ukuhlola izinto ezingapheli kuphela, kodwa futhi ukutadisha ukuziphatha kwabantu abakuzungezile. Ingane iqala ukuzibheka njengomuntu ozimele futhi ifuna ukwenza izinqumo zayo. Okusho ukuthi, musa nje ukwenza okuthile ngokwakho, kodwa kuye kuye ukunquma ukuthi uzokwenza noma cha.

Inkinga ukuthi izifiso eziningi azihambisani namakhono okwenyama wengane. Lokhu kubangela ukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi kuwo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane igcinwa njalo ngabantu abadala, okubangela ukungqubuzana kwangaphandle.

Izimpawu zenkinga yeminyaka emithathu

Isikhathi esibalulekile kubo bonke abantwana sihlukile. Kwenzeka ukuthi lokho akubonwa ngokuphelele. Kodwa kaningi kangako, kubonakala kubazali ukuthi abathandekayo babo baboshwa esikhundleni.

Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izimpawu ezinjalo zenkinga yeminyaka emithathu:

1. Ingane ifuna ukwenza konke ngokwayo, ngisho noma ingenayo indlela encane yokuyenza.
2. Abazali bavame ukubhekana nokubonakaliswa kwenkani. Uphikelela ekuphambene nazo zonke izimpikiswano zabadala. Futhi hhayi ngoba wayedinga kakhulu lokho akufunayo, kodwa ngenxa nje yokuthi wathi kanjalo.
3. Izingane ngezinye izikhathi azisebenzi ngokumelene nentando yabazali, kodwa futhi ngokumelene nentando yakhe. Uyenqaba ukugcwalisa izicelo kuphela ngoba ebuzwa ngakho, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi akayifuni.
4. Ingane ingakwazi "ukuhlubuka" ekuphenduleni ukucindezelwa kwabazali. "I-Riot" ibonakala ekuhlukumezweni noma ekuhlaleni.
5. Ngomntwana, amathoyizi akhe amathandayo angancishiswa (angawaphula, awalahle) ngisho nezihlobo zakhe (angabetha abazali bakhe futhi amemeze kubo).
6. Ingane ingasebenzisa i-despotism, imphoqele umndeni wakhe ukuba wenze lokho akufunayo.

Indlela yokunqoba le nkinga iminyaka emithathu?

Ngemva kokubhekana nezimbangela zenkinga kanye nokubonakaliswa kwayo, umuntu angaqonda ukuthi angaphila kanjani le nkinga iminyaka emithathu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kubazali kuleso simo akugcizelela ukunakekelwa kwengane ezenzweni zakhe ezimbi, noma ukuzama "ukumlwa" ngokubonisa. Kodwa ukuvumelanisa, futhi, akufanele kube khona. Kuyoba kubi kakhulu uma ingane idonsela iziphetho ukuthi ingafezekisa impilo yakhe nge-hysteria ne-mailmail.

Funda ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuzama ukukususa ezinkingeni zangempela ezingamkhathaza ingane.

Uma ingane ibonisa ukuhlukumezeka, kuzomele uzame ukushintsha ukunaka kokunye okunye. Uma lokhu kungasiza - ushintshe ukunakwa kwakho kwezinye izinto. Njengoba ulahlekelwe "umbukeli" ebusweni bakho, ingane "izophola" ngokushesha. Futhi, mhlawumbe, into ebaluleke kakhulu kubazali bengane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ukuqonda ukuthi umntwana ngokwakhe uhlupheka kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakhe okubi. Ababelethi abanzima ngokungadingekile bavame ukulalela abantu abalalelayo, ababuthakathaka abanesizotha.

Njalo ukhumbuze njalo uthando lwakho. Kusuqhinga olikhethayo, kuncike ukuthi ngabe ingane izogcina umsebenzi wayo nokuphikelela ekufezeni umgomo. Yenza lokhu njengengane, njengoba ungathanda, ngakho waziphatha nabanye (kuhlanganise nawe).