Ukuze uthole impendulo emfushane "Ngiyavuma", kungaba nezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ezinye zazo azikude nomthando, kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi izizathu ezithandwayo zomshado ziyisisekelo esibi somndeni oqinile. Futhi abanye cishe baqinisekisa ukwehluleka komcimbi okuthiwa "ukudala i-unit unit entsha". Akumangalisi ukuthi kukhona ukuxilongwa kwezisusa zomshado, ngokusho ukuthi, umuntu angazama ukubikezela amathuba okuthi "baphila ngokujabula njalo." Cabanga ukuthi yikuphi okulandelayo okuseduze nendaba yakho:
- uthando. Lokhu kuyisisusa sencwadi yokushada, leyo iningi lethu eliphuphile kusukela ebuntwaneni. Sifuna ukusondelana nesihloko sothando lwethu nokudumisa. Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umshado uyindlela yokuphatha imizwa yabo phakathi neminyaka;
- umqondo womshado. Abanye bethu bakholelwa ukuthi ukuphila kuphela emshadweni kungabizwa kufanelekile futhi kuphelele. Futhi ngale ndlela kuphela umbhangqwana ogcwele ungabuka. Kulezi zimo, owesifazane akakwazi ukuthola ukuthula aze aqiniseke ukuthi ubuhlobo bakhe busemthethweni futhi bugcinwe ezulwini;
- izinkolelo zomphakathi. Le motif emshadweni isondelene kakhulu neyaphambilini. Ikakhulukazi uma omunye walabo abashadile bekhuliswe emndenini lapho umshado wawucatshangelwa khona futhi kubhekwa njengenjongo esemqoka yobuhlobo. Ubudala, njengomthetho, kuphela ukuthululela amafutha emlilweni;
- ukufeza. Ngokuyinhloko, lesi sizathu sibalulekile kwabesifazane, ngoba umshado uyisikhathi sokuziqhayisa kwabanye;
- ukuphunyuka ekubeni nesizungu. Ngeshwa, iningi lethu alizizwa lanele ngokwanele futhi libona umshado njengensindiso evela ekubhekaneni nesizungu. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ukutholakala kwesitembu epasipoti akunakuqinisekisa ukuthi indawo yomndeni izofudumala kulezo zinkathi lapho umuzwa wedwa uyangena;
- indiza evela kubazali. Isimo esivamile somshado wokuqala. Lapha impikiswano isifiso sokulahla eyakho
impilo; - umshado ophoqelelwe. Ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe, njengomthetho, kuyimbangela evamile yemishado enjalo;
- umshado olula. Ukuzama ukuthola ukuzimela ngokwezezimali, ukuthuthela kwelinye izwe, ukuthola ilungelo lokuba yisakhamuzi - konke lokhu kungabhekiswa emshadweni ngokubala. Uma izinhlangothi zombili ziqaphela umgomo oyinhloko wobudlelwane obufanele, ngezinye izikhathi inyunyana enjalo inikeza ubudlelwane obuqinile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isisusa esiholela ekukhulumisaneni, ungesabi ukuyihlaziya kusengaphambili, ukuze ungahlanganyeli ekukhohliseni.