Ukuthatha noma ukungathathi umbuzo. Njalo umama wesibili, ingane yakhe ecela ukuphatha, ibhekene nayo nsuku zonke. Futhi kuhle uma ngabe intombazanyana encane, obesimweni kufanele agibele ezandleni zakhe, ngoba akakwazi ukuhamba ngokuzimela futhi unina uyamdinga ngokufudumele. Omunye umbuzo, uma isicelo esifanayo sinomsindo wesine oneminyaka emine ubudala, isisindo sakho asikwazi ukusekelwa yiwo wonke umama. Pho-ke, ungayilula kanjani ingane yakho ezandleni zakho? Sizozama ukuphendula lo mbuzo namuhla.
Ingane icela izandla zakhe - siyini isizathu?
Uma ubheka ukuthi ingane ingane engu-3-4 icela kanjani ukuthi ibe sezingalo zakhe, abadlula-bayo bayohlala becabanga ukuthi ingane iphangiwe. Ingabe lokhu kunjalo ngempela? Odokotela bezingane, odokotela kanye nabanye abaqeqeshiwe abanolwazi ngokuqiniseka ngezilonda nokushisa, eqinisweni, abaqondi lutho kunengqondo yengane. Abazi ukuthi kukhona into enjalo njengokuxhumana komama nomama, ukuxhumana ngokomzimba nokuthuthukiswa okuhambelana ngokuthinta umama. Okufunwa ngumntwana ezandleni zakhe, kunezizathu eziningana. Futhi kudingeka bahlelwe kanje:
- Lapho ingane isenesikhathi sokuzalwa, omama abaningi basheshe bacabange ukuthi bangasondeza kanjani umntwana osanda kuzalwa. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi umntwana wabo, ngenxa yobudala bakhe, akakwazi ukuhamba ngokuzimela futhi aqaphele izwe, ngesizathu esithile, bambalwa abantu abanentshisekelo. Ukubheka kuphela ephahleni nasezinhlangothini, ingane ayiyikuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha kwayo. Okuthakazelisa kakhulu ukuhlala kumama ukubuka izindonga, amakabati kanye nezinye izinto. Ngakho-ke, njalo lapho ingane icela izinyanga eziyisithupha ezandleni zayo, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kuye kuyindlela kuphela yokuthuthukisa nokutadisha umhlaba.
- Enye iphuzu elibalulekile, kulabo abahlukunyezwa ngumbuzo wokuthi ingane itholakale kanjani, kuyinduduzo yengane yokuxhumana nomama wayo. Ngokwemvelo, lapho ingane ihlezi kahle, udinga ukudlala naye, imfundise ukukhamba kanye nokuzivocavoca naye. Kodwa uma ecela izandla zakhe - ungafuni. Khumbula ukuthi isidingo sokuxhumana komzimba nomama wengane, okokuqala, isiqinisekiso sokuvikeleka nokuthula, okubalulekile njengesidingo sokudla.
- Ngaphambi kokuba wenqabe ingane egibele ezandleni, qiniseka ukuthi ayikhathazi. Futhi uma uvame ukushiya umntwana ekhala emkhunjini aze alele ebuthakathaka obuphelele, okungenani hlola ukuthi unezizathu ezizwakalayo zokukhala.
- Kuze kube yiminyaka emine, abazali abaningi babhekene nenkinga lapho ingane ilala njalo ezandleni zakhe. Kulapha futhi mayelana nenduduzo yengqondo nokuzwa ukuvikelwa ngaphambi kokulala. Ukuze uncelise ingane kule sifundo, zama ukucabanga ngenqubo lapho ingane ilala khona eyedwa, futhi ungamhlabelela i-lullaby noma uyifinyelele emaminithini ambalwa ukuzola futhi ubonise ukuthi ukhona, umthande futhi ungafuni ukumshiya.
Ukwazi izizathu ezenza izingane zicele ezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu, abaningi bazoshiya umqondo wokukhipha ingane yabo ezandleni zabo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izingane zikhulile futhi maduzane amakhono okulahlwa okufundwayo azodingeka.
Ungancika kanjani ezandleni zomntwana omdala kunonyaka nengxenye?
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sokuhambisa isenzo somhlaba wonke, khumbula ukuthi izizathu zokuthi kungani ungafuni ukuthwala umntwana ezandleni zakho kufanele ziphikisana ngokuqinile. Lokhu akubandakanyi ukukhathala noma "ngoba kulula ukwenza izinto zabo siqu." Phambili futhi unqume ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Uma usulungile, lalela amathiphu alandelayo:
- Uma ingane yakho isetshenziselwa ukucela noma yini ezandleni zayo, kufanele uqale ukumfundisa indlela yokuphila ngokuzimela. Ngenxa yalokhu ungakwazi ukuzibheka, uphinde uthathe indawo. Ukuqhaqhazela nje kuyoba ngezinga elifanayo njengengane, bese-ke uzokwazi ukuzwa ukushisa kwakho;
- Uma isimo "sokuphatha" sitholakala emgwaqweni, funda ukuphazamisa ingane nezinye izinto ezithakazelisayo. Kungaba ithoyizi elisha elondolozwe kusengaphambili, umalume othakazelisayo odlula, njll. Ukuhamba okuphazamisayo akusebenzi ngokushesha, kodwa kancane kancane uzobona ukuthi ukushintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi kuyindlela enhle yokugcina amandla akho nemivimbo yakho wena nomntanakho;
- ukuthi ekhaya ingane ayifuni ezandleni zakho, futhi ungathula ibhizinisi lakho ngokuzithoba, wethule umntwana ezweni elikuzungezile. Amathoyizi omculo, izinto zasendlini, ukuthuthukisa imithi neminye imininingwane
ingaphakathi ngeke likukhulule kuphela indima "yamakolishi", kodwa futhi ibe yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuthuthukisa ukuzimela emntwaneni; - Ungakufuni ukuxhumana nomndeni nabangane. Woza nomntwana ukuvakashela, umeme abangani kuye. Uma ingane ibona abantu abazungezile, kaningi uyokucela ezandleni zakhe ukuzivikela.
Noma ngabe iyiphi indlela oyikhethayo, khumbula ukuthi akufanele akalimaze ingqondo yengane. Ukuphazamisa ingane ukuba igibele ekuphatheni kancane kancane futhi ngokucophelela. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - njalo unake ingane yakho nenkinga yakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi esikhundleni sezandla, kungukuba khona kwakho kuphela okwanele.