Izingane ezineminyaka engaphansi kwezingu-tatu ziyi-uncharacteristic noma cishe zicasuliwe-zonke izinkinga izingane zisetshenziselwa ukuxazulula ngokukhala okudinga nokukhala. Uma kungqubuzana kuvela, ingane ingena empini noma imane ithatha umhlalaphansi. Kodwa ingane ikhula futhi kancane kancane iqala ukuqeqesha unembeza wakho ngokucophelela. Ubuqiniso bezinhloso ngokuvamile abuhambisani nezilindelo zakhe, yilesi isizathu sokwakheka kwezingane.
Ukuthukuthela kuyinto umuzwa ongenangqondo futhi ongenamsebenzi. Umntwana okhubazekile, esikhundleni sokusho ukunganaki kwakhe, uvala imizwa yakhe. Akazami ukuxazulula le nkinga, umgomo wakhe ukuvusa umuzwa wecala phakathi kwalabo abazungezile. Lokhu kuthinta kabi imizwa yakhe, imisebenzi kanye nobuhlobo nomndeni nabangane. Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuthi ingalondolozi icala kuye, kodwa ukucinga isisombululo esakhayo esimeni samanje, ngaphandle kwalokho isisindo sokuziphatha sengozini yokuziphatha sibe yinto evamile futhi, esikhundleni sokuphumelela nokuqaphela, ingane yakho iyoba umuntu omdala ongenelisekile - uzokwakha i-syndrome okuthiwa i-syndrome yengane ekhubekile.
Kungani ingane ikhubeka?
- ingane ithukuthele uma engafundile ukutshela abanye ngezifiso zakhe. Ukuzungezile kunzima ukuqagela ukuthi kwenzekani okwamanje ekhanda lakhe, futhi ubona lokhu njengokungazinaki izithakazelo zakhe siqu, kukhonjiswe ngaphakathi ekhoneni, kuthula nokuhlambalaza ngamehlo, okusolakala ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani;
- ingane ayikwazi ukuveza ukuthi imizwa nemizwelo yakhe iyamkhathaza kanjani lapho ebona ukuthi abanye abazungezile, ngokombono wakhe, benza okungalungile;
- Ingane isebenzisa ukuhlambalaza, njengendlela yokuheha yena. Uma umntwana ecasulwa ngumama wakhe, futhi kuzo zonke izindlela aqale ukuzolahla futhi amduduze, uzoyithatha njengesiqiniseko sothando nokuqaphela izidingo zakhe.
Indlela yokuziphatha nengane ezwelayo?
Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, udinga ukumbonisa ukuthi ukuhlambalaza kungenasisekelo futhi akukhiqizi, kukhulisa isimo futhi akusize kuxazululwe izinkinga. Izingane ezizwa uthando, ukusekela nokuvikelwa kwabathandekayo babo ziyakwazi ukusabela ngokufanele ukuthukuthela - intukuthelo noma ukudabuka.
Umsebenzi wabazali ukusiza ingane ukuba ifunde indlela yokusabela kahle, ungenza lokhu kanje:
- Siza ingane ukuthi iqonde kahle ukuthi iyini imizwa okwamanje. Ngitshele ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi kungani ethukuthele nokuthi isimo asijabulisi kangakanani.
- Qonda futhi wamukele imizwa ephakama ngenxa yokuphikisana nabanye, ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi ingane ayilungile.
- Phatha ingane njengomuntu ogcwele, uhloniphe izidingo nezifiso zakhe, ngisho noma zingenakwenzeka okwamanje. Yakha inkhulumomphendvulwano ukuze ingane izwe ukusekelwa kwakho.
Kwezinye izimo, ingane ethinta kakhulu idinga ukufundiswa kabusha. Lezi yizimo lapho, ngokuthuka kwakhe, uzama ukuxhaphaza abanye. Ezimweni ezinjalo, udinga:
- Bonisa ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha ngeke kufeze noma yini. Kubalulekile ukuziphatha, njengokungathi akukho okwenzekile, ukuzama ukumphazamisa umsebenzi othile othakazelisayo;
- uma ingane icasulwa yizenzo eziqondiswe kwezinye izingane, isibonelo, othile udunyiswa, kepha akayena, kuyadingeka ukuba uncelise ingane ukuba ixhomeke ekudumiseni, ukwakha ukuzethemba okufanele.
Kwezinye izimo, akunakwenzeka ukungazinaki izihlamba - isibonelo, uma ingane icashunwe enkulisa. Kulokhu, kufanele ufundise ingane ukuthi iphendule icala, hhayi ngokulwa, kodwa kufanele ulungele ukuthi ngelinye ilanga lokhu kungenzeka.
Futhi, ekugcineni, ufundise inkululeko yengane yokuveza imizwelo, ungasusi nhlobo isiphepho, ngombono wakho, ukubonakaliswa kwazo.