Ngobuciko bendabuko, ungathola imilolotelo engenakubalwa, i-chastushki, amazwi kanye nezingoma ngokuhlonipha umdlalo wokufanisa. Yiqiniso, umkhuba wokwenza umdlalo kufanele ube mnandi, ucebile futhi uhle-umvelo, ngisho nangemva kwalokho, abazali bomlobokazi bese efaka ithanga lamapulangwe.
Ezinsukwini zakudala, mhlawumbe isisindo esiyinhloko salo lonke uhlelo lwama-dowry - amathumbu nemisebenzi yezandla zomlobokazi, ingcebo eyatholakala ngubaba, izitsha, imidwebo, ifenisha nakho konke. Kwakungenxa yodola ukuthi imindeni yomkhwenyana nomlingani wakhe abacabanga ngayo, lapho isihloko sithinteka khona, ukuthi umcimbi womshado uzoba kanjani. Ngemuva kokuphatha okuningi ukuthola "izimpahla", okukhulu kuyoba umholo wabo olandelayo.
Umkhosi wanamuhla womshado, lapho isihloko somsinga womlobokazi singathinteki, ungagxila emahlaya, amakhosi kanye namakhono okwenza ukusebenzisana nokwehlisa inani lentengo yokungena komakoti.
Imininingwane
Mhlawumbe, ukulungiswa kakhudlwana komkhosi wokudlala umdlalo kuqhutshwa umkhwenyana. Umkhwenyana, abakwa-matchmakers, nabazali bomyeni kumele bafike endlini yomakoti. Ngabo, kufanele balethe izipho, kanye nesinkwa nosawoti ngokusho komkhuba omdala.
Yonke into iqala ngemibuzo engaqondile futhi idumisa umkhwenyana nge-matchmaking. Bese bephendukela emibuthanweni mayelana nomakoti: "Ingabe kuhle?", "Ingabe kuyomnotho?", "Smart, ubuhle, uthobekile?"
Esikhathini somlobokazi, imikhosi ye-matchmaking, ngokuyisisekelo, kusho ukudumisa "izimpahla", okungukuthi, izishadikazi. Abazali noma abadlali bokufanisa kumele babonise ukuthi kuthebula elicebile, konke okwesimnandi kakhulu kuyilungiselele. Kudingeka sibonise ukuthi uhlanganisa, ubopha, ukhula, udonsela, njll.
Konke lokhu, umakoti uhlala ngokuthula egumbini lakhe, futhi, nakanjani, angcono kakhulu. Ukufanisa umakoti ugqoke kakhulu kunazo zonke izindleko, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele abheke ngokungcolile. Ezikhathini zesikhathi esidala kwenzeka ukuthi wonke umlingani nomkhwenyana babengakwazi ukubamba izandla ngisho, bebengakwazi ukuhlala eduze komunye nomunye. Yini esingayisho mayelana nokubamba ngokuhlanganyela kokuhlwa kusihlwa.
Lapho abazali bebiza umakoti etafuleni, kusho ukuthi abaphathi bekhanda bacela ukukhombisa "izimpahla". Manje abalingani bomlingani bomkhwenyana kumele babuze imibuzo enzima ngalokho umakoti akwenzayo ngendlu, ukuthi uhlala kanjani nokuthi yini ayithandayo. Bona, ukugcwalisa intengo, bangamcela ukuba enze isidlo sangasese kusuka ezindleleni ezingalungile, ugeze phansi, ubeke ikhekhe i- pie , uyibeke etafuleni. Futhi maye kulowo mlobokazi ongazange abhekane nezicelo zabadlali bokudlala!
Mhlawumbe into enhle kunazo zonke emdlalweni wesimanje wamanje, ukuthi, ngokulingisa kakhulu amasiko endulo, umkhwenyana, umakoti nemindeni yabo bayazi ukuthi konke lokhu kungamahlaya-ukudansa, futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikhekhe lomakoti liyoshiswa kanjani, ithanga ngeke lifike iphuzu .