Ngeshwa, kodwa amadoda amaningi ahloniphekile, athi ngomusa, asuswe. Yingakho abesifazane besaba ukuthi ingxenye yabo yesibili ngelinye ilanga bafuna "ukuya ngakwesobunxele," futhi bafuna izindlela ezizosiza ukuvimbela lokhu. Uma ungasazi ukuthi wenzeni, ukuze umyeni wakho angashintshi, sebenzisa izinyathelo zomlando, okwakudala ukuthi ziphumelele. Kunezinqubo eziningi ezihlukene ezisebenza phambi kokholo emphumela omuhle nokugcina isakramente.
Umlutha ukuze umyeni wami angashintshi
Ukuze ungakhathazeki ngokulibaziseka komuntu othandekayo emsebenzini futhi ungazihlushwa ngokungabaza okungenalutho, ungabamba umkhosi olula. Ukwenza lokhu, udinga ukukhuluma ngesiphuzo sakho ozithandayo, isibonelo, itiye noma ikhofi. Phinda umkhuba ekuqaleni, phakathi naphakathi kwenyanga. Esikhathini sokuphuza kudingeka ufunde isakhiwo esinjalo, ukuze indoda ingashintshi:
"Umninikhaya angayishintsha kanjani indlu yakhe, ubulili bakhe, udonga lwakhe, noma yinoma yisiphi isigqila - ngobuhle, noma nge-pockmarked - othandekayo wami ngeke ashintshe mina, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama). Amen. "
Ngenyanga uzobona ushintsho olukhulu ekuphatheni komyeni wakhe.
Isiko ngamakhandlela esonto
Uma owesifazane ejwayele ukucabanga ngalokho okufanele akwenze ukuze umyeni wakhe angashintshi, khona-ke angasebenzisa icebo elilula. Ukwenza umkhuba, udinga ukulungisa amakhandlela amabili esonto elibuthakathaka nezinwele zomlingani wakho. Yenziwa ngenyanga egcwele. Ngokuqondile phakathi kwamabili ukukhanyisa amakhandlela futhi ufunde isigamu sesiqephu phezu kwekhandlela elilodwa, ukubeka izinwele zakho othandekayo bese uziqeda. Ingxenye yesibili yesipelingi kumele ifundwe ngaphezu kwekhandlela lesibili bese iyishiya ukuze ishise ngokuphelele. Isakhiwo sizwakala kanje:
"Akuyona inyanga ezayo, hhayi inyanga ehamba, kodwa inyanga ecacile futhi egcwele, ibe yimi izinceku zikaNkulunkulu (igama lakho) ufakazi nomsizi wenhloso yami! Njengoba ilangabi liyashisa futhi lishesha, kulula ukushisa izinwele, ngakho-ke masinyane masinyane enhliziyweni yenceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomlingani) ashise ubufebe nokukhanga! Masilahleke futhi alangazelela kuphela ikhaya lakhe, nomfazi wakhe osemthethweni, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lakho)! Vumela umlilo uvutha futhi umenzele yonke imicabango engcolile, yebo izifiso ziwubuhlungu! Njengoba ikhandlela elihlanzekile licibilika, ngelangabi elicacile, mlilo makungathuli, ngakho-ke ake inhliziyo yami inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomlingani) kimi kuphela, ngoba umkakhe othandekayo uyancibilika! Vumela nje ngikuthande, ngifise, ngithande futhi ngithande! Ukuthi wangithanda ngothando nangokwenyama nangokomoya, ngakho wahlala nami kuphela othandweni nokuthembeka! Manje naphakade naphakade naphakade. Amen! "
Ikhandlela lokuqala, elingashiswa, kubalulekile ukufaka esontweni ukuphumula komhlobo oshonile womyeni.
Umlenze ukuze umyeni wami angashintshi ohambweni lwebhizinisi
Ukuze ugcine othandekayo wakho othandekayo ungenza isikhwama. Ukuze uthole umkhuba, kudingeka ulungiselele amasongo amabili, isitsha esimhlophe, amanzi angcwele, ikhandlela lesonto , izintambo ezivela kuso nezingubo zakho, kanye nengubo eluhlaza. Ngokuba amasongo okudingeka uhambe ngenyanga ekhulayo. Thenga izinto zokugqoka ezijwayelekile, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzinikela. Uma ufika ekhaya, khanyisa ikhandlela etafuleni
"Ngikubiza (shaza igama lakho). Amen. "
Khona-ke, cwilisa indandatho yesibili, ngamazwi:
"Ngikubiza ngokuthi u-Anatoly (lapha utshele igama lomyeni wakhe). Amen. "
Thatha intambo ezigqoke izingubo, uwaphambane phakathi kwabo, bese ubopha amasongo ndawonye. Emva kwalokho, funda isakhiwo kasikhombisa:
"Njengalezi izindandatho ndawonye, kanjalo inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomyeni) ngesigqila sikaNkulunkulu (igama lakho) lizoba ndawonye. Kwangathi kungabi nentukuthelo, noma ukuphikisana, nezingxoxo ezikhohlisayo, noma ukugula, noma abantu ababi, noma ababi. Njengoba esho, kanjalo kuyoba iminyaka eminingi nezikhathi ezingunaphakade. Amen. "
Izindonga zimboze ngendwangu bese zigcina endaweni eyimfihlo.