Indlela "isanqante nokunamathela" sekuyisikhathi eside isetshenziselwa ekukhulisweni kwezingane, lapho abazali behlukumeza futhi bekadumisa izenzo zabo. Kodwa akuzona abantu abadala abadala abaqaphela ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi bakwazi ukudumisa kahle, ngaphandle kwalokho kungenziwa kube kubi nakakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kulesi sihloko sizocabangela ukuthi kungani kufanele futhi sidumise kanjani isizukulwane esincane, njengenye yezindlela zokukhuthaza.
Izindlela zokukhuthaza
Izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokukhuthazwa kufanele zisetshenziswe ngokuya ngesimo esithile esiye savela, ngoba uma usebenzisa indlela efanayo njalo, kuzophela ukusebenza.
- ukuhlolwa okuhle kwezenzo noma ukubukeka kwengane - kuboniswa ngamazwi: "Ngiyathanda", "Okumangalisayo!", "Ngiyajabula ngawe", "Kuhle kakhulu!". Le ndlela ingcono ukuyisebenzisa lapho uqala ibhizinisi elisha ngokuphelele lomntwana;
- kuvunyelwe - "Ngakho qhubeka," "Usebenza kahle," "Wenza kahle," "Uqinisile!". Usetshenziselwa ukusekela ingane ekuqaleni kwezenzo zakhe, nokucacisa ukuthi wenza konke okulungile. Futhi uma udinga ukunikeza iseluleko ngendlela engcono yokuyenza, emva kwamagama avunyelwe, uzoyibona kahle kakhulu;
- indumiso - "Wenze kahle!", "Umnichka!", "Nonke niphumelele!". Ukudumisa sekuvele kuhlolwe ngumphumela wokugcina wezenzo noma izenzo ezenziwe;
- ukuncoma - okuvame ukusetshenziselwa ubuntu (izici zobunjwa, ukubukeka noma ngemizwa yomuntu siqu kanye nokuzwa) kanye nezenzo (ukuqala nokuphela).
Kungani kufanele udumise izingane?
Udumo luvele ludingekile ukuze umntwana akholelwe kuye, aqiniseke ngokwengeziwe, avuselele isimo sakhe somzwelo futhi agcwalise isamba sokuqiniseka ukuthi uzodinga impilo yakhe yonke. Kudingeka futhi ukuze uqaphele amakhanda akhe amakhono akhe afihliwe, ukumqhubela ekuthuthukiseni kwawo. Iphakamisa isifiso sokuphinda lokho okwenzekile, ukuze kufinyelele imiphumela efanele. Kodwa ukusebenzisa njalo ukudumisa ngenxa yalokhu kubangela ekubunjweni ezinganeni zokuntuleka kwesinyathelo, ukungathandi ukuqeda icala, uma bebona ukuthi umphumela oyifunayo awusebenzi. Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe lokhu kwenzeka, kufanele uthole ukuthi yini ongayidumisa ingane.
Phela, ngokuvamile izingane, ezingenayo imizwa emihle evela kubazali bazo noma ezizithola zingasifanele, zihlushwa yi-egocentrism, ziboniswa ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene.
Indlela yokudumisa ingane ngendlela efanele?
Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukudumisa kwakho akulimazi ukukhuliswa kwengane yakho, izincomo ezilandelayo kufanele zilandelwe:
- Ukudumisa kufanele kube okuqotho, okungathí sina, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izimpendulo ezizwakalayo eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi.
- Dumisani kuphela uma kunesidingo, isb. hhayi ngamakhono akhe angokwemvelo noma ukuthi uyazi kanjani ukwenza kahle kakhulu, kodwa okwenzekile uma enza umzamo.
- Ekudumiseni akukho ndawo yokuqhathanisa - kuyolimaza ingqondo yengane futhi inciphise isifiso sakhe sokwenza okuthile nhlobo.
- Udumo akufanele lube lukhulu kakhulu-uma kungenjalo ingane izoyeka ukuyiqonda, ithembele kuyo, futhi izophela ukuba umvuzo wayo. Kodwa yeka ukudumisa ngokuvamile nakho kuyingozi - ungahlakulela ukuhlukumezeka kwengane enganeni.
- Ukudumisa isenzo somntanakho, lokho akufezile, hhayi umuntu wonke - ngakho-ke, umbono owanele ukhiwa
yena, kunokuzihlonipha okuphakeme nokuzihlonipha .
Khumbula ukuthi kubantu abadala, izenzo ezifana nokuhlehlisa izinto ngokucophelela noma ukukhipha udoti kubhekwa njengokulula, futhi ingane encane lokhu kuphumelele kakhulu, ngakho-ke ngisho nangenxa yezenzo ezinjalo, kufanelekile udumo, kodwa ngokulinganisa.
Ukusebenzisa udumo, ngokucabangela izincomo ezibalulwe ngenhla, njengendlela yokukhuthazana, uzokwazi ukufundisa izingane zakho ngokuzethemba, nabantu abaphumelelayo. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi kuyafaneleka futhi ukujezisa ingane .