Ngokufanayo, uhlobo lobuhlobo bomzali wengane luthonywe amasiko athathwa emndenini, kanye nesitayela sokukhuliswa. Sizozama ukuqonda le nkinga ngokuningiliziwe.
Izinhlobo zobudlelwano bomzali wengane
Kukhona izinhlobo ezimbalwa zobuhlobo ezingaba khona phakathi kwabazali nezingane ezineminyaka ehlukene. Noma kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zengqondo zisebenzisa isigaba se-Diana Bombrind, esichaza kuphela izitayela ezine kuphela zobudlelwane bomzali wengane, ngasinye esinezici zayo ezikhethekile:
- Isitayela sokugunyaza sithandwa kakhulu, ngoba izingane ezikhuliswe emindenini enezihlobo zokuziphatha kwabazali zivumelane kalula kalula, zifunde kahle, zikwazi ukuzihlonipha ngokwanele futhi zivame ukufeza izinyathelo ezibonakalayo. Kulesi simo, umndeni unezinga eliphakeme lokulawulwa kwabazali, okuyinto, noma kunjalo, elihlotshaniswa nesimo sengqondo esifudumele nesobungane esizukulwaneni esincane. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, izingane ziqaphela ngokukhawuleza imingcele kanye nezinqatshelwe ezenzelwe futhi zingacabangi izenzo zabo zabazali ngokungalungile.
- Isitayela sokugunyaza sibonakala ngezinga elingavamile lokulawulwa kwabazali kanye nesimo sengqondo esibanda kakhulu somama nobaba kumntwana. Kulesi simo, abazali abavumeli ukuxoxisana noma ukukhanselwa kwezidingo zabo, bangavumeli izingane zizinqumele zodwa futhi iningi lamacala azuze ukuxhomeka ngokuphelele kwenzalo ngokombono wabo. Izingane ezikhuliswa emindenini enjalo, ngokuvamile zikhula zikhulumisana, zithandeka futhi zihlukumeze. Ngalolu hlobo lobuhlobo bomzali wengane ekukhuleni, kaningi izinkinga ezinkulu zivela ngenxa yokuthi ingane ihlukanisiwe ngokuphelele kubantu abadala, iba engalawuleki futhi ivame ukungena ezimweni ezingathandeki.
- Isitayela seLiberal sihluke kwezinye izinhlobo zokukhulumisana phakathi kwabazali nezingane ezinesimo sengqondo esivumelana nesibindi futhi uthando olungenamthetho. Nakuba lokhu kubonakala sengathi akubi, empeleni, kulesi simo, kuvame ukuvela ukuvumela, okuholela ekuthambekeni ngokweqile nokuziphatha okunganele kwezingane.
- Ekugcineni, isitayela esingenandaba nezingane zomzali wengane sibonakala ukungabi nokulawula okuphelele nokukhathalela impilo yomntwana evela kubazali. Ngokuvamile lokho kwenzeka emindenini lapho umama nobaba behileleka kakhulu emsebenzini futhi abakwazi ukuthola isikhathi senzalo yabo.
Yiqiniso, bonke abazali banikela okuthandayo ngesitayela semfundo esiseduze nabo. Okwamanje, ukuze ubuhlobo bomzali bomntwana bungathembeke ngempela, ngisho nasezikoleni zasenkulisa, kuyadingeka ukuzikhethela ngokwanele izinga lokulawulwa kwabazali futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuba ungakhohlwa isidingo sokukhuthaza nokudumisa ingane, futhi njalo umbonise uthando lwakhe. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo umntwana uzozizwa edingekile, ngenxa yokuthi uzoba nesimo sengqondo esifanele ngabazali nezinye izihlobo eziseduze.