Ukuzama ukuthonya ukuziphatha kwezingane zabo, esimweni sokucasuka noma ukwesaba, abantu abadala baya emazwini nasemishweni abazali babo abaye babatshela. Kodwa hhayi njalo lokho okushoyo kumntanakho kuzothinta ngokuziphatha kwakhe futhi kumsize ukuthi aqonde ukuthi yini ayiphutha ngayo. Ngezinye izikhathi, inkulumo engasho lutho kithi ingabangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwengqondo kwengane, inciphise ukuzethemba kwayo , futhi ibe nesisusa ekubunjweni kwezinkimbinkimbi.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze ugweme ukusetshenziswa kwemishwana engakwazi ukutshelwa ezinganeni, kulesi sihloko sizokwazi ukukhuluma ngamazwi avamile kakhulu.
1. Uyabona, awukwazi ukwenza lutho - ake ngiwenze ngokwami.
Ngamazwi anjalo, abazali batshela ingane yabo ukuthi abakholelwa kuye, ukuthi uyaduka futhi ingane ihluleka ukukholelwa kuye, iyazibheka njengeziqhakazile, ezingenangqondo, futhi ezingenelisekile. Ukuphindaphinda le nkulumo ngaso sonke isikhathi, uyamncenga ukuba enze into eyedwa, futhi uzokwenza konke okwenzela unina ukuthi akwenze lokho.
Esikhundleni sokumvimbela ekwenzeni okuthile noma ngokwenza yena ngokwakhe, abazali kufanele basizwe kuphela, kuchazwe futhi, kwenziwe naye, kodwa hhayi kuye.
2. Abafana (amantombazane) abaziphathe ngale ndlela!
Imishwana engapheli "Abafana abalili!", "Amantombazane kufanele aziphathe ngokuthula!" Khombisa ukuthi abantwana bavalelwe ngaphakathi kwabo, besaba ukubonisa imizwelo yabo, bafihle. Ungabeki umkhuba wokuziphatha okuqondile kwengane, kungcono ukukhombisa ukuthi uyamqonda futhi ufune usizo, khona-ke kuyoba lula ukuchaza imithetho yokuziphatha kuye.
3. Kungani ungafani ...?
Uma uqhathanisa ingane nabanye, ungathuthukisa kuye umqondo wokungaboni kahle, umcasule, umenze angabaze uthando lwakho. Ingane kufanele ikwazi ukuthi ayithandi ngoba idansa kahle, kodwa ngoba iyindodana noma indodakazi yabo. Ukuze wenze isifiso somphumela ongcono, umuntu angaqhathanisa kuphela nomphumela odlule wengane uqobo.
4. Ngizokubulala, ulahlekile, ngifisa sengathi ngikhipha isisu!
Inkulumo enjalo ayikwazi ukukhulunywa, ukuze ingane ingabi, ingabangela isifiso sayo "ukungabi khona."
5. Angikuthandi.
Leli gama elibi lingenza umbono wengane ukuthi awusadingeki, futhi lokhu kuyingozi enkulu yengqondo. Futhi ukusetshenziswa kokhetho "Uma ungalaleli, ngeke ngikuthande" kuholela ekuboneni uthando lwakho njengomvuzo wokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle, ngakho-ke izingane zivame ukuhamba ngokushesha kubazali bazo.
6. Ngeke udle iphariji, woza ... futhi uthathe wena!
Le nkulumo isivele isuselwe esilulumagama sethu, ukuthi ngisho ngezinye izikhathi abangabazi emgwaqweni batshela izingane zakhe, befuna ukuziqinisekisa. Kodwa akukho okuhle kuyo ngeke kusebenze: enganeni encane ukwakhiwa okwesaba okungaba yi-phobia yangempela, izinga lokukhathazeka likhuphuka, futhi lokhu kungabangela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa.
7. Ubi! Wena - uvilapha! Uhaha!
Ungalokothi ubeke ilebula kumntwana, noma ngabe wenze kabi. Uma usho njalo lokhu, ngokushesha uzokholelwa ukuthi ukhona futhi uzoqala ukuziphatha ngendlela efanele. Kuyafaneleka nakakhulu ukusho ukuthi "Uziphatha kabi (ohahayo)!", Khona-ke ingane izoqonda ukuthi inhle, nje ungayithandi.
8. Yenza noma yini oyifunayo, angikhathaleli.
Abazali kufanele banakekele izingane zabo futhi banentshisekelo ezindabeni zakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bazitasa kangakanani, kungenjalo bangengozini yokulahlekelwa ukuxhumana naye futhi ngeke eze kuwe ukwabelana noma yini. Futhi isibonelo esifanayo sokuziphatha siyokwakha kamuva nezingane zabo.
9. Kufanele wenze lokho engikushoyo, ngoba ngilapho lapha!
Izingane, kanye nabantu abadala, zidinga izincazelo ukuthi kungani kubalulekile ukwenza kanjalo, futhi kungenjalo. Uma kungenjalo, esimweni esifanayo, kepha uma ungekho, uzokwenza njengoba ethanda, hhayi ngendlela efanele.
10. Ngingakutshela kangaki! Awusoze wakwenza kahle!
Enye inkulumo ehlisa ukuzethemba komntwana. Kungcono ukusho ukuthi "Ukufunda emaphutheni!" Futhi msize aveze ukuthi wenze iphutha.
Kubantwana bakho bafuna ukwenza okuthile, qiniseka ukubonga ngokusizwa kwabo, ikakhulukazi abafana. Ingabe kunzima ukusho ukuthi "Ungumuntu ohle! Ngiyabonga! ", Futhi intombazane -" Uhlakaniphile! ". Uma udala imisho engxoxweni nezingane, sebenzisa kancane kancane izinhlayiyana "hhayi", ezingathathwa yizo. Isibonelo: esikhundleni sokuthi "Ungangcolile!" - "Qaphela!".
Gcina ithrekhi yemishwana oyisebenzisayo ekukhulumeni nezingane, bese uzofundisa abantu abazethembayo.