Wonke umama osemncane, lapho eqala ukuthatha indodana yakhe esanda kuzalwa ezandleni zakhe, uyaqiniseka ukuthi uzoletha indoda yangempela, umlindi, umkhono wamanje, ozobhekana nemisebenzi yinkimbinkimbi ngaphandle kokubuka emuva, anqobe izintaba ezintsha futhi ajabulele bonke abesifazane . Kodwa ingabe le ndlela ingacatshangwa ilungile? Yini ezweni lanamuhla ukuthi umqondo we "gentleman" uhlanganisa?
Uma kulesikhathi samaRussia igama elithi "umnumzane" lalibhekwa njengendodana ehloniphekile, namuhla babizwa ngokuthi bafundisiwe, amadoda angamaqhawe anesizotha, ahloniphe abantu abakuzungezile.
Indima kayise emfundweni yomnumzane
Bobabili umama nobaba kufanele baqaphele ukuthi noma iyiphi indlela eqinile yokukhulisa inganciphisa umqondo womhlaba ngomfana, kuthinte kabi ubuhlobo bakhe besikhathi esizayo nobulili obuhlukile. Uma sekuyiminyaka embalwa yokuqala yokuphila, ngokuqinisekile uzobambelela esikhwameni sikanina, bese ekugcineni efunda ukuzimela. Akudingekile ukuthi umfana aphazamise lokhu. Isigaba ngasinye sentuthuko sinenani elikhulu, ngoba liguqula ingane ibe yindoda.
Ngesikhathi abaneminyaka emihlanu noma eyisithupha, abafana baye babonisa isifiso sokuxhumana namalungu obulili babo. Futhi lapha ubaba uya phambili. Imishini nemishini ehlukahlukene, abaklami, ukulungiswa kwebhayisikili noma imoto yokudlala, ukudoba - lezi yizinto ezithandayo. Futhi ubaba - umsizi omkhulu, umngane, umlingani. Abafana bayaqiniseka ukuthi imisebenzi enjalo yamantombazane (futhi umama, phakathi kwabanye) angaphezu kwamandla. Ukunakekelwa ngubaba, ukubamba iqhaza nokukhathalela kwakhe kuveza umqondo womfana wekhanda lomndeni. Ngisho noma ingane ikhula emndenini ongaphelele, idinga igunya lomuntu. Ngalesi sigaba singakwazi ukubhekana naso nobabakazi, nobaba wesilisa, nothisha, ngisho nomzalwane omdala.
Kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi umnumzane wangempela akanalo ilungelo lokubonisa imizwa yethenda. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukunakekelwa nokuphathwa ngothando nobulili obuhlukile, ukunakekelwa, izipho kanye nezithiyo ezimnandi - lokhu kuhlale kuyiqiniso! Futhi isibonelo esihle kunazo zonke isimo sengqondo sopapa kumama, ugogo, odadewabo.
Imithetho yemfundo yomnumzane
Ingane ngayinye ingumuntu onobumnene, umlingiswa, uhlobo lokuziphatha, ngakho-ke angeke kube nemithetho ejwayelekile yemfundo. Nokho, imithetho ejwayelekile ikhona.
- Isibopho . Kusukela ebuntwaneni, i-kid kumele inomuzwa wokuthi unelungelo lokuzikhethela. Abazali kufanele bathembele ingane, futhi kufanele aqaphele ukuthi noma yisiphi isinqumo sakhe siqu sihlanganisa umthwalo wemfanelo, ngisho nephutha. Ngempela, funda emaphutheni.
- Ukuzimela . Ngisho nasebusheni, umfana angathembeka ukwenza imisebenzi eyisiqalo ngemibono yakho (ukuqoqa amathoyizi, ohlanzekile emanzini, izilwane ezifuywayo). Yonke impumelelo yomnumzane omncane izomgqugquzela emiphakathini emisha, eyimpumelelo enkulu.
- Hlonipha abanye . Ngisho nomunye oneminyaka eyisithupha ubudala -
lo ngumuntu omncane. Mfundise ukuhambisa ezokuthutha zomphakathi kwabesifazane banoma yisiphi isikhathi, thola abamakhelwane, basize wonke umuntu ngendlela enokwenzeka. Ubani oyidinga. - Nobility . Ukufundisa le mfanelo kumfana kungaba nomama ngokoqobo kusukela ebusweni! Vumela omncani ukuthi asize ukuletha isikhwama ebhodleleni lobisi, hangisa ingubo yomama, uyifake. Ukuzwa indumiso, ingane enentshiseko iyozama ukusiza bobabili abathandekayo nabangamazi. Ngemva kwesikhashana lokhu kuziphatha kuyoba yinto evamile.
Futhi khumbula: yimaphi amazwi amakhulu ongawutshelanga indodana yakho, umnumzane wangempela, angaba kuphela uma ehaqwe abantu abakha kahle nabahloniphekile!