Sekuyisikhathi eside indoda ibhekwa njengento eyinhloko kukho konke. Yiba umsebenzi, umndeni noma indlela yokuphila. Kodwa ezweni lanamuhla domostroy selulahlekelwe ukwethembeka kwalo, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe kusuka ezindebeni zowesifazane ungayithola umbuzo: "Indlela yokuzimela ozimele?" Ungalindi ngenkathi umyeni ebeka imali yokuthenga, ake uhambe uhambe nabangani noma unqume ukuthi ungenele ezemidlalo noma uzame enye into yokuzilibazisa. Izingane, izindiza kanye nokugcinwa kwamakhaya yizinto ezihlala ezingxenyeni ezincane zesifazane. Kodwa impilo akufanele idlule! Ungcwaba ubuntu bakho namakhono akho kumuntu? Ngubani okutshele lokho kuphutha! Kulesi sihloko, sizokhipha konke ukungabaza kwakho futhi uchaze ukuthi ungazimela kanjani.
Ukuthembela emadodeni - ukuthi ungayilahla kanjani?
Konke kuqala kanjani? Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kungukuqala kokuhlala okuhlanganyelwe, noma isiphetho somshado futhi, futhi, ukusebenzisana. Umsebenzi, isikhathi somuntu siqu nomklomelo wakhe, owagcwalisa impilo ngaphambi kokuhlangana nendoda, kancane kancane ihlehlela ngemuva. Owesifazane uvula izindima ezintsha nemithwalo yemfanelo - ukuphathwa komnotho nokuphila, ukuzalwa kwezingane nokukhuliswa kwabo. Kancane kancane, owesifazane uqala ukuzidela ngenxa yobuhlobo obuhle emndenini, futhi uqala ukuhlakazeka kumuntu nokuphila kwakhe. Lapha-ke, ukuthembela kumyeni wakhe kuqala. Iphethe umlingiswa womhlatshelo. Ukwenqaba ekuthuthukiseni nasekuthuthukiseni umsebenzi ekuthandeni izingane, umyeni nomndeni - emva kokuqinisekiswa koke owesifazane, ukuthi isisulu, ngokuqinisekile, sizocatshangelwa. Kodwa isikhathi sidlula, futhi ukuthembela ngokomzwelo kancane kancane kuba impahla. Ngemuva kwalokho, lo msebenzi wawuya esihogweni! Kancane kancane, ama-scandals ayakhula: unesizungu ukuhlala ekhaya, akayithandi ukuthi ufika ekhaya sekwephuzile futhi engamnaki, akathandi ukuthi umnike imali encane, njll. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, owesifazane othembekile uqala ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umuntu osevele eqala ukubheka, ukucindezeleka, izinkinga ebuhlotsheni, ukunganeliseki ngempilo yakhe, nokunye okuningi. Kodwa konke kwaqala ngomhlatshelo we-banal, futhi ngezinhloso ezinhle. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma kule simo ukuzimela!
Indlela yokuzimela ngaphandle komyeni wakhe?
Izizathu zokuthi owesifazane uqala ukuthembela kumyeni wakhe, uvela ebuntwaneni. Iphutha labazali kulokhu lilinganiselwe enkululeko nangesinyathelo. Abazondayo yizingane, abazali abavame ukuzitshela ukuthi: "Uma ungithanda, uzokwenza njengoba ngishilo." Noma ngokuphambene: "Uma ungithanda, ngeke usenze." Njengoba kunikezwa ukuthi abesifazane bafuna ukusekela nokusekela indoda, owesifazane uzokuqala ukuzidela ngenxa yothando lwakhe. Ungayilungisa kanjani isimo futhi ube yilowo ophethe isihloko sokuziqhenya 'sowesifazane ozimele'? Yiqiniso, udinga ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho ezingokwengqondo nhlobo. Ungenza lokhu kanje:
Qala ngokuzivocavoca okuncane: vala amehlo akho futhi ucabange ukuthi uhlezi entabeni ephakeme, futhi ngaphansi kwakho kukhona indlela ende. Ungukuphila kwakho. Qaphela ngokucophelela, bese uzama ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwakho kwezinye izimo ozikhumbula ngokukhethekile. Khumbula izikhathi lapho uziqhenya ngokwakho, khona-ke isimo lapho wenza lokho okuthandayo. Emva kwalokhu, zibuze imibuzo embalwa bese uphendula ngokuthembeka:
- Ngabe nginjani ubuhlobo nabazali bami?
- Ngenza kangaki lokho engikufunayo?
- kungani ngesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumkami?
- kuthiwani uma ngihlala ngaphandle komuntu?
2. Khumbula isimo kusukela ebuntwaneni, lapho wesaba ukwenza okuthile ngokungahambisani nentando yabazali. Ziqiniseke ukuthi, njengoba ungumdala, unelungelo lokuthatha isinyathelo, njengoba uthanda.
3. Cabanga ngalokho okufunayo empilweni yakho? Imiphi imigomo kanye nezinhlelo ongakwenza futhi ufuna ukukubeka phambi kwakho. Zama ukuqala ukuzisebenzisa, ungabuki emuva emuva kombono womunye umuntu noma ukungamukeli.
4. Khumbula ukuthi ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu kulezo zimindeni lapho bobabili bomshado bayazi ukuthi bafanele, bangaxhomeki komunye nomunye, ungazami ukushintsha omunye nomunye, kodwa uhlale ngokuhloniphana, uthando nokuvumelana.
Kunoma imuphi umndeni akufanele kube nohlangothi olunamandla noluthakathaka. Yonke imisebenzi yomkayo kufanele ihlukaniswe ngesigamu. Kwenze kube nzima ekuqaleni ukuphuma kwendima yesisulu. Vumela umndeni wazi ukuthi unelungelo lesikhathi sakho kanye nezithakazelo zakho. Uma nje uqala ukubandakanya ngaphandle kwekhaya, nezindaba zabo siqu, uzozizwa kulula kangakanani, futhi uzobona ukuthi impilo yakho yomndeni izolungiswa kanjani ngokushesha. Khumbula ukuthi uthando kuphela nokuhloniphana kuleli zwe kungasebenza izimangaliso. Futhi isikhala somuntu siqu yizwe lakho, lapho ungakwazi ukuthembela kunoma ubani omunye.