Ukwesaba kokubeletha kubhekene nabesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe. Omunye uyesaba inqubo ngokwayo yokubeletha, kanti omunye umane ukwesaba okungaziwa. Futhi, ngokuvamile ukwesaba kokuzalwa kwesibili kwabesifazane ababelethayo kuyafana noma kunamandla kunelabo abasha. Izazi zengqondo zithi yonke le mizwa yokukhathazeka iyimvelo, futhi into esemqoka lapha akukhona ukuthuthumela.
Uyazi - ingabe ihlomile?
Ngenxa ye-intanethi, ubuningi bezincwadi nabangane "abanolwazi", cishe wonke owesifazane okhulelwe uzama ukuthola ulwazi oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka ngendlela yokunqoba ukwesaba ukubeletha nokulungiselela inqubo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuqwashisa kuhle kakhulu, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, inqwaba yolwazi ingakwazi ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kowesifazane oselevele ekhathazekile. Amathiphu ethu okuqoqa ulwazi azoba kanje:
- Thembela kuphela imithombo eqinisekisiwe. Uma ubona ulwazi ngolwazi oludumazayo mayelana nezinkinga ngesikhathi senqubo noma ngemva kokubeletha, zama ukuthola eminye imithombo. Akuwona abalobi bezihloko njalo abasebenzisa amaqiniso ahloliwe, ngakho-ke ningathembeki "ngokungaqondakali" kubo bonke abhaliwe.
- Thatha indlela ekhethiwe yokwaziswa omama abakutshela ngokuzalwa. Uma ukubeletha kwakunjalo kuwo wonke umuntu, mhlawumbe izindaba zabanye zizoba usizo kakhulu, kodwa umzimba wabo bonke abesifazane ungumuntu ngamunye, ngakho akusilo iqiniso lokuthi uzobe ubeletha usuku, njengoba intombi yakho yenza.
- Zilalele wena nomzimba wakho. Umzimba wakho ungowakho kuphela, umzimba wakho ungowakho futhi akekho, ngaphandle kwakho, uyazi ngaphezu kwakho. Ngaphambilini, abesifazane babeletha ensimini ngaphandle kosizo lwabasebenzi bezokwelapha futhi bethemba kuphela ukuzwa kwabo kwangaphakathi. Manje sinethuba lokuzithemba thina ngokwethu, kodwa ngaphansi kokuqondiswa odokotela, sandisa amathuba okuphumelela futhi okulula kwebhizinisi, elibizwa ngokuthi "ukubeletha ngaphandle kobuhlungu nokwesaba."
- Ukuzalwa okuhlangene. Inendima ebalulekile ekulungiseleleni ukuzalwa ngaphandle kokwesaba idlala yisimo sengqondo somlingani. Xoxa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuba khona othandekayo oyokwazi ukukusekela ngesikhathi sokulwa. Othandekayo ngokuhlala kwakhe nokukhathalela kwakhe ngokuqinisekile kuzokwehlisa ukwesaba ubuhlungu ngesikhathi sokubeletha.
- Kholelwa kokuhle kakhulu. Umlobi nomuzi owaziwayo emiphefumulweni yabantu, uPaul Coelho, uthe "uma ufuna ngempela - indawo yonke izokusiza kulokhu." Isimo sengqondo esifanele sesivele siyingxenye yempumelelo. Zama ukunciphisa ngaphambi kokubeletha futhi ucabange ngomhlangano osalindelwe isikhathi eside ngenjabulo encane, bese inqubo yokuzalwa izobonakala kuphela emgwaqweni ozokuholela ekunganeni yakho.
Ukuphazamiseka - ujabule
Abesifazane abakhulelwe bajwayele ukuzwela nokukhathazeka ngokweqile, ngakho-ke, bangacabanga ngento engafaneleki. Kunezindlela eziningi zokuziphazamisa emicabangweni engalungile bese uvumelanisa nomoya omuhle.
- Izifundo zabesifazane abakhulelwe. Izifundo zokulungiselela zilungile ngoba ochwepheshe bazokutshela indlela yokuzolalisa ngaphambi kokubeletha, ukulungisa kahle umzimba wakho ngokubeletha kanye nenkathi yokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba. Ukuzivocavoca kuyawusizo lapho ukhulelwa, kuqinisekisa, ukuthi ulungele ukuzalwa hhayi kuphela ekuziphatheni, kodwa nangokwenyama. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umsebenzi womzimba wenza ukuba kukhululwe ama-endorphin - ama-hormone wenjabulo, okudingeka kakhulu owesifazane okhulelwe.
- Ukugcinwa kombuso. Umbuso ofanele lolo suku usiza ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo nenhlalakahle. Qiniseka ukufaka phakathi ohlelweni lwemisebenzi yansuku zonke ukuhlala isikhathi eside emoyeni omusha. Lokhu akusizi nje kuphela wena nomntwana, kodwa futhi kusiza "ukuvuselela" imicabango.
- Ukuxhumana okujabulisayo. Zama ukugxila wena kuphela nemicabango yakho. Nika isikhathi esengeziwe emndenini nabangane, futhi lokhu, futhi, kuzokwenza ukuthi ukhokhele ukuhleleka nokuthemba.