Emphakathini wanamuhla, ukuzalwa okuhlanganyelwe kanye nokuqeqeshwa kwabazali bobabili ngokuzalwa komntwana kuyaqhubeka ngokuqhubekayo. Lokhu akuyona nje imfashini yemfashini, kodwa inqubo engokwemvelo futhi edingekayo. Ngaki kaningi lapho kukhona khona lapho ingane iba yikhulu endlini futhi umama osemncane uyeka ukuqaphela umyeni wakhe, futhi ubaba omncane ngokwakhe uvikelekile ngokuphelele emndenini wakhe.
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Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi akekho insizwa engaba ngubaba othembekile futhi omuhle, uma lokhu kungavumelekile kuye. Uma owesifazane evumela ukungena emvelo futhi enqaba ukwamukela usizo ezihlotsheni zakhe ekunakekeleni ingane, lokhu kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi izwe elihlangene kanye lahlukaniswa laba yizikhulu ezimbili.
Ngakho owesifazane akufanele nje afune umyeni wakhe ukuba abe ubaba ofanelekayo, kodwa futhi kumsize abe njalo. Futhi, umsebenzi wokuqala nowokuqala womuntu wayehlale emthanda umkakhe futhi amnakekele. Umlingani othandekayo nomzwelo kuphela ongaba umama ogcwele.
Abanye abasha abasha benqabe ngokuphelele ukuthi bahlanganyele ekunakekeleni umntwana ngenxa yezizathu eziningana ezizwakalayo:
- lona wesifazane uthatha konke futhi uzama ukwamukela amandla (ukwenqaba usizo kungabonakala njengokuxoshwa empilweni yomndeni jikelele, ngenxa yenzondo nokungafuni ukusiza ezindabeni ezincane);
- ukungethembeki nokwesaba ukuthi oshade naye ngeke akwazi ukubhekana nalokhu noma lowo msebenzi (lokhu kuvame ukuhlazisa isithunzi sakhe futhi kubangele ukuthi izandla zakhe zishiye);
- ukugxeka njalo (ungalokothi uthole iphutha kumlingani wakho futhi umnike ithuba lokufunda ukunakekela ingane, kungenjalo uzolahlekelwa ngokuphelele isikhathi sakhe emva kwesikhathi).
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Uma owesifazane ekuqaleni enza konke okulungile, oshade naye ngeke azwe ubunzima obunzima futhi uzofunda ukusiza nengane ngaphandle kwezinkinga. Usizo lukababa wengane olufaka kakhulu ekuvumelaneni emndenini, akuyona nje imizuzu embalwa kumama, kodwa futhi nethuba lokumazi ingane. Imisebenzi yipapa omncane akuzona izinto eziningi kakhulu, kodwa kuzodingeka futhi bafunde ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani.
- Yiba nomqondo wamaphuzu aphambili ekunakekeleni ingane. Kwenzeka ukuthi umama kudingeka abe khona okwesikhashana noma ukuqhuma okukhulu ezindabeni zasekhaya akukwazi ukuhlehliswa. Umyeni kufanele akwazi ukunikeza isiphuzo kuphela noma ukupha ukudla okuncane. Ukuguqulwa kwe-diapter ekhanda noma ukushintsha izingubo, ukululaza isisu okulula, ukuvivinya umzimba okulula akufanele kube nzima kuye.
- Yazi kahle irekhodi lezokwelapha yengane yakho. Njengomthetho, uhambo lokuqala nomntwana emtholampilo lwenziwa ngumama nogogo. Ngenxa yalokho, abanye abapapa abazi ngisho neqembu legazi lezingane zabo noma bathola isisindo ezinyangeni eziyisithupha. Ekuphileni, izimo ezingalindelekile zenzeke futhi bobabili abazali kufanele baqaphele wonke amaphuzu abalulekile eshadini wezokwelapha yengane yabo (ukubekezelelana noma ukungenwa kwemithwalo yemithi ethile, izici ezingenakwenzeka zomzimba noma izifo).
- Ukusekela umkakhe ezinyangeni eziyisithupha zokuqala emva kokubeletha kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukukwenza. Abesifazane kaningi bahlushwa ukucindezeleka futhi baqala ukwehla kwabathandekayo babo. I-inferiority complex kanye nezinguquko ezithile ekubukeni ziyivivinyo kubo bobabili abazali. Ukushaya nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kubalulekile kakhulu.
Ngisho noma impilo ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwemvuthuluka yayiyibhizinisi lebesifazane kuphela, manje oshade naye kuzodingeka athathe ezinye zebhizinisi. Akekho ocela ukuguqulwa okugcwele komkakhe ekhishini noma ukuhlanza ngokujwayelekile nsuku zonke. Kodwa ukugula nokugula ebusuku kubalulekile, kanti owesifazane udinga usizo. - Abesilisa bangaba nengxenye yokuhamba nomntwana, lapho edla futhi ephule, ukuchitha isikhathi okuhlangene emoyeni kuzozuzisa bobabili.
Vumelana ukuthi izidingo azizona ezinzima kakhulu. Kwanele ukuxoxa ngalokhu nomyeni ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane bese uyilungiselela. Khona-ke oshade naye uzoyithatha kalula futhi ngaphandle kokukhohlisa izoqala ukuthatha ingxenye ekhuthele ekushintsheni izindiza nokugeza ama-sliders.