Abanye omama bakhathele kakhulu, lapho izingane zabo zingaphumeleli emgwaqeni, kodwa zikhetha ukuhlala ekhaya naye futhi zidlale ngokuthula ngamathoyizi abo noma zibukele i-TV. Kodwa uma befika ebaleni lokudlala ngenani elikhulu lezingane, bazama ukugwema ukuxhumana nabo futhi bavele baxhumane nonina, befuna ukuvikelwa esixukwini sezingane. Ukwehlukana okunjalo nokungafuni ukuxhumana nabanye abantu kubizwa ngokuthi akuyona ukuxhumana futhi kuyisibonakaliso sezinkinga ekuthuthukiseni ingane noma ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo.
Ukuxazulula le nkinga, okokuqala kudingeka uthole isizathu, ngoba kungenzeka kube neziningana:
- isici sohlamvu;
- isimo esingokomzimba esingokomzimba emndenini (ukuphuza ngokweqile kwabazali, ukwehlukaniswa komndeni, ukungqubuzana emfundweni phakathi kwamalungu omndeni);
- ukuzwa okuphansi lapho kukhona ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba noma kwenkulumo;
- ukungazinzwa - ukwesaba kwengane ebusweni;
- ukungabi neluthando nokunakekelwa, izidingo ezengeziwe zabazali;
- ukungabi nalwazi lokuxhumana;
- izifo ze-neuropsychic ezifana nesithuthwane, i-schizophrenia, i- autism esemncane ;
- ukwakheka kokuthembela kwengane kubazali, ukwesatshwa ngabantu abangabazi.
Ngakho-ke, uma uqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho igwema abanye abantu, kufanele ufunde ocwaningweni: ochwepheshe bezinkulumo, isazi sezengqondo noma isazi sezinqondo. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi konke kuhambisane nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane, abazali, ngokuthola isizathu sokungaxhumani, bangamsiza ukuba afunde ukusungula othintana naye futhi abe umngane.
Ungasiza kanjani ingane engathintana naye?
- ukwandisa owakho kanye nombuthano wezenhlalakahle wezingane;
- vakashela izindawo ezintsha (kungcono ukuqala nabantu abambalwa);
- ngokuvamile udumise ingane ngokuphumelela, ikakhulukazi kumuntu;
- ukudala izimo zokuphumelela: kuqala unikeze umsebenzi olula futhi emva kokupheleliswa kwayo ngempumelelo, kunika, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu, qiniseka ukusekela ekuqaleni;
- cindezela ingane ukuba ijwayele, ukuqala ukumtshela othile, kungcono ukuya emvelweni nomndeni lapho kunezingane ezineminyaka efanayo neyakho;
- ukwandisa inani labangane bomntwana kancane kancane: ekuqaleni kuyoba khona futhi 2-3;
- fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi idlale: mchaze imithetho yemidlalo yokuqala yeqembu, udlale naye, ukuze ingane iqiniseke yona ngokwayo;
- uhlele umdlalo egcekeni (njalo nemithetho eyaziwa kakhulu kumntanakho) nabo bonke abantwana, okokuqala okokuhlanganyela kwakho emdlalweni kuyimpoqo, ngosuku olulandelayo usuvele ube ngumlindi futhi ulawule umdlalo ohlangothini;
- ukuthuthukisa lezo zenzo lapho ingane yakho iphumelele (ukudweba, ukugibela ibhayisikili, ukugijima, ukudlala ibhola);
- thola abalandeli bezinto zokuzilibazisa, isibonelo: bhalisela umbuthano;
- esiteji sokuqala ungashiyi ingane yedwa neontanga: mvikele futhi umsize ngokucophelela, unobtrusively;
- umeme izingane ukuba zivakashele, zihlele ukuzijabulisa, imidlalo nokuphatha, lapho ingane izozizwa zingenakuvinjelwa, ungaqala ukuhamba uvakashele;
- lawula ubuhlobo emndenini, lokhu kungenziwa ngokuxhumana nomqondo wezengqondo zomndeni;
- hlela ukuxhumana nabantwana abaneminyaka ehlukene.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, kwenze konke kancane kancane, ubukele ngokucophelela isimo somzwelo somntanakho, futhi ekuboniseni kokuqala kokungahambi kahle, yima.
Ekuqaleni uqala ukuxazulula inkinga yokungathintana, kuzoba lula kuwe nakumntanakho. Kodwa isimo esibalulekile sokuxazulula impumelelo ngukudalwa emndenini womkhathi wothando, inhlonipho, ukuqonda nokwamukelwa kwezingane njengoba kunjalo.