Ezingxenyeni zansuku zonke zobulili nezikhombisi-ndlela, kungekudala kudlule i-subculture entsha, okuyisisekelo sayo esisodwa sokuqhubeka kwe-sadomasochism. Igama elinikezwe lesi siqondiso linikezwe ngokuhlanganiswa kwegama lesiNgisi ukugqilazwa, ukubuswa, ama-sado-maso, okuhunyushwa ngokoqobo okushoyo - ukubopha, ukubusa, i-BDSM. Ngendlela efingqiwe, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi i-BDSM.
Okubalulekile kwalesi sihlahla esisezingeni eliphansi kuwukunye ukushintshaniswa kokubusa kanye namandla omunye wabalingani phezu komunye, okuyiyona ngempela ehlukanisa ngayo nobuhlobo obunzima bokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili nangokwengqondo. I-BDSM - umdlalo wabalingani ababili, umgomo wabo ukwandisa imizwa yocansi ngokuhlanganyela amandla phezu komunye nomunye.
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi kule midlalo yezocansi kunemithetho eminingi enikeza abalingani ngokuphepha, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, futhi ngokuphathelene nomthetho wobugebengu. Umlando wokuthuthukiswa kwalolu hlobo lwezinhlanzi lubuyele emuva eminyakeni engaphezu kwamakhulu amabili kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulunywa kwalo okokuqala emisebenzini kaMarquis de Sade odumile, ogama lakhe laphinde lathi igama elithi "sadism".
Ku-BDSM kunezinkomba eziningi, i-slang yayo, uphawu, izimfanelo ngisho namafomu okudweba. Enye yalezi zinkomba zobuciko i-photography nemidwebo. Kusukela ekubukeni komuntu kude nalesi siqondiso, imisebenzi yobuciko ngesitayela se-Art BDSM, ukuyibeka ngomoya ophansi, ubheke okungajwayelekile futhi okwesabisa kancane.
Kuyini ukunyathelisa?
Esikhathini esincane se-BDSM, kunezici eziningi kanye nezakhi, kokubili ukubusa nokuzithoba. Izenzo nezenzo zocansi zinezinto ezihlukahlukene, lapho izenzo ezithile zobudlova zisetshenziselwa umuntu ongaphansi noma isigqila. Ukugxila ocansini kungenye yezenzo ezinjalo, ezisetshenziselwa imidlalo yezocansi futhi ngezinye izikhathi ezimweni zasendlini.
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wukuthi ukunyathelisa kusho ukuthini, kuyadingeka ukuthi uphendukele esiqeshini sesiNgisi. Igama lokunyathelisa lisuselwa egameni le-English tramp noma ukunyathelisa, okusho "ukunyathelisa" noma "ukuphoqa". Futhi lokhu kuyisisekelo sezenzo - ukugubha noma ukuhamba ngomzimba womlingani.
Kuyini ukunyathelisa ngokocansi kwamalungu omphakathi we-BDSM? Lokhu kuyingxenye yomdlalo odlala indima, esetshenziselwa uhlobo lwe-prelude yezocansi, lapho inkosi noma inkosikazi ihamba khona emzimbeni womuntu ongaphansi, okwenza ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lo mdlalo ungabonakalisa kanjani, bobabili abahlanganyeli bathola injabulo engokwenyama nangokwengqondo kuwo, ngoba lokhu kungenye yezenzo zokulungiselela ngqo isenzo socansi .
Izinhlobo zokunyathelisa
Ukunyathelisa kuhlukaniswe ngezigaba ezimbili:
- Ukunyathelisa phansi. Umlingani ohloniphekile ohlelweni lokudlala ngocansi luthinta umzimba womlingani ngezinyawo ezingenalutho, ukuqina nokukala kwengcindezi emzimbeni womuntu ongaphansi akuyona into enkulu kakhulu. Indoda noma indodakazi ingakwazi
Hamba kuzo zonke izingxenye zomzimba wesigqila sakhe - ngemuva, esiswini, esifubeni. Kulezizinyathelo zokuphepha, ukuhamba ekhanda nobuso akukhishiwe. - Ukuhamba okunamandla kuyisimo esinzima kakhulu sokuzijabulisa, lapho umlingani oqhamukayo angakwazi ukuhamba emzimbeni womuntu ongaphansi kwezicathulo zomgwaqo. Uma owesifazane ephethe umbhangqwana, izicathulo ezinama-stilettos aphezulu futhi amancane azenza isinyathelo, okuyinto empeleni seyisenzo sokudabuka kanye nengxenye yomdlalo kusuka kusigaba sakwa-sadomasochistic.
Kubantu abangenalwazi, isenzo esinjalo sokudlala ngocansi singase sibonakale sinobubi kakhulu, kepha kwenzeka ngokuvumelana kokubili kwabalingani. Kumele ngithi ngokuhamba kanzima, ngisho nezithende eziphakeme, ingozi yokulimala iphakeme, kodwa umlingani ngamunye uxwayiswa ngalokhu futhi ulandela imithetho yokuphepha. Kodwa kungalindelekile ukuthi kungase kubonakale kusuka ohlangothini, imidlalo enjalo kanye ne-preludes ngokocansi inebahlonishwa abaningi nabalandeli. Ukunyathelisa kuphephile futhi, uma kuhle kumuntu othile, kungani kungenjalo.