Abaningi bezocansi ezithandanayo, abathandana nabo balungele okuningi, uma nje beyitholile indoda ayithandayo. Kulokhu, ungasebenzisa imilingo, kodwa kulokhu kuwufanele ukwazi ukuthi ungamtshela kanjani umfana ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa amasiko kuphela emilingo emhlophe, engabangela ukulimala, okungeke kukhulunywe nge-black privorotah, ngoba ayithinti kabi bobabili abalingani. Uma imikhuba evezwe ngezansi iphutha, ngeke nje isebenze, futhi izinkinga zempilo ngeke ziphakame.
Indlela yokushaya umfana ngaphandle kwemiphumela esithombeni ngosizo lomlingo omhlophe?
Kukholelwa ukuthi isithombe siyingxenye yamandla omuntu, ngakho-ke imikhosi enezithombe ithandwa kakhulu futhi isebenza kahle. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa isithombe esisha, lapho amehlo ebonakala khona ngokucacile. Ungathatha isithombe efonini noma uyisuse kwinethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu. Thatha isithombe ngezandla futhi isikhashana ucabange ukuthi indoda iseduze kangakanani, iyavuma uthando, njll. Ukubukwa kubalulekile ukudlulisela amandla othando esithombeni. Uma ubheka isithombe, umuntu kufanele athi ugobe olunjalo:
"Inkosi yangempela, isigqila (igama) ayikwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwesithunzi sakhe, ingilangazelela, isigqila sakho (igama) ngeke silinqobe. Hamba, ukhubeke, kusukela enkundleni yokudabuka. Njengelanga elisezulwini, kanjalo nawe unami, inceku enhle (igama). "
I-conspiracy kumele iphindwe kabili ekuseni, kwasemini nakusihlwa. Kungcono ukulifunda nsuku zonke ngaphambi kokuba umkhulelwa abe ngokoqobo.
Ungayithinta kanjani indoda yangaphambili?
Ngezinye izikhathi emva kokuhlukanisa, kukhona ukuqonda ukuthi imizwa ayizange ikhuleke, kodwa akukho mqondo wokuthi ubuyisela kanjani umfana, esimweni esinjalo ungaqhuba umkhuba olula. Isimo esibalulekile - umlingo ungasetshenziswa kuphela uma abakhethi bengenabo ubuhlobo obusha, kungenjalo kuyoba nemiphumela emibi. Ukuqala umkhuba kuyadingeka ngosuku lwesithathu lwenyanga ekhulayo. Thatha ikhandlela elibomvu bese ulikhanyisa. Ngemuva kwalokho, thola isithombe ozoboniswa nongumthandi wangaphambili ngenkathi wonke umuntu ejabule. Beka isithombe etafuleni bese ubeka isipho sakhe, okungafanele sibe sikhulu, isibonelo, kungaba yindandatho noma i-trinket. Vala into ekhethiwe ngezandla zakho, vala amehlo akho uphinde uthi izikhathi ezintathu:
"Kwakukhona isikhathi, wangithanda, wanginika izipho! Ngifuna ukuba nawe, futhi ngizokuthola! "
Ngesikhathi senkambiso, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo bubuye buphinde kanjani futhi wonke umuntu uyajabula. Beka isithombe bese ugcine endaweni eyimfihlo.
Kungakanani ukutshela umfana ukudla?
Lolu khetho lufanelekile kulawo maantombazane angakwazi ukuxhumana nento yokudumisa futhi apheke ukudla okuthile kuyoba yinto evamile. Kunconywa ukuthi ungeze i-coriander noma i-parsley kwisidlo esikhethiwe, njengoba le mifino izothuthukisa umphumela womlingo wesakhiwo. Ngesikhathi sokupheka kuyadingeka ukumelela ubudlelwane obumbene nento yokudumisa futhi ukwenze ngokusemandleni ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngaphambi nangemva kokupheka, kufanele kuthiwa izikhathi ezintathu ezilandelanayo:
"Njengalokhu kudla, ngizoba mnandi kuwe. Amen. "
Kunconywa ukukhonza iwayini elibomvu ngesidlo esilungisiwe. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa uzobona umphumela.
Indlela yokutshela umfana othanda ukusebenzisa isibuko?
Izibuko ze-spell yothando lomuntu abathandayo zazisetshenziswa ezikhathini zasendulo. Umkhuba kufanele uchithe phakathi kwamabili yedwa. Izibuko zibekwe eceleni komunye nomunye, zakha umzila ongapheli. Thatha ikhandlela lesonto, ulikhanyise futhi uhlale phambi kwezibuko. Ikamelo kufanele libe mnyama. Phinda uhlaka olulandelayo kuze kukhishwe ikhandlela:
"(Igama labathandekayo) Cher Cher Cher Mogor Procher."
Phakathi nalokhu, izithombe ezihlukahlukene zingabonakala ngezibuko kanye nemisindo esabekayo ingazwakala, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungaphazanyiswa. Ngemuva kwalokho, faka izibuko ngendwangu futhi ungawavuli izinsuku ezimbalwa.
Ungamthokozisa kanjani umfana osuka kude?
Ukwenza umkhuba, udinga ukulungisa ikhandlela elibomvu. Ukulichitha kungenyanga entsha. Esikhatsini sephepha bhala igama eliphelele lekhethiweyo neyakhe. Khanyisa ikhandlela ngemifino bese ubeka umlilo ephepheni, kanti ngenkathi ivutha, funda lo mbuthano:
"Njengoba umlilo wekhandlela uvutha, kanjalo nenhliziyo yakho (igama lomfana) izokhanya kimi (igama layo), ngothando olubomvu, ngomzwelo ovuthayo. Ngishisa iphepha, ngikulindele. Ngihlakaza umlotha, ngikudonsa, othandekayo wami. "
Umlotha osele usakazeka emoyeni.