Ngeshwa, empilweni yethu kunezikhathi ezinjalo lapho umama enesizathu esihle sokunqanda uyise wengane yakhe. Kulesi sihloko, sizokutshela ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukunqanda umzali ongenabantwana umzali onganaki nokuthi yini edingekayo kulokhu?
Kungani ulahla ubaba wamalungelo omzali?
Kunezizathu ezintathu, izizathu eziphoqelela kakhulu kule nqubo:
- Ngokuvamile, ukuhamba phesheya ukuya eholidini noma ukuguqulwa kokuhlala, amadokhumenti athile adinga imvume ebhaliwe yabazali bobabili, eqinisekisiwe ngumbhalisi. Kodwa inkathazo yonke ukuthi ubaba akakwazi ukunikeza le mvume, ukuthuthumela imizwa nomama nengane.
- Lapho esekhulile, abanye abababa bakhumbula ngokuzumayo ukuthi banabantwana. Futhi ngokusho komthetho, ingane kufanele igcine umzali wakhe okhubazekile edingayo. Kusukela emntwaneni, imali izoqoqwa ngokuthanda ubaba "othandekayo", owayengakhathaleli ingane yakhe, lapho ebengayidinga.
- Kunezimo ezinjalo ezimnandi lapho owesifazane ohlukanisile ehlangana nendoda engafuni nje ukushada naye, kodwa futhi ukwamukela ingane yakhe, imnike igama layo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ubaba wezimvume zomzali ezinganqunywanga kufanele acele imvume yokuqhuba le nqubo, futhi cishe uyobe ephikisana nayo.
Izizathu zokunqunywa kwabazali
Ngaphansi komthetho, ukunciphisa amalungelo omzali wengane wengane kungaba ngamacala alandelayo:
- ukukhishwa kokukhokha kokunye;
- ukwenqaba ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle sokuthatha ingane ekhaya (esibhedlela, esibhedlela, esikhungweni semfundo kanye nezinye izinhlangano zalolu hlobo);
- ukugwema ekufezeni imithwalo yemfanelo yomzali (ukungabi nokunakekelwa okuncane - ukuhlinzeka kokudla, izingubo, usizo lwezokwelapha);
- ukuhlukunyezwa kwamalungelo omzali;
- ukuhlukumeza izingane (ubudlova ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo);
- ukuhlukunyezwa (ukuzama ukungahambi kahle ngokobulili);
- ukuphuza ngokweqile noma ukulutha izidakamizwa;
- ukwenza ubugebengu obungenhloso obungozi impilo noma impilo yengane nonina.
Inqubo yokwehliswa kobaba
Ungamnqoba kanjani uyise kayise wengane, futhi ngokubambisana, indoda yangaphambili yomthetho noma yomphakathi? Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuthi uvakashele iziphathimandla zokugcinwa endaweni yokuhlala kwengane. Lapha uzonikezwa uhlu lwamadokhumenti wokunqotshwa kobunikazi, okudingayo ukuqoqa. Kubonakala kanje:
- isitifikedi sokuzalwa somntwana;
- isitifiketi sesehlukaniso (uma ushada nomntwana wengane);
- isitifiketi sokubhaliswa kanye nezici zokuhlala;
- umyalelo wenkantolo ngokukhokhwa kwe-alimony (uma ikhona);
- isitifikedi esivela ku-FSSP (Federal Bailiff Service) esilinganisweni semali ekhokhelwa emuva kokunye (uma beqoqwe enkantolo);
- isitifiketi esivela ku-FSSP mayelana nokusesha ubaba (uma evimbela ukukhokhwa kwe-alimony);
- ukujatshulwa okuvela endaweni yomsebenzi wommangali (umama);
- Izimpawu zesikole, inkulisa nezinye izimbuthano ezivakashelwe ngumntwana;
- isitifiketi somholo wommangali.
Lolu hlu lungashintshwa futhi lusekelwe ngokuya ngokuzwa okuqondile ngokulahlwa kwamalungelo omzali.
Ngaphezu kwalokho zonke lezi zincwadi zihanjiswa enkantolo, kanye nokusetshenziswa komama. Lapha kukhona inhlanhla encane: uma ufaka icala kuphela ekulahlweni kwamalungelo omzali, kuzodingeka uthwale amadokhumende nesicelo enkantolo endaweni yokuhlala kummangalelwa. Uma ungazi ukuthi uyaphi, khona-ke enkantolo yendawo lapho indawo yakhe ikhona khona noma ekhelini lemvume yokuhlala yokugcina. Futhi uma ufaka kanye nesimangalo sokunqotshwa kwamalungelo omzali futhi isimangalo sokuthola i-alimony, ungaya enkantolo lapho uhlala khona.
Ekugcineni ngingathanda ukwenza izichibiyelo ezincane: awukwazi ukunqanda ubuhlobo, kanye nonina wobazali. Ungaphika nje amalungelo omzali. Noma ukuphikisana neqiniso lobuhlobo uma unesizathu salo. Ngakho ungadideli le mibono emibili.